General internet dating support and chit chat thread

[lubeybooby]

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

Can't sleep again, ffs. I did lots of positive thinking but it's not happening. On the plus side, the evil cold is seeming to be through the worst.

No harm, no foul Madame. I just found your pics to be a bit daunting for a dating site, but my expertise is in failed relationships, not successful ones! ;-)
No argument that you're a very good looking woman and you look far younger than your stated age!

Glad you're feeling better Lubey. Just be yourself, flash that smile and see what happens. If all else fails there's an old fart in Australia who thinks you're pretty cool.

Things are downhill again after only two hours sleep. I think I'd better try and rearrange for tomorrow or thurs. How can I put it so it doesn't seem like a flaky crappy put off?

Sorry to hear you slept badly Lubey How about just being straightforward and saying "I slept really badly last night and I think I would be lousy company, can we postpone till next week?"

His reaction would be informative wouldn't it?

Thanks littlehouse. I've just text him being honest and asking to change the day rather than cancel. Hope he will be ok with it (and still available tomorrow or thurs!)

Oh good he is fine with it and ok for Thurs. Phew!

Glad to hear that lubey

Thursday is probably better as it will give you longer to get over your cold.

Yes I was glad he didn't go for Wednesday for that reason. I'm still suffocating under the tissue mountain and have just got back from a hideous drippy nosed trip to buy all the cold meds and tissues in the world. I'm now not moving ever again (til thurs ;) )

Goodness Shiney your pretty busy date wise this week. Don't know what to say about Mr Third, I guess you have to ask yourself if you would be happy to be in a relationship where the the contact is so hit and miss.

At least you will feel alot better by Thursday Lubey and feeling less eugh for a end of night snog

Well Mr Body has been in contact loads last night, I have a really good feling about it but nervous in case he doesn't find me attractive / there is no spark between us.

Mr Body is the one 4 inch's shorter than me, I did bring it up last night though on instant chat and he is cool with it bit I'm not sure I am. He has 2 boys, been split for about a year. He seems quite muscly in his pictures which I like but never seem to get in a relationship. We have been getting on really well on email/chat and I already feel that there is a spark but just worry that when we meet he won't fancy me, possibly just me having low self esteem. He is completely different from anyone I have dated in the past.

Do you know where your going on a date yet.

lubey - aw, feel better. totally done the right thing by making it thursday.

stay - fantastic, when are you seeing him next?

Shiney, agree with what zany says about mr 3rd date. Have a great date tomorrow as well. ( glossing over the boobs!)

madam, whats this about pics? what am i mising? im on okc, lets have a perv :)

pappa rob, whats your thing again, and ill have a nose too :)

so- date is all set for later., i have about as much enthuasim as a slug. thats been sprinkled with salt. Can somone please give me akick up the arse.

Also, i was asked out again on pof by somone id exchmaged a few messages with... set for next week, swapped numbers. tried to reply this morning, but it wont let me?? blocked? married? WTF????

Here's you kick Watch What's your date like, I can't keep up with who is seeing who yet.
Surely he wouldn't give you his number is he thought it would be blocked/is married , is it a text that won't go or an email via POF?

Am I missing something or have we not had much info on new man from Stay

I am already in 'what shall I wear mode' as most of my outfits go best with high heals

at teeth and breasts Shiney. He is assessing you on your filly qualities. I quite like full on, but then I can be a full on person myself. Hope it all goes well tomorrow!

Zany - Get that low esteem thoughts out of you head. Why wouldnt he fancy you?! Project confidence! Sounds like there is potential so best of luck :)

ah the sassenach. Well I didnt really want to bleat on and come across as a smug non single type of person that needs whacked with a wet fish.

zany - policeman. 2 years younger. big muscles ( if you like that kind of thing- which does nothing for me AT ALL) Erm, own flat, Nice flat too, very swish ( have seen on fb) brand new car. Have known him for a while ish. Sort of has been asking me out for about two years. There is absolutley nothing wrong with him other than i am sure i dont fancy him.
Because id chose the scruffy long hairded idiot who fucks like a machine, over somone actually half decent. ( ponders what is wrong with me)

its ok, i emailed him via pof and now its working again... who knows?

You are in heat watch. It will pass i am not into big muscles. Does nothing for me either. Maybe you might grow to fancy him?! Maybe he fucks like a machine too?!

ah, no., its not just that scruffy long hairded idiot. thats just a general term for anyone like that.
Am a sucker for it anytime. And if you add in some tattoos and a piercing of two im in heaven.

There is NO hope.

maybe policeman can grow his hair long and get a few tattoos and piercings. And stop eating for a few months. I dont think its too much to ask?!

but he is a bit of a family type guy, like he went on holiday with all his familty including cusions and things. And sees him parents regualry etc.. Which is a big thing and important as i like doing that too and long term would want somone who would be happy doing that.

He sounds really nice Watch and he could be a grower, 2 of my closest friends are now married or in long term relationships with guys who they didn't immediately think 'Oh wow' but after a few dates fancied the pants off them. Nice guys can fuck life machines apparantly.
I do have very low self esteem which I should ignore, this is what happens when you spend a few years with someone with a very low sex drive.

watch, I'm Rob_Sellicks on OkCupid and RobSA on PoF.

Good call postponing lubey. Give it a few days and you'll be back on your A game sunshine!

I have been there. 7 Years with someone that was finished in two minutes. Literally. You need to ignore it, that was then, this is now :)

without a doubt he is a 'nice guy' i know that for a fact.

we shall see how tonight goes. my prediction: nice, but no spark at all.

Zany - i get like that sometimes too. Product of past relationships. BUT having looked at your fb pics, you are LOVELY! and any man would be a fool not to like you.