The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

Fair Holy shit at spiders crawling back out of hoovers! I have probably been hoovering up the same spider all week, thinking it was an invasion. BTW when I gave up booze I lost 10lbs and it has stayed off, mind you hangovers used to trigger mega food binges and I was having a lot of hangovers at the end, even when I only drank one glass of wine.
Mouse sorry to hear you had another fall, take care, I'm sending you a (((hug))) x

faire - i'm already on it. i lost 4lbs this week from exercising myself silly and eating better. ideally i'd like to lose another 16lbs and then try and stay put. (staying put is the challenge i find)

mouse - more hugs. i'm so glad you have the hospital tomorrow x

drinking is two fold weight wise for me, or maybe threefold - booze is full of alcohol, being full of alcohol makes me want to then soak it up with food before i go to bed and yes hangovers crave carbs and junk. i also found i didn't have the motivation to prepare healthy food when i was more focussed on alcohol than eating.

Saf you can be my hero inspiration. I do badminton, zumba, swimming, pilates type exercising but can't run much because my knees are bad (probably from carrying around all that excess weight for so long). You are so right about alcohol and bad food going hand in hand and struggling to cut down the booze is undoubtedly what's held me back for so long. I do really want to do this though so will try harder than ever. Keeping it off is key, and I think that can only really be done by changing habits and lifestyle which is what we are all trying to do anyway.

I have probably been hoovering up the same spider all week, thinking it was an invasion

MissP I am actually starting to feel sorry for the poor bloody spider .

ok well we'll try and keep each other motivated then faire. i've only done one week btw so i'm not someone to look to believe me really hoping to keep it up. did running (more like run walk pant run walk pant...), swimming, zumba and astanga yoga this week.

this week hoping to do the zumba again and a yoga class and swim and also try to get to the gym and use the cross trainer and treadmill. thinking running is a bit hard core on my knee and also less likely to appeal when it starts pouring it down and getting all boggy out there. i've also seen a mixed circuit class advertised locally that looks like it would be a good work out if i can face going and making an arse of myself at yet another new thing. believe me my attempt at zumba was very worthy.

at traumatised spider who has been trying to escape from missp's house all week

hi all. would love to lose weight too and stop drinking but fail with both. i am sure there must be a connection
Have a big conference on Friday and just know that I won't be able to fasten the skirt.....I wish I had some bloody will power.
mouse my friend, I'm worried about you. how much are you drinking these days if you keep falling over...
well done to the non-drinking babes, you humble and shame me.
Spiders!!!! Fucking hate the hairy fuckers. am on permanent twitch these days.

Ma "Fucking hate the hairy fuckers." My quote of the week x

Can I join your bus please?

I really need some help before it is too late for me :(

Hi destiny and welcome. Have you been following the thread(s)?

Thank you. Just this one, I am about half way through it at the moment :)

I know I have a problem, I have had for years. My life is just one big mess (not because I drink, my 'D'H is emotionally, verbally and financially abusive) and I cannot find any better emotional pain killer than alcohol. But now I need so much more of it! I have to find a way to stop but I am scared. Scared to stop suddenly, scared to go to my GP and so ashamed of myself.

Well destiny you have found a safe place here. There are lots of lovely, supportive Babes who will be able to help and advise you. Firstly, you need not be ashamed. What you are describing is not your fault. Are you drinking right now?

No. Although it isnt unheard of for me to start at 3.00 pm.

I have to go out in a little while and I will be driving so, no.. no alcohol yet.

I dont know how to say this, but I feel afraid to stop. I try to limit myself but once I have had that first (and sorry but bloody delicious) glass of cold white wine, I have to have another.

If go without any wine, I spend the time worrying about whether I will have dire withdrawal symptoms, or when I have had a drink I worry about the harm I am doing to my health and the fact that I cant afford to drink anyway! Something has to change.

And thanks for taking an interest. I dont tell anyone in RL I am too ashamed of myself and embarrassed.

Hello destiny, welcome to the Bus.

my 'D'H is emotionally, verbally and financially abusive) and I cannot find any better emotional pain killer than alcohol.

I'm sorry to read that and I have to agree. I have been in your shoes and alcohol really helped me to blur the edges of what was going on around me. The bruises were less visible when I couldn't see straight. The shouting was just noise when I could understand him.

Thing is though, by drinking, you are putting yourself in more danger. I found that our the hard way. If you are drunk and he goes to hit you, you won't move as quickly. Or you won't be able to fight him off should he decided he wants sex and you don't.

Have you talked to anyone about your relationship?

Can anyone help you?

Do you have children with him?

I really feel for you xx

Hi,

He doesnt hit me, it would be easier if he did :(

I am trying very hard to start divorce proceedings but I am afraid of the consequences, living here because I cant afford to leave, our kids are young adults and both still at home. He is mostly abusive to our daughter, he thinks the world of our son. I have had counselling which has helped but I am the only one who can make this get better and I am struggling finding the courage to leave. So, I console myself with my wine.

I have to go out now. But I most definitely will be back to read more.

Thanks for your kindness.......

I dont know how to say this, but I feel afraid to stop. You are certainly not alone there. Many of us try to cut down rather than stop completely and many of us realise that that just doesn't work for us.

However, drinking because you are worried about withdrawal symptoms is not really the answer is it?

I would suggest a visit to the GP and a frank discussion about how you can reduce. This will allay your fears of withdrawal. You do not need to be ashamed. Your GP will have seen it all before and then some.

We can help you too. Keep posting

Hi mouse how are you feeling today? Resting I hope. Is it tomorrow you go for more tests?

Oh destiny - what a horrid situation for you to be in. Yes, come back and talk tome more. If you have a good relationship with your GP, I second going to see them. xx

Faire - yes, luckily I'm going tomorrow. My fall this morning has scared me rather more than the last. I thought it was just fatigue........ I have full blood works done and an ECG tomorrow afternoon. I just need to get there now!!

I don't feel safe driving, just in case. It could happen any time, any place so I'd hate to cause an accident or injure some poor innocent person just through driving. Very selfish. I'll find a friend or get a cab, it's not too far.

It's definitely Autumn here today, lots of cool air and grey rain clouds......

Hi again,

The doctors at my surgery are all absolutely amazing. I cannot fault them, they have been so supportive because of my situation here. I just dont seem to have the courage to tackle any of my problems, and I have a little bit of hope that if only I could get the divorce over with, my problems with drinking wouldnt be so bad.

This sounds so sad, but I spend every evening in my bedroom on my own with my pc and my cd player, a glass (or more) of wine makes it so much more bearable. I am not depressed. I am just so unhappy.

Perhaps I should be posting for help to start divorce proceedings!

But now I am here I feel more positive. I will tell myself repeatedly 'I can give up alcohol!' Until I believe it. :)

Thanks again for your kind comments.

Destiny -you can post in 'legal' where you'll find lots of helpful people who work as lawyers etc....

Or you can start your own thread in Relationships where that are dozens of posters who have been where you are now who can help.

Talk to your GP about your drinking, let them help you. You said yourself you felt like you needed help, let people into your life so that they can help you xx

Thanks. I know I need help. But I am so afraid of letting people down when they try to help.

I am going to bed :) I wont drink any more that way. I have had just over one bottle of wine. Luckily it makes me sleepy.

I will post again. Tonght has not been greatly successful but at least no worse!

Right, am just having a little bit of cheese and biccies before I have to say goodbye to them .

destiny - sleep well. Tomorrow is a whole new day. Please promise yourself that you will try to find a way to get some support in RL x

You starting a diet then Faire?

Off to bed too. I have just eaten a third of a desert from M&S, Hot Cholcolate Fudge Cake, melt in the middle.

Oh.

My.

God.

No booze tonight, couple of Becks Blue earlier.

Sleep well Babes xx

Oi . Yes, as a matter of fact, I am starting a serious diet tomorrow so am not sharing my cheese, so there, rasp!

Confession time, I also had vanilla, toffee & fudge ice cream, to which I added nutella . I am so greeeeeeeeeeedy

But I did buy slimming world magazine to read tomorrow