1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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Charlotte - knob and knob. Nothing to see here, move along! Hope you have some luck with okcupid I never did but I am from a small town!

Hairy - try to just go into the date thinking if there isn't any chemistry at least I may have a new friend. That was what I did with S (although not the new part) and it took the pressure off a bit. Hope you have a great night!

On my phone in the bath classy chick that I am, can't remember what anyone else was doing, shall check later

2 weeks tomorrow until I have my next date

Hi all - Ive been reading this thread with nodding agreement with everyones comments. Ive been on dating websites since I moved to a different area 5 years ago. Met about 9 - had short relationships with 4 and 2 one night flings and the others didnt progress after one date. My main gripe about internet dating is when they do the disappearing act. The first one of the 4 relationships I was quite perplxed - by the third one I thought - oh its the norm . And it always happened with me sending a friend request on fb. Anyways Im not giving up. I am chatting a nice man from POF and surprisingly he added me as a friend on fb so I know hes not got anything to hide. My only probelm is that he lives over an hour away which would mean that it would only be a weekend thing. Ive had a quick meet with him but not yet finalised a proper mate. We have chatted loads on fb and we have expressed how much we like each other. My problem is because he's over an hour away - is it worth pursuing a long distance thing? What are everybodys experience with ldr's?

seaside, if you live in london, everybody is over an hour way....

an hour is nothing really. Hell I even have a gay friend who moved to the USA for her love... and they are very, very happy after a long distance thing. Anything is possible for the right person. Having said that I tend to limit my searches to about an hours ish radius from me.

Oh right. Its just that I read on the POF forums (I admit most of the posters are Americans) that LDR's are not proper relationships - just an excuse to keep your ankles warm with your knickers at weekends. lol. I might give it a go then. I will see if he fancys doing something next weekend .

That's ma girl :o

And look at Stay for example who has just struck up a long distance thing, and it really IS long that one and how we have all been a bit at the best of both worlds thing... keeping single girl habits (hogging the bed and remote etc) while actually not being single :o

My ex husband and I had 3.5 years of livin an hour apart before we took the plunge and lived together. It can work!

Carnt be no worse than the date I had with someone about 2 months ago who lived 5 miles away. Had a nice evening - a quiet pub and a couple of drinks. Quite liked him and he said lets do it again. It came to arrange the 2nd date and I said I would drive over to him. He said no it was ok he'd come to me. I said ok. He then said was it ok to stay over? I said you only live 5 miles away you could drive over? He said he wanted a drink. I said theres always the train. He was then quite adamant that he stopped over - I said I dont think that was appropriate in getting to know each other. He then said he didnt want a relationship - just good sex. WTF. I said goodbye straight away. Cheeky feck

When's your date Hairy, been catching up on the new thread (loving the name Lubey) so my dizzy brain has forgotten now.

Met my FWB tonight and very tempted to meet him for a proper catch up soon

My date is Saturday but feeling less confident as the day goes by

The title is Shineys doing but it's good innit :o

Very bloody cheeky seaside. Why on earth he didn't say so at the start i've no idea.

Zany well, same here but I'm just gonna go and see what happens. If nothing then meh, fine whatever. If friends is possible, also cool, I need a gig buddy. If something more, also good. The worst outcome isn't all that bad really and at least I'll have had a night out

and I'll have a decent update to post here :o whatever happens!

awww thanks lubey i feel a bit better now...was starting to feel a bit bleurgh with the rejection and then the text wank service lmao

Jesus, you lot can talk Just skim read end of last thread and caught up on this one.

I see I'll have to buy a hat

I've just rejoined OKCupid and sneaked a look at PoppaRob's profile.

lubey he's an idiot, the date canceller that is.

charlotte wrt the sexts, tell him to stick it were the sun don't shine cos he'll get more pleasure from that then the texts.

Charlottes well it's true isn't it, you're not that, you're worth much more, but all he seems interested in is text wank material. Tell him to DO ONE. Give him a one way ticket to the far side of fuck. Tell him to fuck off and when he gets there fuck off a bit more. Etc

I was reading through my diary of dating last year. I'm so glad I kept a record. it was hilarious! EVERY SINGLE TIME I met someone, I would be all excited and saying they seemed really nice, and every time I would say I wondered when they would reveal exactly what it was about them that made them an arse/wanker/twat etc. And every single time it came out eventually, the hidden twatness. From Mr trousers to DCI Wankbag and many in between! Dear god I'm due some proper luck soon!

good luck to everyone with dates this weekend. I think just go along with an open mind, at worst it's only one evening out of your lives (well, actually if it's really bad make your excuses quickly and you might not even waste the entire evening!) and of course at best you could be following in Shiney's footsteps

no dates here (I must be the only person on POF who cant get a date...) still I'm out with some lovely friends tomorrow night which am v much looking forward to :)

Seaside I think it all depends on whether you a. fancy them and b. get to decide whether they stay over rather than having it forced on you.

I met Very Nice Man on POF and chatted to him for 2 months never quite getting round to meeting cause he was madly dating and I was busy. When we eventually met for a drink and both went " PHwoar!" I invited him to supper at my house fully intending to hold him hostage until next day. Which was what happened!

Thanks Lubey. I guess he was honest - I couldve gone on 4 or 5 dates and he wouldve done a bunk after the sex anyways. I think all men my age (between 35-40) are after the same thing on POF - no strings attached sex .

Little - I have mostly always fancied the men Ive met up with except for 2. I suppose we carnt have it both ways. We want to meet a hot guy and cos you fancy them you wana see them for a few dates and the usual happens and then when you wana see them more they are like whoa its on my terms and I will see ya when I aint got nothing better to do or anybody else. lol. Its just very frustrating. Or maybe its just me. haha [embarrassed]

Aww get well soon Shiney. Will be an early night for me too. Need to attempt to have a functioning brain for tomorrow!

Ive been on Match and Dating Direct and met a man on both sites. Both blokes did a disappearing act. The only difference was on POF I didnt waste any money.

I spent £32 on a sport-related dating site but the one man I met there was worth it and offered me a money back guarantee of satisfaction! Later revealed as Red Flag Man but some excellent shagging and a confidence boost nonetheless.

I wasted £40 on PARSHIP to find out who was winking at me. He was a cute doctor but I took so long he had found a girlfriend by the time I got in touch. Despite that he wanted pictures etc...

POF on the other hand is free, you can have a laugh or ignore people if they are twattish, and there are some genuine people on there among the freaks. I saw it as a training ground to stop me falling in love with every man who winked at me. That worked and now I have met someone lovely! But it is random and I should think Singles Night in Sainsbury's would work better.

I tried Match a couple of years ago, I did get a few dates out of it I suppose (4 in total I think) but no-one I was that keen on, or got to a second date with.

Admittedly my record is even worse on POF, but at least it's not costing me any money!

Hello all,

Hope you don't mind me butting in, I joined POF just last week and have been out on a date with someone already, how have you all found it, are all the tossers on POF or what?