The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Joins The Foreign Legion In Their Quest For Sobriety.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have a very abusive relationship with alcohol.

I can't just have one glass of anything, I have to drink until I pass out or run out. Whichever comes first.

This Bus is a place of solace and safety, where drinkers, non-drinkers and those who aren't quite sure can come and post or just sit and 'be'.

No-one will judge you, no-one will think any the less of you because we all have the same thing in common.

Alcohol.

And for those who want to read the journey's so far and the original thread by JWN, the lady who very bravely started these journeys for us, HERE they are.

(PS - the title is just for you notevenamousie)

Well done shake :)

Instructions I have been asked for the recipe so many times that I typed it up and saved it on a memory stick lol.

It is a very old recipe that I remember my mum making when I was very small, and her mum used to make when she was small, (think decades) and it has sort of evolved over the years. So, mine is not exactly the same as my mum's version, and hers was not exactly the same as her mum's version etc etc.

Do you have the Malteser recipe - please?

Shake It does feel good, doesn't it. This is the first Sunday morning in years that I have not had a hangover. And I mean years.

well done shake! really pleased to here that welcome to day 2.

Morning, have been up hangover and drink free long enough to do ironing, dishes cleared, children breakfasted, Little one at church with her Dad, big one in her room colouring, so thought I could afford a little MN time.
Feel a bit queasy today, not sure if this is to do with withdrawal (Day 5?) or as a result of my eating loads more than usual and also drinking loads more coffee, etc than usual.
Or as a result of damage I have done to myself.
Haven't got much of a plan for today apart from roasting a chicken and being with the girls. House needs some TLC too.
Usually would be a few drinks in by now, no desire.
(I'd swear my eyes look less bloodshot, is that possible after just 4 days?)
Hope everyone has a good day, well done Shake for last night, thank you ModreB for recipe, might try it this pm if weather stays as grim. Girls love baking!

morning!!

cidre - you are doing fantastically well!! - fwiw, i felt pretty crappy for about 10-14 days although my eyes began to brighten up straight away - i felt low (unsurprisingly!) queasy, itchy, tired, achy almost flu like, i felt very tearful, scared and anxious - IT ALL PASSED!

i see this morning we have love, life, baking and poo-gate! - just shows you that we are NOT defined simply by our inablitly to control alcohol - hang on to that thought and enjoy a sober sunday!

Hello all. After posting yesterday didn't really have time to say anymore. I did drink yesterday but only one and now there is no white wine in house.

I am mid forties and recently have been feeling so knackered and exhausted that am hoping that quitting drink will make me feel more lively. I don't drink hugely but am bad at stopping at one or two and it makes me feel quite depressed.

I have done quite a few days, even weeks of sobriety in the past but always slip back - its that tricky "well I've doen really well so just one won't hurt" and then before I know it I'm back having a drink every day.

So will probably need some encouragement when I get to day 5 or 6 .... Plus life is quite dull and a bit of a slog at the moment. Just the endless round of work, look after kids, tidy up mess, do washing, moan at kids ffor not doing homework etc.

DP has taken DCs out today and I am meant to be doing gardening but did a bit and then felt knackered so am now lurking about inside. Better go out and do a bit more - garden huge and out of control (we moved here a few months ago and previous owners had let it slide a bit). Would love it to be lovely like RHS but sadly DCs ball games don't gel too well with herbaceous borders ....

There seem to be a lot of people on here at the mo so will probably not be able to keep up with all convos but will do best.

Big pat on the back to everyone who didn't drink (or drank a lot less) last night. Hope you're all feeling proud of yourselves for getting through a Saturday night. I am back to day 1

Beak, I hope you are OK. What an awful situation your DP's cousin is in. You must be incredibly stressed. It's so nice you're looking out for her, but look after yourself too, more than usual.

MIFLAW, thanks for the suggestion re AA. So I could go but not have to tell everyone all the gory details? Don't really know it works. Also I think I'm better in small groups or on a one to one basis really. The thought of saying anything in front of a large group of people sends shivers down my spine, let alone something so personal. Oh dear, I clearly have far too many issues!

Have a good day everyone. That mars bar cake sounds dreamy...mmmm cake

silly - just a few quick thoughts - i have been to aa meetings where there has only been 5/6 people, all meetings are different, there is no 'set' night that you must attend, any meeting is open to you, you dont have to say a word, there is no rule saying 'thou must spill thy guts imediately' , you dont have to say your real name (only first names, no surname is ever mentioned!), you can just sit and listen, take the parts that feel relevant to you and leave the rest - god is mentioned but you dont have to be a believer (MIF is agnostic or antagonistic or something, i forget the word! ) - you can go to a meeting and never attend again if you think its not for you, no one asks for your address, your surname, your bank account details etc, you will proberbly be given a couple of numbers by other women (its usually 'form' that the women help other women and that the men stick with the men) to call if you need to talk/need encourgement - if you do go and its a large meeting, ask someone if there is one in your area that is a bit smaller, you never know!

hope that helps?

L XXX

Afternoon Babes

Just to let you know, I reported all of buggering's posts with links in, and explained as best I could to Catherine MNHQ why we didn't want links like that and also some of the history behind certain posts/ers and the trouble we have had in the past.

I hope that they (MNHQ) understand that invasions like this are not welcome and why.

Can I suggest that we all report any further postings from buggering or anyone else they try to recruit to disrupt the thread and cause upset?

Thanks.

Off to catch up xx

thank you mouse! you are so much more 'reasoned' than i am! i just told the fucker to fuck the fuck off!

Well done you fab babes for getting busy this morning. Amazing what you can achieve without a hangover isn't it? Pass the virtual cake .

No drinking for me Friday, Saturday or today. I did get some cravings but so glad I stuck to my guns. I reported one post but agree with Mouse and Saf - if we all report all posts as Spam, they should all get deleted. It's not too late to do that. What do you think Mouse? Should we do that now? Cor, I feel like I'm in a union or summat! Stick together lads.

You're welcome JWN - this thread is far too important to me to let people like that try to upset and derail us.

I actually managed not to have a drink last night when we went out. It was really hard though, for the first time I got a REALLY STRONG urge to drink.

I sat there and thought about what would, not might, happen if I had a drink. It wouldn't be a drink would it, it would be several.

So I opted for posh pink lemonade and had two of those instead!

Well done Shake - it's fab isn't it? Waking up clear headed!

Modre - I am furious with you! You have ruined my diet!!! Thank you so much, I can't wait to try that!

Dubs - is it you that makes some sort of fridge cake with Mars Bars in and biscuits?

Jeff, I'm starved again, bloomin' hormentals!!!!! I am craving chocolate and sweets like there is no tomorrow.

Scarey - I was ed to see just how many there were this morning and actually rather so I reported all of the ones with links on and explained why. There's no reason not to report and explain why they offend or upset you personally so go for it.

I think the more we stick together, the more MNHQ will see how disruptive this poster and others can be.

Just to let you all know, the posts from buggeringbt with links in have been deleted and I assume that MsGee's has too if there was a 'f**k off' in it?

So, if we can all keep an eye out and report any more that would be great, thanks Babes, hope you are all okay. xx

What is up with buggering? I am quite new to all this so I dont know. She is clearly not as nice as everyone else here.

Modre thanks for recipe, I always wanted to be 15 stone.

beak - buggering has been about here in various guises for some time - he/she has some kind of vendetta regarding AA, plainly something has happened at some time and she assumes we all need protecting from the wicked people who run it and the equally wicked people who attend meetings (it seems some very untrustworthy alikes attend them! ) - she offers no other practical advice or support, posts links to american sites which have no bearing on the way AA is run in the UK - ie, courts in US may order some offenders to attend AA as part of their parole conditions, that does not happen here but she/he simply wont listen and is generally unhelpful, obstructive and at times down right dangerous - this thread has always, and will continue to be, a place of support, help, advice, a safe place to talk/vent/cry for people with alcohol issues - we ALL support each other no matter what method we use to stay sober, some of us go to AA meetings, some of us dont, its fine which ever way we choose - getting sober and remaining sober is the most important aspect of this thread and i will defend it to the end!

ALL FOR ONE AND ONE FOR ALL!!!

btw 'whats up with buggering?' made me

Happy Sunday Babes, well done all the non hangovers.

Here is a strange alkie moment in my life, a bit sad but I know you lot will understand what I mean . I am having a small op this week and had to fill in the health questionaire for the anaesthetic; got to the 'how much alcohol do you consume?' bit...
What a joy and triumph to be able to fill in a big fat ZERO!

So much easier than doing the addition, then trying to to decide how many units would not look too bad, with the fear that that may cause them to give me too much/not enough anaesthetic.
Do you think it would be going a bit too far to photocopy and frame that part of the form?

beak you're welcome

Would you like the recipe for Cherry and Chocolate Fudge cake as well?

Or Lemon and Ground Almond drizzle cake?

Or if you don't have a sweet tooth, what about proper steamed steak and kidney pud with suet pastry?

I have lots of recipes to keep me occupied.

Ahahahahahaaaaa, nope, get it framed BB

When do you go in sweets? You okay? [worried] xx

In on tuesday, day case and really very minor, although I do intend to milk it, both at work and home

Modre I think Cherry and Choc Fudge Cake sounds like the nicest cake in the world...... Or maybe Lemon and Ground Almond Dizzle is..... Anyway, both recipes would be lush!!!

Ongoing support being offered here for all Babes, I'm liking the successes and have confidence in those that are struggling for now.....

CAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAKE!!!

I am tryyyyyyyyyyyin to bleeeeeedin diet ere!

Oh Modre, please post the Chocolate Fudge cake one, I have an overwhelming urge to bake and make cakes, cookies and muffins.

And I have cleaned the house from top to bottom. Bleached everything bar the humans and dog!

Right, kitchen floor.

Thanks Dubs, wasn't sure. xx

Lemon and Almond Drizzle

Ingredients
? 225g softened butter
? 225g caster sugar
? lemons , 3 zested and 2 Juiced
? 4 medium eggs , lightly whisked
? 200g self-raising flour
? 1 tsp baking powder
? 50g ground almonds
? icing sugar

? Heat the oven to 180C/fan 160C/gas 4. Butter and line the base of a 20cm round cake tin. Beat the butter and caster sugar in a large bowl using an electric hand whisk until pale and creamy. Add the lemon zest (reserving some for decoration) and mix well. Whisk the eggs gradually into the butter mixture, beating well between each addition - don't worry if it curdles.
? Sift together the flour and baking powder and fold into the cake mixture using a large metal spoon or spatula. Add the ground almonds and 3/4 of the lemon juice and fold until thoroughly combined. Spoon into the prepared cake tin and bake for 1 hour 15 minutes or until a skewer inserted into the middle of the cake comes out without any raw mix on it.
? Put the cake tin on a wire rack to cool for 10 minutes. Meanwhile mix together the remaining lemon juice and zest and enough icing sugar to make a runny icing and then drizzle over the top of the cake. Cool in the tin for a further 30 minutes and then remove from the tin and cool completely before serving.