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General internet dating support and chit chat thread

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lubeybooby · 19/09/2011 22:15

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

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TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 13:52

Abs, I've not noticed a 'hide' facility, you may have to upgrade for that.

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lubeybooby · 28/09/2011 13:53

Watch yes it does work both ways but how are they to know you did it because you really wanted to and not because they are just such an amazing player/have such a massive cock/are so good looking you couldn't resist, and that it was all down to their imagined prowess Wink

I promise this is no judgeyness at all, I have no idea what my 'number' is and I've been a very very bad girl in the past...I just do think it's a factor in finding a decent one who will be a boyfriend rather than a one nighter or a FWB. Someone caring rather than out for just sex (even if they claim they want a relationship)

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lubeybooby · 28/09/2011 13:55

Abs you can block people but I'm not sure if it stops them seeing your profile or not, and there is a 'hide' facility but that just stops the person being suggested to you as a match, they can still see and message you.

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TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 13:56

That is something I wanted to say in reply to Popparobs post lubey but daren't because I thought I had already upset him enough Grin.

watchoutforthatsnail · 28/09/2011 13:59

they wont know, will the lubey. but if im not going to see them again, and the 'using ' is mutual, then i really dont give two shits.

that sounds awful, doesnt it.

my number is still low though. so maybe im just not that bothered yet.

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lubeybooby · 28/09/2011 14:00

time :o

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lubeybooby · 28/09/2011 14:01

That must be it, watch. My number doesn't even bear thinking about and i've well and truly had enough of the meaningless stuff now so just want to avoid it - but all power to you if you truly aren't bothered if they stick around or not. Life is for living.

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TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:04

watch I refer thee to thy 9:57am post, the one which brought me from my position of lurking, and ask you very muchly kindly to make your blooming mind up! Grin. You pulled at my heart strings with your downheartedness!

RumourOfAHurricane · 28/09/2011 14:09

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watchoutforthatsnail · 28/09/2011 14:11

im sorry ;)

glad you are not lurking any more though.

yeah, i did feel abit crap this morning. NOT at being rejected, and not at not being called after a shag, but just at the lameness of the situation and how difficult it is to meet someone who you are interested in and who is interested back. To me that seems impossible.

And, i have learnt, to NOT listen to well meaning friends, i totally knew yesterday was not for me, but in the interests of trying things i gave it a go. And now i shall return to my scruffy, long haired boys, with big egos and rejoyce!

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:16
Smile

See, whether you are having casual sex or not, THAT is the problem we all have, difficulty meeting someone who is as interested in you as you are in them. Or even someone who is interesting! Or can spell!

PoppaRob · 28/09/2011 14:21

time, please say whatever you want/need to. I'm watching some downloads (Green Lantern is totally contrived crap - Smurfs was at least fun!), working on some templates for instruments and was just on a video call with a very unsettled GD who is playing her Mum like a fish - but I'm refreshing these pages and following everyone's comments, so please don;t thgink you've offended me or chased me off. It's all good mate! Wink

watchoutforthatsnail · 28/09/2011 14:22

yes, even someone who is interesting. unlike mr ' im a grown up, i registered with a nectar card the other day'
fucking hell.

dross!!!

mr 3 weeks ago had this geeky hobby, he was embarassed about it, and i said i didnt care, its more important to have a passion and be excited about something and so DO something with your life, than do do nothing. bar register with nectar cards.
i love talking to people who are passionate about their thing they do. its exciting.

charlottesmum5 · 28/09/2011 14:30

OMG dilemma girls!!!! Although I've seen Mr Engineer twice now, I was finding it hard to 'pin' him down for a 3rd date, despite him telling me he thinks I'm gorgeous and wants a relationship with me....however he is going on a preplanned weekend with his mates Fri-Mon so I suggested meeting tomorrow night and he said he has to pack (wtf, he is staying in a caravan for 3 nights with 8 mates)..so I said what about next weekend (I'm having an op Friday so I said maybe if Im ok we can meet Saturday, but he said I need to rest)....anyhoo I texted him and said ok, I'll leave it up to you to contact me when you;re ready then...
In the meantime I met Mr. Hot but Dangerous today for a lunchtime drink (feel pissed but I'm sure its the heat)..we've been chatting for a couple of months and I was going to tell him no I don't want to meet him because of Mr Engineer, but then i thought sod it, I'm not going to put my life on hold. Anyhoo, met Mr Hot but Dangerous.......am I allowed to swear on here??? Because he is damned hot, I mean fucking gawjus!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!! And he said he wants to see me again :) The 10 plate red mercedes and the designer suit didn't mean anything honest. OMG what do I do, am I two-timing?

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:31

Awh thanks PoppaRob, I was worried I had blown my chance of a free holiday in Oz Wink

Do you not find nectar cards exciting watch? Have you not seen their website? Its fascinating Grin

I love talking to people who just love talking. So far though the only person I have met who seems to love talking is PoppaRob! The rest of em, well, it's like pulling teeth!! I just can't 'do' one liners.

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:38

charlottesmum at this stage, no, absolutely not two-timing. You are keeping your options open and working hard in your endeavour to find the perfect man for you! It times time, it takes effort, it takes research, you are doing a damned fine job so keep up the good work! Grin

PoppaRob · 28/09/2011 14:39

time, you're very welcome to come visit. Just remember you can't get a decent cup of tea in Australia and they don't have skies like that back home, or so I'm told. Wink

charlottesmum5 · 28/09/2011 14:41

awwwwww thankyou time yes, all in the name of research :)

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:41

PoppaRob, we could have a MN dating thread meet up at your place! Grin

PoppaRob · 28/09/2011 14:41

It's so hard to get someone on the same page as you. time, I was told my someone last year that I could talk under wet concrete with a mouth full of marbles, which apparently was a bad thing. :(

PoppaRob · 28/09/2011 14:42

told by, not told my

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:42

We will need a regular and detailed report of your research though charlottesmum Wink

PoppaRob · 28/09/2011 14:44

Indeed we could. My crappy little house is only a few hundred metres from a nice white sandy beach and there's a great pub just up the hill. The second bedroom only has a toddler bed in it, so short people could toss for that and taller people could fight for the couch.

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/09/2011 14:45

Nooooo PoppaRob talking is never a bad thing! I once thought my ex had been to a Paul McKenna show and not been brought out of his hypnotic trance, he would just sit there while I spoke, not uttering a word, I used to reply to myself! Dove me mad it did. I love good conversation and that is one of my many requirements when it comes to finding my ideal man.

Zanywany · 28/09/2011 14:50

I bagsy the couch Poppa cause I'm tall Grin

Charlottes definately not two-timing. If Mr Engineer won't confirm details despite being interested then he can't/shouldn't expect you to sit and wait for him after just 2 dates.