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1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

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lubeybooby · 29/09/2011 14:40

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:19

I put what I'm looking for in my profile, just some basic traits... but there's whole lot more about what I have to offer.

Even if he just added a sentence of "because that's what I'm like when in a relationship" or something like that, it would at least make it less me me me.

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TimeForMeIsFree · 30/09/2011 12:19

Don't worry, he is well binned! Grin

PoppaRob · 30/09/2011 12:19

hells, he's come up with a wish list that includes many of the things I'd like to think I offer to a potential partner and that I'd be totally rapt if she were to feel the same way. Yes, it is more the things that happen within a relationship, but seeing the female perspective through this group's eyes as a bloke I think he's being judged a bit harshly for having a wishlist.

My main gripe is that he should have used who instead of that, and I bet he cut and pasted it from somewhere else... but at least he tried to show a less blokey side. It just surprised me that he's been kicked to the kerb so quickly.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:23

Nearly every profile I read the man loves to go for a walk in the country. In fact I think we're all wasting our time on dating sites. We should all be heading for the countryside HmmGrin

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:23

Poppa nothing wrong with a wishlist as long as you're going to counter it with why you deserve that kind of person. What you have to offer... etc.

That bit of his profile as it is just says 'I only think of myself/my needs'

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ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:23

Time it certainly did Grin

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:23

Hahaaa Chaotic :o that's where they're all hiding!

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hellsbells76 · 30/09/2011 12:25

Grin well they're either in the countryside or snuggling up on the sofa with a bottle of wine and a DVD...

TimeForMeIsFree · 30/09/2011 12:26

It's interesting how we perceive things so differently Poppa. I suppose there are women who will view that profile in a completely different way to me. What is your opinion of this part "I feel that a WOMAN like you is GOD's undeserved gift to MAN"? This turned my stomach too, I'm no gift for any man!! I don't feel for one minute he was showing a 'less blokey' side, I got the distinct feeling he is a controlling man who knows what he wants but has given no thought to what he has to give, he hasn't mentioned the qualities he would like in a woman, only what he would like to receive from her. No, I didn't like it one bit.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:27

It certainly seems to be...either walking, with/without a dog, or on mountain bikes Grin

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:28

hells Grin I do wonder exactly what/who they're snuggling up to while on a dating site Hmm

TimeForMeIsFree · 30/09/2011 12:29

Grin chaotic I spend a lot of time walking in the countryside and I only ever come across old codgers in wellies with big dogs and poo bags. BUT, that is how I would most like to meet my ideal man Smile

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:29
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hellsbells76 · 30/09/2011 12:31

chaotic - I imagine a blow-up doll or vaguely-woman-shaped pillow. While crying.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:32

I have a dog but all I ever seem to meet is old men, with the poo bags, although I have to admit I don't usually make it to the countryside.

TimeForMeIsFree · 30/09/2011 12:34

At least when you are in your 20's/30's you can still hit the clubs without looking or feeling out of place. I remember going to clubs when I was younger and sniggering at all the 'old' guys, stood round the edges wearing their thick gold chains and leather bomber jackets, leering at us girls. They were probably only in their 40's!!! Grin There seems to be a gap in the market for the more mature person. We have nowhere to go, other than the local pub, without looking out of place so, meeting members of the opposite sex does become more difficult. I am probably more likely to meet someone in Sainsburys or out for a walk. Or something.

Zanywany · 30/09/2011 12:35

Just read Original Players profile. Talk about elusions of granduer about himself. Definately married.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 30/09/2011 12:36

Grin at blow-up doll.

[sighs] dd mentioned Chipmunk [chippy] and now I fancy some chips so I'm going to have to sign off and get them.

Have fun on your dates tonight, those of you who have them.

Lubey, wear what makes you feel good. That way you can concentrate on having a good time.

TimeForMeIsFree · 30/09/2011 12:36

I bet his wife has numerous threads on Relationships Grin

Zanywany · 30/09/2011 12:40

Why do you think so many men label themselves as genuine, isn't that something you would call a friend rather than yourself. And so many say they are looking for an honest woman - do you think they have been cheated on in the past.

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:42

Mr Trousers called himself genuine. He wasn't wrong, long as he meant 'genuine twat'

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hellsbells76 · 30/09/2011 12:45

I don't take 'genuine man' to mean anything other than 'possesses a penis' tbh.

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lubeybooby · 30/09/2011 12:45

Argh it's nearly 1pm. I must go and actually get some work done. Back later! Date isn't til 8pm btw and is only down the road from me so I will be hanging around here fretting beforehand no doubt.

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Zanywany · 30/09/2011 12:47

If your on POF then check out the pictures on askewchef profile, the third one is very weird

PoppaRob · 30/09/2011 12:49

I was going on hells' quote only. Putting "God's" and "gift" in any context in a profile is asking for trouble! Makes me even more suspicious that he'd cut and pasted the other quote.

time... you're right. Unless you have shitloads of money there are few places to go and meet people, and those that are affordable the carpet sticks to your shoes.

I've just found the text from my old profile on PoF. This was a couple of years ago so be gentle, but I thought it'd give you a laugh. This was part of it...

"First date... hmmm... It'd need to be something like sharing fish and chips at the beach (so long as you don't put vinegar on it! grrr!) or a few drinks at a quiet pub.

If all the people on these websites went to the beach for fish and chips and a walk like we all say in our profiles the chippies would be millionaires and and you wouldn't be able to move on the beach for doe-eyed hopefuls, so perhaps we'll avoid the queue at the fish and chip shop and the crowds at the beach and we could find somewhere nice where we can enjoy a meal or a drink and get to know some more about each other?

Anything would be nice so long as there's talking and listening and seeing if we make each other smile. The first step is both of us taking that leap of faith and actually going on a date! We'll see what happens.

And I'm going to take a lead from the girls here and put in some negatives. I don't need a 10 minute lecture on how you hate lies. I don't need to hear about your 6' plus son who is a nice gentle lad but has been known to beat the crap out of guys who don't treat his Mum right. I'm honest about my size, so please try to do the same for me. If you want to take delight in ridiculing me for my three marriages (that's three (3) marriages), if you enjoy racist jokes or think racism is somehow a good thing... please skip me. Don't bother. We're not going to get on. We may be lonely, but let's not be desperate. It's demeaning to everyone."

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