Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

mrs cello -thats not being too fussy, whats the point if you dont fancy them?
So long as you arent being super shallow.. then id say its fine.

So long as you are aiming your sights in the right place. That sounds horrible.. but i think its easy to have a check list of things and forget they are actual people... and we are actual people too.. who are also being judged on a pic and a short profile.

lubey - yay. new thread ( fuck, we dont half talk!)

S is back to chatting away to me, so all is ok. Im quite excited about tomorrows date.

I am thinking of a new fb page...singing adele lyrics so often to your 27 cats that they can meow it back to you in perfect harmony

Lubey - Standards. If you are abhorrent regarding racism, then bye bye mr Neanderthal. Or just fit him with an electric collar and zap him into touch.

No idea who S is watch. I am useless. Hope it all goes well though!

Yeahhh new thread! I tried to post a link to this on the other one but it was already at 1000

Stay :o at the electric collar! I will talk to him later and depending on the reaction... well we will see if he redeems himself or is bull-headed about it and gets himself dumped.

Watch good luck for tomorrow :o

Racism is ugly. Having said that, soccer is not big in Australia except amongst catholic schools and people of ethnic extraction, so we call it "wogball", but that's about the extent of racism that I'll tolerate. At the moment we're having a few boat people from Afghanistan and Iraq seeking refuge and asylum in Australia and the racism against them is something to be ashamed of. The saddest thing is that the fundies are fueling the fire as christianity vs islam. Racism is ugly.

Thing is you don't really know if you are lowering your standards just by reading a profile and seeing their pix. I am sure if my ex had a profile/pix then i wouldn't be interested and yet I loved/fancied him loads.

Poppa see I would find that too much too. If anything is accepted at all it's a slippery slope. imho anyway

poppa - yeah, i wouldnt like that at all. But im aware its different in different countries ( have a lot of aussie friends... have seen the coon cheese!)

Lots of people say things and they dont even think about what they are saying, i get this alot about the whole single mother thing... when you say' you do reallise im one' they then say, oh, but i dont mean you. The fact that stastically speaking most single mothers are in fact like me, is apparently a moot point.

I should think, he will fall into the catergory of being one of those that just didnt think, or didnt realise what he was saying. I dont know if i would paticually bring it up, unless you were horribly offended. But i would question it if he said something along those lines at a later date.

place marking, just back from the gym - red of face sweaty of armpit. How alluring can one woman be?

...and that's without new pants as well. I needed to pick up on that. really? new pants for hot date? Maybe I don't attract the type of man that places great emphasis on nice underwear...? that said, I am such a scruffball that I do like nice vintage style undies - a pleasant suprise should the occasion... cough! arise I guess.

But coon cheese is nothing to do with race. It's just a brand. If someone came up with a product in the UK and decided to call it "boong" it wouldn't be racist, 'cos it's not their fault that it's an especially denigrating term for Australian aborigines. They just wouldn't know.

As for the soccer. We just don't get it. We have various forms of rubgy as well as Aussie rules football, the ultimate egalitarian game. It's a bit like gaelic football, except a ball a bit like a rugby ball but less round and no soccer net in the goal... just 2 goalposts and 2 point posts outside of the goal posts. If you miss the goal you might get a point... 6 points makes a goal. So even if your team is crap you still score a few points and everyone's happy. Soccer here is associated with ethnic or religious rivalries, riots, violence, pitch invasions, flares.

i know its not to do with race and is a brand, but still. I think most people would find it offensive.

Poppa - am a bloke from NZ with many ordinary Australian relatives, none of whom would use a word like 'wogball'. As for "people of ethnic extraction": we all are. I'm sure you mean well but at this rate you'll give us colonials a bad name amongst these lovely sheilas!

Agree with lubey's approach although tbh, any non-racist bloke still using the word 'paki' in the UK must be thick as a plank.

Hello all! Had a busy morning, enrolled on a Learn Direct course which should bring my CV into the 21st century and have the job offers flocking in!

Also bought a day rover bus ticket as I've decided me and little DD are going on an expedition on Saturday, to the town housing the RSPCA and our potential new cat! Yes folks, we are going to choose our cat! Can't be waiting for big DD to take us, we need to get the ball rolling. Sooo, if you don't hear from me for a few days you know it's because I'm still trying to find my way home cos I have no idea where I am going. Should be fun though

Still nothing happening on POF but hey, who care's, I'm getting a cat!

Love the suggestion for new thread title zany

Pleased you are going to chat to BoR Lubey, he does sound nice and worth a chance to think about things and correct himself.

As for looks, I'm pretty relaxed about looks too, it's more the personality that counts to me, and it's important they can talk, good conversation is a must. The last one I had (exP) wasn't what you would call handsome but he couldn't talk either so I lost out on all counts. but I learned the frozen chicken position thanks to him

I don't think I'm too fussy, I like a big man, so either muscular (the bigger the better) or someone tubby, taller than 5'8, no preference on colouring, British, employed - those are my absolutes. Would prefer someone with children and someone who definitely doesn't want any more - don't mind what ages the children are, someone who takes their family commitments seriously.

I meet many men in my line of business but most are married and I travel the country/world so rarely meet anyone in my area or nearby. There were some gorgeous men in Boston last week - but obviously not feasable (and I'm kicking myself for believing Geordie as I was so good! Brushed off all advances when I didn't need to lol)

Sent loads of messages today, no answers. Only message today is from a work aquaintance that lives in Malta!

I keep seeing people mention Guardian Soulmates, worth signing up for or not?

Racism in all forms is a dealbreaker for me, some words are just hate words, no matter how they are said. I would point out to them how offensive they are and see if they took note or looked like I was mad. Their reaction would tell me how they really felt, I think

Hi dogfish. They'd be from NSW I'm guessing? Soccer's heartland in Oz is the NSW catholic education system. In SA it's only the old euro-associated teams hence wogball.

But perhaps coconut is a good example... I'd never heard of it as racial descriptor until I started watching Outrageous Fortune. Better not call the fudgie lolly stuff coconut rough! Which came first? The common nomenclature or the contemporary colloquial use?

Snape, hot date=new pants.

Poppa 'Wogball' I'm not surprised tbh, although I do think it's a cultural thing.

Lubey, I'm in 2 minds whether to met my bor, coupled with the fact that he hasn't firmed up a time and place and the place will be 20 odd miles drive (cba), which is nearer to me but further from him and the town he's from is a bit rough too. Rapidly going off the idea. Nothing else on the cards.

When are you suppose to be meeting him Adams

Hmmm adamschic, I think I've always been glad I at least tried when I get that cold feet/cba feeling about a date. I would probably go. (but only if he gets in contact pretty soon to sort out final details)

In my experience 'cba' situations always turn out to be the best, I usually find myself enjoying those things that I've not really been looking forward to. Get yourself off adamschic and don't forget to report back

Agreed to meet in the daytime this weekend which wouldn't be a problem as I'm free. OK, if he gets back to me (which he might not) I will go.

Time do Learn Direct do courses to teach us how to do a good POF profile and get the literate & gorgeous men flocking in...I wonder....

bloke on POF with a rubber fetish wants to meet me.

blockity block block!

I'm glad you had a good time last night Lubey.

I have to be honest though, the use of that sort of language would be a dealbreaker for me, full stop. He may just be using the words out of ignorance rather than hate, but that doesn't make it hugely better IMO.

I have a date on Saturday! He's tall, dark, reasonably handsome, a bit cheeky, and a legal aid solicitor. We're going to a pool hall. Hmm, we'll see.....

I don't think they do wriggly Tends to be more IT, maths, English, that sort of thing. Come to think of it, the kind of courses the blokes on POF should be doing!

I'm doing the ECDL which apparently is all the rage and in high demand by employers. Fingers crossed!!