Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

I'm on OK Cupid which seems good, had one date and should have another on Sunday. Also on POF which has loads of idiots on there. I'm a cheapskate so reluctant to pay but might re think. I posted a bit on the fit and interesting thread too.

Yes Zany i recognise the name. I found that unfortunately you do tend to find the better guys on the paid sites. Im sure there are some on the free ones its just with the amount of losers on them its harder to find them. I got many messages daily on the free ones which were all along the lines of 'Do you want to meet up for a shag'.Umm no not when you are older than my parents .

Snape ahhh so do you not have anyone pretty to look at on the way to work now.Sound/lighting tech sounds interesting.

beaut - my commute involves sticking my head in a book - and grumbling about the train being cancelled. :) Sound/tech seems sweet - moves around the country a lot, but not a patch on 'the doctor' who I met for lunch on monday (rrrrr!)

snape - i shall be wearing awful pants in an attempt to make sure there is no shagging.
i dont intend for there to be shagging. My intention is not to shag him. If i repeat this enough does that mean it will be true?

i also intend to stay away from any rum.
which is highly likely to happen ( and can you note the scarasm there)

zany - sometimes its rubbish, but somone will come along soon, can take a while sometimes ( says i, who has been internet dating for 2 years)

Ahh I remembered the train guy story, forgot it was you Snape - may have a quick lok at harmony to see what some of my match's would be like

Hello BeauticianNotMagician, I did see that thread around earlier this year but I never posted on it as I was in a relationship/only just dumped around the time I saw it, and it doesn't seem to have re-appeared since. I think the last time I saw it would be late April ish.

This thread was born from the slow hijacking of someones dating question and loads of us ended up talking about cosmic ordering and various dating things so it was time to take it to a seperate thread. As has been confirmed many times over since then, we can't half yack on!

Hi lubeybooby haha love the name.I see you are in Leicestershire as well.

I have to say i was quite lucky with the whole dating thing.I spoke to numerous guys. I only actually went on two dates and DP was the second. From his picture i really wasn't sure.Plus he had travelled and i had just been mum for four years never travelled anywhere.But when we met it just clicked he asked me out on our second date half way through the first.

I always tell friends now to go for the less obvious ones.As someone who in all honesty didn't really appeal to me at all in his picture turned out to be so hot in the flesh that the first time we kissed i actually swooned and fell onto the poor boy

I am loving this thread as none of my real life friends are dating so don't really 'get' it

Morning all. Snape, most of us like your stretchmarks. We have our own "imperfections" and hang ups. Not me of course . I had one gf who had extensive scarring on her stomach which she apologised for! WTAJ?!?! I just kissed her belly on my way down... From her reaction it was the correct approach!

Anyway, after lurking on your threads I decided to set up a profile on OKC. Now it won't let me back on. Apparently my user name and password are incorrect. Righto. I'm quite daunted by POF, well, any dating site really, as I'm a bit shy before I know people.

Hi Beaut, glad things are working out great. TTC after Christmas, wow, good luck with it.

I'm still embarrassed to admit to being here. I am only on POF so that might have something to do with it. Meet a few very eligible guys which haven't got passed one date because I don't fancy them!

I was lucky I didn't get any stretchmarks and my figure was my fortune when I was younger Well not quite but compared to my face I was lucky with it. It's still not too bad for an old hag.

Right, bloomin BoR has been impossible to get hold of for a phone call due to being asleep/at work since I decided i needed to speak to him so I've just sent this text.

"Hi, so as you know I really like you and would love to see you again but something is bothering me big time. The other night you used words widely recognised as offensive and racist, and I have to say they do offend me personally too. anyway I couldn't be with someone who thought it was ok to say them or just ignored that they are offensive. So are we too different or ??? Let me know what you think x"

Is that ok d'ya reckon?

Awaiting response

Hi Adamschic.Thanks.Im pretty sure if we do it will take a good while to conceive.My periods are pretty awful these days.My mum had a hysterectomy when she was 38.

Wow lucky you at no stretchmarks.Why embarrassed as long as you are having fun along the way thats all that matters.

Anyone know what happened with Elasta i know she was having quite a bit of luck with dates when i last posted.Although that was months ago

Elasta, not sure has she namechanged or just got a life. Thing is Beaut I don't really find internet dating fun, most of the time it depresses me! Not sure why I'm on here.

Lubey, I think you have put that very well. Not only do you find his language offensive it might turn out that he doesn't want to be with someone who does IYSWIM. When Amy Winehouse died I posted a comment on fb as a friend mentioned it. Others started posting ignorant comments so I said that I regret posting amongst them now and got accused of not having a sense of humour . Deleted the post and hid the friends news feeds.

Thanks adamschic. Seems like that's stumped him though... still awaiting response!

beaut, glad to hear all still going well for you, and exciting news re ttc!

i've seen Elasta on the odd thread on here, I believe she is still with the guy she met while 'our' thread was going, so good news there :)

watch hope your date later goes well!

So, my date on Sat. Apparently his eye is now swollen, and his bruises are coming out! He's going to look awful isn't he?

and I still haven't decided what to wear - meeting lunchtime ish for coffee...any thoughts? and I can't wear jeans, they look odd on me

Lubey think that text is great.No point wasting time.Its good to know where you stand and if he uses words/language like that all the time then it obviously won't work.I always think its est to be staright to the point and upfront with someone.

That has often been mine and DPs only stumbling block im very open,honest,to the point and talkative a bit over talkative i admit.Wheras DP really struggles to communicate.In the early days he would communicate important things to me via text and we argued due to his lack of communication and opening up.Im glad to say he has got better but still struggles.

Hi Sponge are you the one on my fb who has lost weight if it is you have to say you are looking fab.Not that you didn't before of course.How have you done it.My weight has been slowly creeping up.Desperately need to shift a stone.

Thanks Beaut. Took me ages to cram saying enough and to the point enough into a text!

hatespong ewhat's your usual style? For daytime coffee I'd wear anything from this kind of thing www.thewhitecompany.com/clothing/dresses-and-tunics/buttoncuff-vneck-dress/ to just work type trousers and a nice top depending on weather/venue etc

yes beaut that is me! and thank you, I still have about 3 stone to lose but feel a lot better for having got rid of 4.5 so far - I do slimming world, it's all quite easy just try and stick to low fat stuff. If I stuck to it properly I would have lost more weight, but sometimes you just have to have a biscuit or glass of wine or several of both

Sponge, well done.

Come to think of it Elasta is or was on my facebook and she is still very happy with the guy she met. I got muddled up with the nn.

Lubey. good. direct approach! gets it out in the open and doesn't let you think and over-think it or draw a wrong conclusion based on what evidence you have. please don't let him be a horribel racist. that would be a deal breaker for me too.

the doctor and I are swapping texts on our top 3 celebrity shags. this is either moving in the correct direction, or is the banter that 'mates' have. argh!

I get muddled up with whos who on fb too i think elasta may be on mine.What are her initials.I also see that the mnetter who met her DP the same time as i met mine has since got married but i cannot remember her mn name.

ooh lubey I love that dress, if only I could afford it!

It's a good style for me though, based on that am thinking maybe dress/tunic along similar but not so nice lines with thick tights/leggings and boots. But the ones I have are a bit high necked. Should I be showing a hint of cleavage, or too much for daytime? any excuse to buy new clothes

Does it show that I haven't had a date in over 2 years?...

*horrible racist. as in evil bastard, not 'horribel' as in related to a babybel cheese.

A tiny bit of cleavage is fine hatesponge. I always do a bit of cleavage as I'm very busty and high necklines and me really don't get along. I don't go full on barmaid though just a little bit... day or evening.