Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

I think she is Zany I think she may end up knocking DD from 'I'm the boss' position.

I wonder how long I should stay hidden? It's a shame that my fab new profile is going to waste. Will he be able to see me at all now I have blocked him? I don't know how this works really.

NOt sure if he can see you or not but I would put your new profile back up. At least if he is blocked then he can't contact you again.

time that's good news re Lulu :) and I second putting your profile back up asap - he will still be able to see you but he definitely can't message you.

getting a bit doubtful about friday. spoke to one of my RL friends about it, and she has concerns that his texts are a bit forward. Am sitting on the fence for now...

Thanks ladies I've unhidden my profile, safe in the knowledge he will be unable to contact me.

What is it with men sponge, I'm not really a prude but that kind of talk would put me right off, it's ok when further down the line and in a relationship of sorts but so early on? Noooooo! I'm not surprised you feel uneasy. It does seem your Tosser Radar is working well too

Hatesponge I agree with Time. I like naughtiness further down the line but v early on it unsettles me rather.

Time :o Lulu sounds so lovely. She's doing well exploring and all that already, only my rescue kitten did that the other two hid for a couple of hours before getting curious :o

And yes VERY well done with twat radar. Spotted and eliminated.

Time I'm pleased Lulu is doing so well.

Time & Sponge I'm with you, there is a fine line between flirting and looking like they are out for a cheap shag. I get uncomfortable very quickly, especially if we have not even met yet.

It is great that we can all help each other through the quagmire of internet dating, Tosser Radars at the ready.

Sex talk before I've met them would pee me off and I wouldn't meet them tbh.

I only realised the other night at the neigbours how POF works. When you are online it has a green spot and your user name running across the message tab, for everyone in your inbox to see even if you've ignorned them. Was a bit annoyed when I realised this. No wonder the same tossers message you over and over.

Well although I got a text earlier from my skating date he hasn't mentioned times etc and I really can't be bothered. I won't cancel as it would annoy me if someone did that at this late stage but I'm not excited or anything although I was when he asked me to meet up

A little flirting is good but I always think I would feel pretty silly if I text flirted and then met up and didn't fancy them

I sent a message last night to a guy who looks presentable and sounds nice. He does live quite away from me. I got a reply . He said in answer to my question as the whether he was having fun. Not really and he doesn't feel it's for him. He put it like what if you meet and get on 'then what' which I can understand where he is coming from. Told him to ask for my contact details before he deletes his profile. I'd be happy to have an online thing for a while.

Might be meeting another local one next week. His photo is a bit grainy for which he apologised so gave me his mobile no. Will ask for a new pic when I text him.

Might be going to the big city this weekend to meet up with a mate I haven't seen for years as a mutual friend who is in the country, we all met in the Southern Hemisphere 20 odd yrs ago. I will be like seeing a ghost meeting up with mutual friend.

Sounds like a couple of potentials Adams, what does he mean though by 'if yuo meet and get on then what'? Surely you would just arrange a second date then

Afternoon folks :)

Time - That guy with the highly dubious life...well that says it all. A problem with authority would mean a delete for me too. I dont really have an issue with people that may challenge authority with a valid reason, after all if not we would be a load of sheep, but he is saying it to be 'cool' and so is probably just a knob

Adam - sometimes you just have to go with the flow. You are probably aware that I am in a VLDR and if I got tied up in the but what then's I probably wouldnt be in one. Cross bridges when they arrive, if they arrive.

Sex talk with me only happens if I have actually slept with someone and in all honesty even then its not really something I do (as in by text/phone). It would certainly put me off if someone on the likes of POF was firing off dirty mails/text before even a first date. Even then some. And I am no prude!

Hi zany... we're meeting on Thursday... beach if it's nice weather and a nearby pub if it's not. The forecast is for a late shower. :-(

I was just wondering where watch has got to too stay. Agree re the problem with authority bit That Man's profile, that struck me straight away. I do feel I had a lucky escape there!

I agree wriggly it is great that we have each other to help us sort the wheat from the chaff.

Picking up on something adamschic mentioned in her post, how soon would you give out your mobile number or move from online chat to texting. I get offered mobile numbers quite early on but I never take them. I think I would only give my number to someone I was planning on meeting. Is that me being soft again? I really am trying to embrace change here you know so am open to suggestions and advice in all areas that are dating

Sorry to be a bore with the cat talk but she is doing cuddles now!! She is purring away and seems so content. She keeps going for a wander round, casing the joint . I think we have picked a good one!

Pssst! Cat photo's on FB!

I don't always make a note of mobile nos. even met people without exchanging nos. then didn't bother due to the no spark thing. I would usually take a no. if offered and if meeting. Also when I get sick of logging on to the site. I think I understood what he meant. If you both have full lives in different areas and perhaps he hasn't met anyone he really likes enough to contemplate long term with from POF. I know I haven't and my home life is such that being carefree at mine isn't an option (17 yr old DD).

I couldn't let someone stay over, not even in the spare room. Alot of men wouldn't feel comfortable with DD in the house and I wouldn't want to bring a strange person in even if we've met a few times, he is still a stranger.

Poppa, beach [hjealous].

Cat sounds lovely Time.

time... cool looking moggie! She picked her new ownees well! :)

to the group... I blame you all! I'm meeting her Thursday night as stated earlier, and there has been no suggestion of her coming here... however I've changed my bedding, wiped down all my kitchen surfaces, cleaned the loo and mopped all the floors with suitably smelly eucalyptus disinfectant with a brand new squeeze mop! Next thing I'll be dusting and vaccuuming! I blame you all!

Oooh adamschic I hope you don't think I was judging or anything, I wasn't. I'm just a bit rubbish at all this and was wondering if I'm being a bit too precious by not exchanging numbers when asked. Because I know I can be

Poppa, I'm with adamschic in being jealous of the beach. I hope your meet up goes well

Cat is lovely adamschic She has just done her first poo, perfect!

Haha poppa, welcome to the world of OCD house cleaning! Hope it all goes well!

Time - the universal dating rule. Only do when you feel comfortable. Don't give out your no to anyone you aren't sure about. Regardless of his many dates etc. that's what I would do anyways :)

Don't forget to have a bath and wax that bikini line too PoppaRob

Thank you re cat comments!

Thanks stay It does take me a while to feel comfortable so 'whoever' may be waiting a while for my number! It took me over a year to give it to Mr Drip and even then I only shared it a couple of days before The Date.

Hi

Update me people :)
Ive not been about for a few days. Went to the o2 sunday for disney on ice and had a lovely, lovely day. Then ive had a few days off work for half term. yesterday we had lunch with my dad then went to the park in the afternoon. Today we have been to the cinema to see dolphin tale ( its such a nice film) and then been up to the castle for a picnic and a spooky trail. I do like being off work and doing nice things, its such a shame to have to go back tomorrow. DDs at her dads from thur pm too and i dont want ther to go :(
Also the ex husband was being a dick of the highest order yesterday so i didnt feel in the mood to come on and post.

Anyway - hope you are all ok, and if someone could do a quick update?

Ive a coffee date for saturday. With a ginger haired man. Who plays in a band. Ive been asked out by two others whom ive been chatting with for a while but i cannot be bothered. Ive cancelled AD's date because of the money it would cost.
S texted me sunday saying sorry that he had re read what he had sent and he had been joking but can see that i didnt realise that. and asked how i was. I replied this morning but have not had a reply. Which id good as i dont want to see him again.

Watch, sounds like you are having fun with the DC's. I miss all that sort of stuff now mine isn't little. Our trips out are uni visits, shopping and won't be long till she can come to the pub with me .

Stay, I have to find you from mutual friends lists. You didn't pop up in a general search.

[hgrin] re Poppa and the bikini wax. Although a trim and edge can be appreciated. Hey but no s--g on the first date mind!

Don't forget to wear big pants Poppa in case your tempted but have given yourself a no shagging rule

Well I still haven't heard from tonights roller date about timings, CBA even more now

Well I think you have right to assume the date is off now zany, it's leaving it a bit late for him not to have contacted you by now.

Do you find that as the nights draw in and become cooler it is CBA season? I love closing my curtains and getting my PJ's on more than I love getting dressed up to go out. Or it could just be me

ooooo - I love cat talk :) I have 2 spotted monsters

Cute (but very young) guy I met last week popped in to say hi tonight as he was visiting my neighbours. He is really sweet. Sadly I have exams so was wearing oldest, nastiest (but comfiest clothes that should have been binned years ago ) , hadn't washed hair for 4 days and had knickers and bras hanging to dry beside radiator. He politely asked about exams but could see I was busy and tactfully left.

He is too young for me but It was nice of him to pop in and has left me grinning from ear to eat [hgrin]