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1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

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lubeybooby · 29/09/2011 14:40

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 12:32

Thanks all :o

The first one I reckon zany sounds lovely.

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Doha · 01/10/2011 12:56

First sounds great Zany
keep up the good work girls..

TimeForMeIsFree · 01/10/2011 12:58

Pleased to hear all dates were a success one way or another Smile

Lubey have you heard from your date yet today? Has he been back in touch?

Zany I agree with Lubey, first outfit sounds nice, as long as you feel comfortable in it Smile

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 13:30

Nope nothing yet. Not realllllly expecting it though, I suppose, not yet anyway.

Off out with my nutty cross dressing gay best friend tonight. Should be interesting :o Gay club though, so unless I feel a sudden shift to lesbianism not much chance of pulling!

Good luck for tonight Zany by the way!

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RumourOfAHurricane · 01/10/2011 13:53

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lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 13:56

Joining you with a Hmm at the wedding still being on!

Awww I keep remembering things and grinning about last night. So wish it had ended with a snog. Really hope there is at least a chance of a slow burning thing.

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adamschic · 01/10/2011 14:04

Shiny, sound similar to my last short relationship. He was very nice and we got on well but it was never going to be a love thing and the sex was luke warm. He has met someone else now although we are still in touch in a facebook type way.

I am arranging a date next week! It will be a quick coffee after work. He sounds great on paper, I don't really fancy him from the photo but he is the best one that's asked me out so far and lives within a reasonable distance. So I thought I would dip my toe in. Grin

I've been really busy so not been able to keep up with your thread. Anyone want to give a brief rundown? Much appreciated. Still busy next week but will report back on the coffee date, if it happens.

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 14:09

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DonDiegoYDoritoYTinto · 01/10/2011 14:11

er, lubey, don't forget my Venetian admirer!

Ecoplumber has returned, but I think its kind of gone off the boil.

However there is also a rather charming chap I am quite frequent contact with. Might be a good fwb!

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 14:14

Oh yes how could I forget him! :o

That's annoying re ecoplumber though

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DonDiegoYDoritoYTinto · 01/10/2011 14:16

He had been back for a few days before responding to my are you back email. His excuse was that he had had a dental accident (split a tooth) and was too grumpy to talk. Then faffed around about meeting. I told him to get back to me when he was free and I would see what I could do.

Pah!

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 14:41

Pah! Indeed.

I still haven't heard anything... from...anyone. Roll on tonight!

I feel bad about social anxiety man. After not knowing how to answer his last mail, I've completely forgotten him and not said anything. An unintentionally cowardly dumping. I've done the vanishing act!

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adamschic · 01/10/2011 14:54

lubey, thanks for that. Agree about the long distance thing, not sure about the wholenut. Your date sounded great, hope he rings soon.

I would have done the long distance with a couple of hotties that I cut contact with as one said I might be worth a trip Hmm fine in itself but I wanted him to say, will be up next weekend, I've booked a hotel (a single) but they always seem to expect me to organise dates and I won't.

I can kind of tell that I won't fancy next weeks but it's worth a quick coffee just in case.

PoppaRob · 01/10/2011 15:20

PoppaRob checking in. Had a couple of chats and contacts on Oasis. One is a very nice woman who unfortunately was widowed and has only ever had one partner, that being her late husband. Seems nice but wears her hair in a bob , lives at the other end of town (100+Kms) and I'm thinking any relationship will end in her tears so not going there. The other is also nice but seems to be a foodie of European extraction, is a much bigger girl and once again lives across town (85Kms away). We spoke on the phone tonight and I think I succeeded in scaring her off in the nicest possible way.

Just minutes ago I had a contact request on Oasis (no pic) with a profile that reads "Female 51 Australia. Full of life, beat to a different drum, don't do drugs and don't have riches, but happy enough, I am studying at uni and working please note my list of what i don't want is concise. I am a mother and grandmother. My family is as important as yours. please respect that. I also have a life and hobbies of my own, respect that and i will treat you the same. i would like to meet someone with natural intelligence, and who wants to hang out and good company. I am single because my work interferred with a private life for 10 odd years. would like to change that now. Currently my eldest son is staying with me with his children, Hence the children status. What I'm Looking For. Someone who has grown up. LOL. who is comfortable with themselves. Likes good company, and does not want me to replace their mother. A talker and a listener, likes to do things outside of the house. No couch potatoes, No Clubbers. Enjoy the company of people who know there stuff be it cars or agenda 21 or 2012. Someone who can think outside the square. i beat to a different drum do u. And the obvious NO PHOTO,DON'T BOTHER.ILL NOT RESPOND what else ex's r ex's for a reason, and this also applies to people who play games on this site. Only been here two weeks and already worked out there are some losers. No offense to anyone but my finances r my business as well. I don't ask re yours. B/Hell this sounds pretty full on and in a way it is. Just someone nice, and not a con.Oh and no women please." So should I accept the contact request or just pour molten lead into my ears and gouge my eyes out with a spoon and be done with it?

MindyMacready · 01/10/2011 15:29

@PoppaRob Sound like a keeper!

TimeForMeIsFree · 01/10/2011 15:49

OOh I love that profile PoppaRob I think you should give it a go Smile might pinch bits of it myself

Well, I joined Smooch last night after seeing it mentioned on here. Wow, the messages are coming in thick and fast, it's a lot busier than cupid or POF so I recommend it for those wanting a bit of dating site action. Not all wallys either. Yet.

Hatesponge · 01/10/2011 16:05

time I might have to give that a try. POF is not really doing it for me, even with my newly revamped profile (thanks to watch's efforts!) am still only attracting a handful of men, none of whom can spell. Have just had a message from a forces guy (I am a cliche and love men in uniform!) however he lives miles away and is the same height as me...

adams exciting re date! you might like him in person more than you think. Worth a try at least :)

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 16:06

Hey Poppa, ahh give it a go. She sounds ok to me.

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TimeForMeIsFree · 01/10/2011 16:09

Hatesponge I am quite liking Smooch, there are a few POF specials on there but also some decent ones. I have had many more messages on here than on POF or Cupid. You have nothing to lose by giving it a go Smile I love men in uniform too, although I have passed over a minger guy who is obviously a fireman going by the name of Longhose.

Hatesponge · 01/10/2011 16:16

Time eek at Longhose. I bet it isn't actually!

Have hit a stumbling block on Smooch. It's asking me to say what I weigh. I am reluctant to admit to this as I am a) not thin b) probably weigh more than most men.

Do I put the actual figure, or lie and put something much lower? The only other option is 'for me to know' and that looks like I have something to hide!

lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 16:17

I might try smooch if Mr last night or Mr Wednesday don't work out.

I rejoined pof but with a blank profile, just because I was trying to find DCI wankbags profile. Can't find him now but he was there last week. bet he reappears soon, then I can warn you all properly :o

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lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 16:19

Time I would put something that represents the dress size you are. EG I have a friend who is 12 stone but the same size as me (18). I weigh considerably more than that but we are the same size, so I would put 13 stone (or go for the mind you own damn business option)

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lubeybooby · 01/10/2011 16:20

Sorry that was to hatesponge not time

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TimeForMeIsFree · 01/10/2011 16:25

lubey I just wasted 5 minutes of my life trying to remember when I had mentioned my weight. I thought I had early onset dating dementia!

Hate I have put 'don't ask' or whatever the don't be so fecking nosey option is. No way am I putting my weight on a dating site. I close my eyes when I weigh myself!

Hatesponge · 01/10/2011 16:25

lubey I'd prefer a mind your own damn business option :) for me to know just sounds a bit weak!

I'm a sz 14 (just about) but I weigh 14 stone....was thinking of putting 11/12 stone. Which I know is a lie but I think is about what men would expect me to weigh. and frankly unless a date tries to lift me up and carry me (although a colleague did manage this on a night out recently!) he won't know one way or the other Grin