Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

Night night Time :)

Yes . Loads. And quite a few tears too. Towards the end I got so ruthless I had dates in my lunch hour at work - I couldn't be bothered spending time and effort to be disappointed - you know almost immediately if they're not for you, even if you don't know immediately that they are (if that makes sense!)

Good luck everybody

Zookeeper cannot focus enough to read what you've posted but it looks really funny. Will wait until I'm sober and at work have more time. You seem to be an advert for internet dating, you and your friends have now met someone and it was fun meeting nobheads new people, instead of depressing. Are you sure you arn't on commission .

I'm always a bit worried about being 'outed' on threads I post on but will share a little gem tonight.

The county I live in has a very rude placename (anyone on my facebook might work it out) The town is inbetween me and Mr Rough so it was mentioned in messages we exchanged on POF and bless them, POF blanked the rude part out, they thought we were talking dirty [hgrin].

oh jesus christ, it's date day. I feel ill.

Just popped on to wish Snape a lovely time. I hope it all goes well for you. Most importantly, do NOT forget to report back every little detail upon your return!!

Have a good day everyone, will catch you all later

Thanks Time! :)

Just remebering the stupidest internet dating thing I ever did. emailed and messaged a guy for 6 months or so that I picked up on spark.com, we eventually arranged to meet. he lives in Chicago. I was living in Glasgow. I flew out for three weeks, it was utterly glorious and we are still good friends. :) so, nothing ventured and all that. :)

Morning everyone

Let us now how you get on Snape

Good to hear that slow burners can work Zoo

Sorry you dates didn't work out Time and Lubey

Well I didn't h ave my date with Mr Body on SUnday, I hadn't heard from him much but then got an email to spologise as his son't grandad was very ill, I know he has been seeing his son more recently and taking him to hospital etc but he has taken a turn for the worse. I suggested we took a rain check so may possibly still see him but sounds like he has alot on his plate.

I agreed to a date tomorrow night and he was supposed to call me over he weekend to sort out timings etc but not heard anything so I can't be bothered now not sure if thats on.

Have been emailing a lovely guy, Mr Yacht, but so sick of guys doing a disappearing act that I'm not too hopeful.

snape - good luck" what time is it at? and what are you wearing?

Zany - sorry about mr body, but im pleased you are talking to someone else, vanishing does tend to be a common thing, dont take it personally, its them, not you :)

Lubey - so, when you seeing him again then ( apols if you have already said)

So, date with S has been brought forward to thur. Looks wise, hes not my type at all... drumroll.... he has BLONDE HAIR. I NEVER fancy men with blonde hair, however, from talking to him, he is amazing and i really like him, like, really like him. Spend too much time over the weekend on the actual phone, talking to him and it was like it was 10 mins not hours. Hes all ' wow, this is amazing, feels like ive known you for years' because it does seem very easy. Hes asked for a second date, and we havent had the first yet.
Trying not to get too excited about it, as it will probably fall flat on its face.

Still dont know what to do about AD. I DO like him, he seems SO fun. But, i know it wont go anywhere and he lives too far for a fwb thing as well.

The distance thing is a hard one I think Watch. I think that if you really like someone then it won't matter. Thursdays date sounds very promising though

it is difficult. I dont want a long distance thing really.
if im going to be in an actual relationship with someone ( therotically) then i want someone who can pop over in the evenings and things ( obviously i cant leave the house)
So, logistically, it would be down to only seeing each other every other weekend ( if i didnt already have other plans, or he didnt) and as it is, my weekends are booked up from now till 26th november.

Thats not just in regards to him, but in regards to anyone really. Having done a long distance engagement to one person and then a very very long distance marriage to someone else.... if i ever end up in a relastionship, i dont want to be in one where i still spend the majority of my time on my own, family events on my own, etc....

which is why i cant decide, i like him, he would be fun, it would be a fun day. But for me, i already know its got no legs.

Zany my date was fine :o not sure who you meant up there ^ somewhere

Watch, don't know yet, we said lunch in the week sometime and it's been left at that so far. Good luck with S on Thursday :o

snail - stop that pre-judging the situation! see how things pan-out. :) Dirty blonde hair & looks like Desmond from Lost! eeee!

I'm meeting.... 'the doctor' (!) at two in town. I'm wearing blue trousers, blue handkerchief top with long white vest underneath it and grey cardy and scarf. trainers. the kind of thing that looks like no effort has been made at all, but I agonised over it at half six this morning because I didn't get ready last night. Just texted him a photo, on his request so he would def know it's me (my GS pics are all cropped really close) and he replied with 'ooo! nice!' Of course it was the 17th photo I'd taken until I was happy with it. :)

Starting to get a bit nervy. which is silly - it's just lunch.

my god. im bloody excited for you!!!

i so love that you took a ton of pictures. haha
i do that.
and then men go ' wow, you are stunning' and you have to go, er, no, i dont actually look like that. Clever angles, good lighting and about 25 pictures to get one good one. :)

sounds like you are going to look super cool, and totally like you havent bothered at all, and he will be blown away :)

i shall be checking back this afternoon and i cant wait to hear how it goes!

Lubey - cool. have you worked out if you like him yet?

im not pre juding the situation, as so much as knowing what i do and dont want, and another long distance thing is not something i ever want to do and im not going to budge on that. So im just trying to work out if its worth even going.

Sorry getting mixed up Lubey

Watch, I need to have that lunch and shag him to decide properly if it's a goer or a FWB or a finish it, so it might drag on a bit with being a bit restricted as it's half term here.

GOOD LUCK SNAPE I'm sure it will be fine :o excited for you too here!

Oh, I know Snail - it's a shame because he could be perfect but for the distance...isn't it always the way. If you don't go though, you won't know and maybe he has a secret plan to relocate a bit nearer?

I'm nipping out for a cigarette for the nerves... then febrezeing myself and scrubbing my hands with tooth powder so I don't smell like an ash-tray... ( he doesn't smoke... I try not to)

lubey - oh, i see. its one of those cant make your mind up ones :) what is it that you cant make your mind up about? do you fancy him? or not? or, is he nice, but not dateable? or dateable, but you dont fancy him?

snape - lol. you are going to be a bag of nerves by 2 :)

he wont move, hes literally, like two weeks ago, moved to that area.

Watch, he is a very sweet guy and I do fancy him but not sure on the dateability, with the clear differences between us. I'm not posh but he makes me look like HRH Duchess of Cambridge hence the lunch to see if he can be as comfortable with my fave posh place as I was with his fave divey pub. I even did mostly sober karaoke in front of a bunch of people I sort of knew as used to work with them ffs... And the shag so I know if that side of things will be any good or not. Crap posh date or if he doesn't want to go to that place, and crap sex will be a dumping. Crap posh date but good sex = FWB. If both are good then there might be relationship potential

That's my slightly arrogant reasoning anyway :o

Lubey, perfectly good reasoning i think! :)

am getting a headache. argh.

It's only because he is one of those rare types that has made it clear he likes me already and isn't messing about. Soooo prefer those ones, just hope all goes well when we next see each other :)

Snape take some painkillers, you don't want to be dealing with a headache on your date

What time are you meeting btw?

2pm. no painkillers around. :( will need to get some on the way to the tube and hope that they are fast-acting. or go & see if any colleagues have any spare.

pound!pound!pound!