The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Joins The Foreign Legion In Their Quest For Sobriety.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have a very abusive relationship with alcohol.

I can't just have one glass of anything, I have to drink until I pass out or run out. Whichever comes first.

This Bus is a place of solace and safety, where drinkers, non-drinkers and those who aren't quite sure can come and post or just sit and 'be'.

No-one will judge you, no-one will think any the less of you because we all have the same thing in common.

Alcohol.

And for those who want to read the journey's so far and the original thread by JWN, the lady who very bravely started these journeys for us, HERE they are.

(PS - the title is just for you notevenamousie)

Positive I think you may have to give up on the idea of being able to stop after one drink. That option is not available to all. I don't think there are any of us on this bus who can do that. But we are highly skilled and talented in other areas .

If you have been reading the thread you have probably seen lots of good advice already. Take it one day at a time. Decide in the morning if you are going to actively not drink. Get supplies of all your favourite soft drinks, teas, etc. and stock up on sweet treats too. Then check in with us whenever you like.

See if you can identify triggers. If you want to stop completely have you considered AA. There are plenty of babes who can advise on socialising sober but I have yet to crack that one myself.

Hiya, quick check in, made it thru day 2. Off to bed and snoring DH.
Loopy, you asked how much I drank (drink, it's only day 2?), could be anything from 6-12 cans a day,so feminine I am! Cider being my poison, you can see where my name comes from, may change it soon, but don't want to run before I can walk. Still feel ok, but tired so off to bed, just wanted to check in to let you all know how much support you have been during my panic. To those BB's who kindly Pm'd me, if I have not got back to you, I will tomorrow when I can give you the attention you deserve for being so kind.
Hope everyone gets a good night's sleep.

I think you're right - that would be the dream but hasn't yet been possible.

I would love to go to aa but wouldn't be able to go without my dh knowing and he would mock me so much and I know if he knew I was trying to change he'd try to encourage me to drink (I do try and stop then I'll come home and there will be a cold bottle of my favourite wine in the fridge to support me!). I may see if there's a daytime meeting I could go to near work as I need to have resolve! I have read through the thread and am staggered by how many people are in the same boat and think I definitely need to learn to look forward to a sober night out.

I went to the theatre with friends during the week and they all commented how my eyes lit up when I saw wine (someone had bought before the performance) and I literally spent the first half thinking of nothing else... It would be great to be able to Enjoy a night without wanting alcohol.

Thank you for taking the time to respond x

Well done cidre 2 days is fab.

I'm off to bed too now. Night all x

It would be great to be able to Enjoy a night without wanting alcohol.

I agree Positive. Looking forward to chatting some more tomorrow. You DH sounds like hard work though?

Sweet dreams babes x

Can't believe it -managed the evening without
a pre-event drink for Dutch courage, and left after one glass of wine and no alcohol thereafter. I would call that "normal" drinking were it not for the fact that everyone else was drinking a lot more!

One thing I have learned over the last couple of months is that it is so so much harder to refuse the second or subsequent drink than it is the first. Not quite sure what that means.

Morning all!

Positive... *I would love to go to aa but wouldn't be able to go without my dh knowing and he would mock me so much and I know if he knew I was trying to change he'd try to encourage me to drink (I do try and stop then I'll come home and there will be a cold bottle of my favourite wine in the fridge to support me!)

In the meantime, do you know where the daytime meetings are near you?

Morning all,

just a quick check in, then I'm out.

JWN just wanted to say that my to you last night looked mean to me this morning. It was because I was in a snit with DH, and wished he was out too. Sorry. I hope your evening was ok.xxx

Have good days all.
xx

Morning ladies, just checking in on my way to work. I hope you all have a good day, will hop on again later. Big hugs x

Morning all. It's f-f-f-friday . Now traditionally, this has been a sticking point in the Fairenuff household but I am determined not to drink still and so I think it will be a breeze rather than a bacardi breezer .

Have we all got our strategies in place, stocked up on treats galore and plans to avoid that first drink? Hmmmm?

Have we all got our face masks for later?

Have lovely 'be good to yourself' days. Hasta luego babes x

Morning.

I have a face pack at the ready for tonight. I'm really flaky (skinwise more than personality) at the moment so hopefully this might fill in the cracks!!

Day 14 here - feeling so positive about it all. Was a bit miffed when DH asked me to pour him some wine last night but I did it (and no cheeky glugging from the bottle).

Am struggling to remember posts on phone but morning to Dubs and Faire (did I tell you horridbabydoll all clean now!), to ma - did DH survive the night or was this your cunning plan of offing him.

Big wave to saf and congrats on day 14, hope today ok. ((( ))) to Mouse . inde where are you? I worry when you don't post.

Not sure why ma's DH got bolded. Sorry, only had my one coffee so far today!

MOrning babes. Sorry not been around for a while, was trying to catch up but you lot chat so much there are pages and pages to sift through

I am still doing OK drink wise, generally drinking each night but alot less than I was even to a few months ago and I have alot less at the weekends. Was feeling really down earlier in the week but a bit better now

Hope you are all OK

morning all....nice sunny day here and having lunch today with the boss and one of our clients. Two of my favourite chaps, believe it or not!
Hope the farting has eased by then
Posh frock has arrived in the post but haven't dared open it or try it on in case I'm sadly disappointed.....will try tonight.
cidre bloody well done. am proud of you, and all the others who are being so successful.
Will buy a face pack today for Facepack Friday....
laters....
MsGee halloween is not far away. Please start making plans for securing horridbabydoll!!!

Positive

Where are you based? Someone here may be able to advise on daytime meetings if that will help.

"It would be great to be able to Enjoy a night without wanting alcohol." Yes. It is.

morning all.

thanks noteven - yes i got a break from my head and it was very welcome

boy has been delivered and i've done a bigger than usual stomp through the fields in the cold to try and get the endorphines on my side.

off to an auction in a bit with a friend who is looking for english-ified tea sets and the like to send home to thailand for sale. don't much feel like it but a) i'm the one who knows how to get there and b) i need to avoid avoiding.

hoping to stay distracted today - was too much in my head yesterday.

and i won't be drinking today because i don't drink don't ya know.

msgee - yep day 14 - well done to us and to everyone else who is following their plans.

oh and my dog found a fox corpse that she carried around with us. i've never seen so many animals (albeit dead) close up as i have since having her - she can smell the dead from a mile off - maybe should use her as a cadaverer (sp) dog.

Morning :) finally Friday and the end of another working week but also my evening for drinking too much so this evening I need to make alternate plans and will join ye all in face pack Friday!

morning!

thurso - no need to apologise! i figured out what you meant!

welcome positive - not sure what to say to you really, i cannot imagine how hard it is to do this without the support of my dh, as for 'mocking' you for going to aa while knowing that your parents are alikes im sorry but he dosnet sound very nice to me.

today im having my hair done, going to lunchtime womens meeting and then off out for dinner with the girls i will have to do the facepack tomorrow!

Boing!
Morning all

Been out running this morning, has certainly taken me out of the dark place in my head. Reread ranty email, toned it down a bit, and sent it to the partner at the law firm, he has responded saying that he will look into the matter, so feel positive.

Went home last night and checked the bank account, and ex has actually managed to pay maintenance! Although he phoned this morning and told me he couldn't have the kids this weekend .

Sorted out car insurance, and booked car in for MOT and service.
Laminated some recipes.

So a productive evening, which was good, instead of feeling sorry for myself. Didn't want to risk a "Poor me, poor me, pour me another". Best to stay out of my own head at times.
So I have done everything I can about the situation, so am not going to allow what if's and potential outcomes to upset or worry me.

Here's to a great weekend!!

Bafana

Hi there ! I hope you are all well ! So yesterday I had some wine and had a bad night as a result, I have some stomach burns which I'm sure is related to my drinking. Today I won't drink.

Good morning! Thank you for all of the amazingly kind advise and a massive well done to all who have managed to abstain. I am on day 3 and really, really hoping that tonight I can stick to just ine glass and drive home.... I am going out with that in mind.

My friend has looked into aa classes and has even offered to come with me so I can tell dh I'm visiting her and her husband. Long story but dh seems to like me having problem as it means I need him and rely on him. In some wharped way, I continue with said problems as the vulnerability seems to be the only thing that makes him show any affection towards me (I've recently recognised this and have changed my behaviour)

Have a lovely day - I will let you know if I manage to stick to one!

Morning Babes , HAPPY FFF EVERYONE, facpacks ready for later?

Well done Shake! There's nothing like a bit of stomach acid to kick start the not drinking again. Keep going, you're doing great.

Loopy - So are you, doing great that is! Keep fighting, stay away from the spirits and wine, slow down on the cider so maybe have a bottle over a tonne of ice in a tall glass and make it last longer. So instead of four glasses in the week, you maybe only have two? Then at weekends, you can 'treat' yourself to four?

That's what I did for a while, reward myself by dropping drinks in the week and then allowing myself more (sometimes too much more) over the weekend. I think you need to plan your drinks, it really does help. Buy it as you need it rather than bulk buying, I know that's not always easy with the offers on cider!

Silver - come and talk to us xx

MsGee - thank you so very much. For the texts, for the soft blanket and for, well just being YOU. I'm very honoured to have you in my life, you are a fab Babe xx

Saf - how are you feeling about things today? Still a bit low or have you bounced back a bit. Funny how you seem to hit a low after a couple of weeks isn't it? I was the same last night, hit an absolute low and ended up just going to bed to try and escape my own head.

Positive - hello and welcome. Lovely to meet you

bafana - I'm so glad you're feeling better and out of the darkness xx

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Well done Cidre, that's lovely to read! Keep going! x

JWN - you best not miss next Friday's FFF!

Nice to see you back Zany and you Obrigada