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General internet dating support and chit chat thread

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lubeybooby · 19/09/2011 22:15

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

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PoppaRob · 24/09/2011 04:16

watchoutforthatsnail, I just reread my last post and realised it could be taken the wrong way. I meant the lucky you and lucky him in the nicest possible way. Good on you for having such a great night mate! My envy knows no bounds! :)

HairyGrotter · 24/09/2011 07:14

Watch you lucky bugger!!! Congratulations, I haven't had mind blowing sex since the night I conceived my daughter 4 fucking years ago!

I'm so envious Envy!

RumourOfAHurricane · 24/09/2011 07:59

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watchoutforthatsnail · 24/09/2011 08:22

i had sex last, about 3 weeks ago. I do have ' friends' i can call on, but to be honest, its not been good sex, just meh. I did wonder if it was me maybe.
BUT, last night was proper all over the house, surfaces cleared with the swipe of an arm, 4 hour marthan of filth :)

On reflection the best sex ive had since i was about 21. which is 12 years ago.
I ache like hell this morning.

I have already decided i dont want a relationship with him, but i wouldnt mind doing that again. I dont know what the plan is about sunday, he said something about he was thinking about cycling over, but we kind of didnt say anything, so ill maybe text later this evening.

so - er, stay, how did it go?
Sponge - hes a cock

watchoutforthatsnail · 24/09/2011 08:23

oh. and i just remembered we broke his sink in the bathroom.
classy.
Very, Very Classy.

Hatesponge · 24/09/2011 10:00

Hairy, I'll join you on the Envy front. Although after 2.5 years drought, I would be quite happy with ANY, let alone the mind-blowing.....

Amusing night out last night in pub full of Crystal Palace supporters. The sort of place where men call you Princess and think you're posh if every other word is not an expletive Hmm Grin

Possibly needless to say I didn't pull! Grin

BettySwalloxs · 24/09/2011 10:20
Envy
ike1 · 24/09/2011 10:20

Gosh that sounds exhausting snail..but fun !

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lubeybooby · 24/09/2011 10:34

stay where are yooooooooou?

watch Oooh lucky bugger Envy

I usually do ok for a certain type of friend but I haven't bothered recently just been too busy

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PoppaRob · 24/09/2011 10:52

I feel a definite need to develop a FWB type relationship as describes by shiney and lubey. While watch was having her night of crazy wild monkey sex - I watched a downloaded copy of The Smurfs movie. In a month's time I'll have forgotten about the movie. :(

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lubeybooby · 24/09/2011 13:05

From stay's continued absence I take it she is have a REALLY good time - get back here woman and spill the details! :o

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Zanywany · 24/09/2011 13:47

Stay Spill
Watch you go girl, you never know it could develop into a relationship
Ike I have recently broken up with an ex after getting back with him for a third time (I never learn), be careful and take it slow until he has proved that he has changed
Well I was chating online with Mr Body till aout 2.30am and then agiain this morning. He still hasn't mentioned meeting again though - he needs to step it up a gear Grin

adamschic · 24/09/2011 13:56

I'm through with FWB's. Want something more now, although not sure domestically I'm in the right place and have the time just yet.

Watch, OMG! Was this the first meeting? The rule is never have sex on the first meeting but sounds like it was worth breaking the rule this time. I'm sure you will see him again, cannot imagine a guy not wanting a repeat performance.

stayforthekids1 · 24/09/2011 16:17

will spill all later busy at the mo! But it all went very very well Grin

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lubeybooby · 24/09/2011 16:57

:o

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stayforthekids1 · 24/09/2011 17:33

I broke the no sex on the first date rule too...but then I have long distance cirumstances Grin

PoppaRob · 24/09/2011 17:41

One you miss out on is one you'll never catch up on! Wink

Betty79 · 24/09/2011 18:23

wow looks like some people are having fun Grin good on u i say! Ive had a fairly early phonecall and a few texts from my date so all good :) Looks like I'll def be seeing him next week!

I've never had a fwb, well not since i was in my teens and that was more about me being niave than a mutual set up.

to adamschic, fancy seeing u here Wink

Fairyloo · 24/09/2011 18:27

What on earth is fwb? (scratchy head face)

Betty79 · 24/09/2011 18:32

friend with benefits

watchoutforthatsnail · 25/09/2011 10:46

stay - wooohooo :) so, whats going to happen now?

As expected i wont be seeing him again. I texted last night, no reply, and then agan this morning ( in case he hadnt got it... his phone suposably 'loses' messages sometimes). No reply.
I wouldnt have wanted a replationship with him anyway, but damn, the sex was amazing and i really really wanted to do that again. Saying that, probably better if i dont, i still ache like hell, and im covered in bruises too.

meh.
( attempted to appear not bothered )

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lubeybooby · 25/09/2011 10:54

Ahhh watch. Well at least you had a good night. Don't be surprised if he texts again in about a week like nothing happened, claiming not to have received your texts (if asked about it) etc etc I'm sure you know the type and typical behaviour.

Just found out my FWB is enagaged... so glad I haven't seen him for ages! Shock that's the end of that one then. Wondering if I will need a new one or if one of these blokes I'm currently talking to (or the one I have the date with Tues) will actually go somewhere. Fingers crossed.

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stayforthekids1 · 25/09/2011 11:04

Well he has asked if he can come up and see me again...he is staying one more night then is going back down the road tomorrow. He is just lovely Smile

MindyMacready · 25/09/2011 12:07

Find myself in agreement with lubeybooby! Ignore, delete, avoid. He's playing away and DP has seen his phone.

HairyGrotter · 25/09/2011 12:29

Great news Stay, super stoked for you!

Watch I totally bet that guy will text you in a week or 2 with a lame 'no contact' excuse as he'll want another shag, which is all good if you're up for that (which I would probably be well up for it haha).

I've been emailing a few nice guys on OKCupid, but I seem to attract the 'less than normal' ones (are there any sort of normal ones on websites?) and I'm starting to get paranoid about myself lol. One guy has Asperger's, which tbh I couldn't handle, I'm a LP with no support from the father, and I'm a student so couldn't offer the focus needed. The other guy seems nice but is a little far away. The one I REALLY ruddy like, hasn't contacted me for over 24 hours even though he's looked at my profile (although it was late, suspect he may well have been drunk). Hmphf