1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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What an idiot Time don't listen to whatthe idiot said, sounds like he is a sore loser

That made me laugh Lubey So it was nice that I pulled, but she was just too well.... female. Lots of admirers still

I think he was projecting Zany I bet he got a shock when I turned up on Cupid replying to his message on Smooch!

Nice comeback MsCellophane

Well I saw my ex today (as friend) as we had arranged to go to a food festival a while agoe. He desiced to propose and offered to buy me champagne at the champagne bar to celebrate. Ahhhhh. I still love him and even hugginng him and smelling his aftershave makes me want him but he was emotionally immature and was manipulative. The first couple of months we went out I didn't think I fancied him enough so slow burners can work I guess

Do you think it's really shallow of me to reject a guy because he can't spell? I come across so many guy that can hardly string a sentence together or spell really badly and immediately I think bleurghhh!!

Nope, not shallow, just shows you have standards

MsCellophane

charlottes I'm terrible for ignoring men for not being able to string a sentence together. I do make myself ignore the odd spelling mistake but if the grammar is bad and there are loads of spelling mistakes then, yes, I do judge.

I don't think it's an easy one tbh. There could be a valid reason for it, wasn't Einstein supposed to be a bad speller? I do have to admit to being influenced by it though.

I think you can usually tell if it's just a little slip up or something more. Some men seem to type as they speak too, which is only good if they are articulate

shiney am with you on the older man thing. I've always gone for men older than me in the past (starting with a dalliance with a late 40s guy when I was 21 ) but now I'm almost 40, I'm a bit meh even about men my age. My range is early-mid 30s (possibly late 20s if they were quite mature like)

charlottes bad spelling and grammar make me wince, I feel your pain. I don't think it's shallow to reject someone if they can't spell, it's all a numbers game and you have to find some way to whittle it down. Being as deep as a puddle myself, I do reject men for crap spelling as a matter of course, but make an exception for the particularly attractive and/or witty. But if they have a face like a bag of spanners, nothing to say for themselves and can't spell/use proper grammar, I'd just delete immediately

time I come across the type as you speak men often. None of them are articulate

Have to agree, I'm with Hate and Shiny on the older man thing. Older men, which these days means men around my age, just aren't doing it for me.

lol i'm 44, nearly 45 and just cannot relate to men older than me!! They are so...dull. Give me a ripe boy in his late 20's/early 30's any day :)

Re the age thing, now that I'm over the hill myself there is nothing more uplifting than meeting a really fit guy my own age and older. I have always been attracted to younger men but once you get to a 'certain age' yes they look great but not for me anymore. I've hardly ever dated older though and doubt I'm going to start now .

I would excuse a couple of spelling mistakes and text speak (especially if they looked hot) but if it's plainly obvious that they lack an education then I wouldn't reply.

Yep, dull is the word. I've always intended to go for the older man but somehow ended up with guys ever so slightly younger than me, only by a couple of years. But now, those very same men seem to old for me

My preferred age range is probably 35 - 45, and men like my ex who are so much fun and haven't 'lost it' by 57 must be very rare... but the memory of him is a constant reminder to me not to rule it out. I had the best year ever with him.

I'm not actively going after men almost double my age... just IF the right one or a likely one cropped up and he was a LOT older, I'd definitely give it a chance.

I've dated men my age and a tiny bit younger... and I don't rule them out either... I just always seem to get on better and have a better time with 40+

I have seen your threads lubey I'm sorry you had to go through all that pain with your ex. You have bounced back admirably though

Thanks Time... I was just determined not to become a big self fulfilling prophecy of "I'll never meet anyone like him so what's the point"

I told myself that 1) no, I probably won't... but that doesn't mean there isn't someone wonderful out there who is just as great but in different ways and so 2) I had to try however horrible it felt at first.

Glad I did. Pretty much through it now I think after intensive self help, being very very kind to myself and 'getting back in the saddle' dating wise.

I love your attitude lubey you are a strong and fine woman. You will be just fine, you just haven't met a man worthy of you yet, nor a man worth your tears X

Awww thanks. The best thing is finally being able to find and appreciate the positives that came out of the situation. One being much higher general standards due to a clearer idea of what I want and don't want. Which hopefully will fend off any more unworthies :o

Well, just to cheer you girls up, check out Mr Lover Lover on POF

muscletone...Cunt of the highest order, I'm guessing crippling insecurities along with questions about his sexuality. Beautiful

Well, lubey I don't know if I've told you this but I'm all for having high standards

Popping over to POF for a gander at Lover Lover. oooh errr!

His message to me:

WARNING: this message was copied and pasted to like a trillion other girls.. including
ones on other planets in the universe... so your Uncles mothers , cousin`s sister in
law.. yes even her... she got the damn message . Romantic I know...Its called sharin
the love. Read at your own risk.
?hello sweetcheeks?

Be still my beating heart

Would that be Mrloverloveruk Hairy? Its bringing up a few loverlovers, we need specifics

My nose is curling right up at that one Hairy Copy and paste it right back to him with the heading "Returned to sender. Twats need not reapply"

Ooops his username is muscletone

I don't think I can find who you mean hairy... lots of usernames coming up