1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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Yes, I think you will be fine to ask him.

He does sound like a bit of a challenge though, what is it about him that attracts you to him? Are you a bit of a rescuer at heart?

Shiney, could be anti depressants if he suffers from flopsy! I once went out with someone on serious anti phsycotic (sp) drugs (didn't know at the time)and he had no problem in that respect. I would say the former is the lesser of 2 evils tbh.

Lubey, I wouldn't contact him again, he will probably give you the runaround if you do. Not everyone is on dating sites to make new friends, they are looking for a lover.

Watch, just ignore him, he's being a pest.

Yes, you are right Shiney and all of you - ok I won't contact him. So NEXT!! on that one too! Which means I now need to officially join smooch. I said if these two didn't work out then i would, and evidently they haven't so back to the drawing board.

Sounds like AD's Shiney or possible blood pressure meds, or also possibly both.

I will just say at this point that I can't bear it when sex is like that. He would be binned if it was me... may seem very harsh but that isn't something you can particularly work with or work on to improve things. I tried many a time with my ex. Urgh. One point on my list was no unworkable sexual problems or dysfunction. It's a really important thing to me. I also think you're not that into him... so putting both together that would equal a BIN to me. standards

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@ sucmeslowly. Quite ingenious how they think of these names.

Are you on Smooch too Chaotic? I quite like Smooch.

Chaotic he was 'recommended' to me too. I hid his profile! No thank youuuuu

shine I work in mental health, if there's anything you want to know about OCD/AD's etc then pm me (I think we are on FB too).

shiney - maybe well out of turn here, but why are you seeing him, because it sounds like you dont like him all that much and the sex was rubbish AND you are still seeing other people. I dont see the point? like, why?

perhaps im really naieve, but i just thought you sort of went to ' seeing somone' if you actually liked them.

lubey - he might well do the ' wait 3 days thing' before he contacts you? but moving on is best i think, and if he does contact you its a nice surprise.

Oh!!! Well there's me writing him off and i just got a message from him - now that doesn't meant that is a good thing though. Eeek... haven't read it yet so going to go have a look now....

Oooh exciting lubey!

oooh, what does it say?

I would ask him Shiney as he has already told you about it so its not as if your being nosy you just would like to have a bit more info. You don't seem too keen on him though?

Hope he gets bored of the texts soon Watch

Well not heard much from Mr Body apart from a quick reply to a text earlier whereas before we met he was sending lots of texts/emails etc. Typical as now I'm thinking that he may not be as keen its made me like him more

Awh come on lubey....

lubey I didn't get as far as reading his profile

Time yes, I'm on Smooch, things are a little quiet on there atm though.

I've been browsing on OKCupid and there are a couple of nice men on there, so there is some hope.

zany- that is always the way isnt it.

Ummm.... it seems kind of neutral edging towards positive.... It's friendly banter asking me if I had a good night out Saturday and saying he ended up on a night out too after taking a leaf out of my book re: trying to improve social life and saying yes to more invitations from friends (something we talked about on the date) so yeah.... nothing earth shattering but still nice.

Chaotic I didn't read it either just copied and pasted his name into the 'hide' thingy :o

*Zany, it could be that now he feels he has you, so to speak, that he no longer has to put all the effort in he was putting in previously. That's men for you

Lubey, it's a nice message, it's positive and it's an opening for you to mention you are up for gigs. And it's great that he contacted you, you obviously made an impact on him

lubey ????????

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I clicked on someone else's name so he's disappeared for now.

I've just replied in a similar manner to him. Just will see what happens I suppose.

I'm still gonna join smooch though.

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We've been doing it wrong! I'm just watching a downloaded episode of Spooks. To snare the girl all they had to do was bump his profile to the top of her match list on a dating site, she apparently was looking at his profile for 40 minutes (slow reader), cut to them meeting in a pub, then her suggesting they grab a bottle and go back to her flat, 10 minutes later they're snogging on the couch! So there you go girls... you just have to have an internationally known anarchist for a brother and you'll score with a nice young MI5 spook!

shiny thank you for sharing that. I just wondered, do you also prefer to have someone in your life, rather than be alone? I'm intrigued