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It's official. ALL men are bastards.

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lifeisbetter · 15/09/2011 14:53

...apart from my dad.

They really are.

For a long time I lhave ooked at their positive sides, but all men will turn out to be bastards in the end.

Sometimes men can be quite nice I suppose - especially the younger ones, who are not yet tarnished by some degree of masogyny and cannot perve over of women twenty years their junior.

What happens to them when they reach 35? They all turn out to be sad little leacherous fools.

It's their fault that the divide between men and women just gets bigger as we all get older. Because they don't mature. Women improve and men just become gross.

I'm finding it very hard to like them at all to be honest.

...apart from my dad.

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Malificence · 17/09/2011 12:34

A site like that is going to attract the scum of the earth though.
Normal men, who don't think like that, won't search out such sites - my DH had no idea that they even exist and was sickened when I told him.
It is only a tiny minority of men, even if the membership runs into the hundreds.

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AnyFucker · 17/09/2011 12:36

mal, do you remember the time when MN was invaded by such men and women coming to tell us that we were all prudes and that we should know that actually all our partners were shagging other women while we sat on our laptops ?

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Pan · 17/09/2011 12:42

I don't know what site you talk of, but I think Malifience is right - it will be attracting blokes who go for that sort of thing, if it's what it sounds like - NOT the mainstream of men in the UK.

I know a fair amount of 'good blokes'. I don't 'know' many shits, but then I/we sort of grade them out of our lives. Obv. trickier for women who engage in relationships with them.

Abusive blokes seem to carry round a radar with them, and go for women who they detect are not very well defended against their sort. Similar to child abuser? They detect when a child isn't being very well cared for often, and so vulnerable t othem.

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Malificence · 17/09/2011 12:42

I do, unfortunately. It just shows the mindset of such vile people that they would come here to mock and belittle women in obvious distress.

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AnyFucker · 17/09/2011 12:43

so very true, Pan

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Pan · 17/09/2011 12:47

just seen the FS stuff!

It's really tricky for blokes! 'does she want feathering? or does she just want a good shagging? Ponders.'

This may be news just in to some of you, but...sometimes....it's really hard to read you! And sometimes....you like it that way!

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AnyFucker · 17/09/2011 12:52

I think some people can be hard to read. That would drive me mad.

Which is why I advocate honesty and straight talking in life, and in relationships. It is pefectly possible to do it without hurting someone's feelings, if you have an ounce of emotional inteliigence.

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dahlia4 · 17/09/2011 12:53

Pan. Hopefully, though, you know the person well enough to know what they like. And you can ask them as well.

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Pan · 17/09/2011 12:56

yes, I'm being a bit playful there..of course you can do those things....but in cricket I hear there is a term called 'the corridor of uncertainty' (something to do with bowling just outside the stumps, I think). It's where intrigue and guessworks happens. Not a bad thing in relatonships, iirc.