The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

Morning everyone!

Hello All,
Just been trying to catch up on how you are all doing?
Hope you are OK Mouse

I haven't been here for over a week, for which I apologise. I have been doing OK, after a week of migraine & headaches... Seem to have passed now and definately helped with not drinking!

I have mostly not drunk any alcohol - none during weekdays and last night had a couple of glasses, so feel fine this morning (but at the same time, I wonder why I bothered!!)

That feeling of needing a drink is incredible really. Right now, there is no way I would want a glass of wine, nor at lunch time or mid afternoon, but by 6/7 o'clock I might. And at this point it may seem really important to my evening.

DH has come round to the idea of joining me, he too managed all weekdays this week, which is an achievement for him. However, he is most likely to give in first, to which I will easily follow for not wanting a disagreement and secretly quite wanting a drink. DH gets a bit sulky from mid afternoon if he knows that it is a non-drinking night, which bugs me, because I will try and turn it into a food night with the kids. I have noticed that he has been quite irritable this week, he was drinking much more than me, and last night drank much more than me. Although, when I suggested that he might regret the massive glass of red wine he poured for himself at the end of the evening last night, he poured it back in the bottle. So he is definitely consciously trying to change. I am worried that stopping completely for him may be a shock to his system. I don't want to be on my high horse either. I am trying really hard to change but I feel able to have only a couple of glasses if I do drink (although in my heart of hearts I would rather stop altogether and I am disappointed that I broke the spell last night).

Sorry for such a ramble, and sorry that I have not kept up on the thread. It is great that there are so many brave babes.

Anyway, I am up and feeling fine (although a little tired from DDs climbing into my bed in the middle of the night), and going to plan a nice days with my beautiful dds.

Best of days to all x

Morning!
I had drinking dreams all night last night, really odd and unsettling, Isindie I am not sure if we can ever escape the demon, maybe it just has to be part of our psyche, like all the other experiences good and bad...
However in my dream each time I took a drink, I took one sip and then poured it away, over and over again, so at least my subconcious (sp?) knows that I am not supposed to be drinking

Soberme well done! It sounds like you are doing really well. Good to hear that DH is giving it a go as well, but try not to worry about what/whether he is drinking.

Do what you want to do, for yourself, you're so worth it!

Thanks WannaB

I haven't had the drinking dreams yet - used to get the smoking ones when I gave up years ago (still occasionally get them actually)!

Morning everyone, I am pleased to report that I am the queen of smug double smug smugness this morning and it feels really good.

I must admit I did struggle, spent the evening clutching fizzy water with lime and ice like a crazy woman staring at DCI Banks on TV but thinking about wine in an almost lustful way .

Weirdly this morning I actually am thinking ooooo I don't even want my permitted couple of glasses of wine over a meal out later but hey I am sure that will change and I MUST stay strong about the 2 glasses. Definitely going to start on soft drinks that is for sure.

I hope that you are all clear headed today and feeling positive mouse I hope that you managed to get some sleep it must be very worrying .

I agree with a comment earlier why should our hugs be furtive? so huge big HUGS to all and welcome to Saturday

SAF thanks for the positive spin on the dreams, I was thinking (poor me, poor me, emoticon) that I would never escape, but I like the programming idea instead
IME the wheels of academia grind very slowly, try not to worry.

No it's me, I only ever seem to post when everyone else has gone to bed, or gone out, or something

That would be the same wheels of academia who are not letting me have my exam results until November, notwithstanding that the second half of my course starts next week? Am sure that's likely to be what it is, SAF, but doesn't make it less frustrating!

Have just spent the day on an open top bus trip around London, quite interesting for a now-native (DS studying London at school at the moment).

sober night last night, might plump for a glass of wine with Xfactor though, just because it's that sort of programme.....

I have to say that Eastenders seems a lot less plausible in the absence of wine - last night's "I hate you Dad"... oh, seems I got it wrong, "I really love you Dad" storyline was decidedly OTT.

just a heads up - i've had my whole posting history as both SAFs deleted - was having trouble with some nasty antifeminist stalking and worried i was too identifiable and that i shared much too personal stuff on MN that i didn't want these trolls trawling through either. hence the, 'message withdrawn' posts.

That sounds horrible, I hope you are OK. Should we refer to you as 'she who should not be named' (SWSNBN) from now on??

Evening Brave Babes

Nice to see you SoberMe - and thanks xx

Well, I've been off to a 'spiritualist' and mind fayre. It was wonderful, lots of Reiki and head massages, fortune telling (I didn't bother) and something called EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapies) which I am going to try to help me deal with my abusive past. Best of all, the lady is very local!

So a good day was had by this little mouse and the Reiki is something else that I think will help. The lady doing it got goosebumps, cried and sad that I touched her soul.

Anyway, fab day

How are we all?

I notice that SAF has had her posts pulled, not to worry all, she'll come explain I'm sure. But just so you know, it's nothing to do with any of us

Hello legal, you okay?

X posted with SAF I see!!!!

Just a quick check in - good if emotional day, tried to do a bit too much I think (I have the same number of hours in the day as everyone else. Repeat as necessary.... which is often lately) but now have DD in bed, I'm in my pyjamas, and I'm going to iron and read I think. It's an exciting life. I am loving seeing the way my DD has grown in just 2 weeks at school, she is so ready for it, and it's a church school with just fabulous Bible teaching (not everyone's thing I know) and she is growing in her understanding of the world so much too. Very proud Mummy.

noteven - what a fantastic post from you. Bless your heart. Please, absorb this feeling deep within you. The image of your beautiful DD in her bed, safe at home with you. Sleeping well, dreaming of you and her having days out... days in..... getting back on track.

I know you and I didn't quite get off to the best start...... to close to the bone for me but looking at you right now, seeing you do it, makes me feel very humbled to know you.

Keep going.

Sending you love xxxx

Busy, busy, busy, busy weekend, but I still find time to rad all the posts, and I'm touched and warmed by so much on here .

Off to bed early, but I'm nearly finished my book so it'll be a difficult judgement to make - don't want to go too early or I'll finish my book and i don't have another one lined up.

Hope people are having a good evening, and have a lovely Sunday.

happy sunday lovely babes.

i didn't drink yesterday which means i've had 3 days of no alcohol and in the last week i drank on two occasions - altogether 2 pints and a bottle of becks. pretty pleased with that wondering whether to just stick to it and go for 7 days alcohol free or to continue with the have one if you really want one but it can't turn into every day or excessive strategy.

not sure of plans today. possibly a long walk with dog and boy at some stage.

Hi everyone, I am loving Autumn, I have a major Spider offensive in progress!! 1. At least 2000 conkers strategically placed around the house. 2. Hoover on red alert at all times. 3. All plugs in sinks in the bloody holes. I don't care if they are just friendly males looking for mates, they still have long hairy legs. I met one last night so big it winked at me FFS.

Hi all, last day if the cricket season today so am posting from the edge of a cricket oval, weather decidedly autumnal but it's ok as there's a train station nearby so can make a break for it when boredom and showers set in. Drank half a bottle of wine with dinner last night, was fine, no hangover and have been for a run this morning. It was freezing - may have to look into a few months of gym membership over the winter!

After lots of googling the nausea etc symptoms I've been suffering since cutting down drinking, I think the iron supplements may be at fault. Have laid off them for the last three days and feel better already.

Afternoon Babes

I have had another fall this morning so feel very weepy and bruised

Well done on stopping at half a bottle legal, sounds like you are taking control of that demon. Just don't let it trip you up!

MissP - I HATE SPIDERS being rural means we get a fair few of the buggers, never small ones, oh no. Our spiders are big enough for Nemo to ride on! Yuk. They make my skin crawl. We had one in the kitchen last week and when DH chucked it out of the kitchen door, we could still see it strolling off across the court yard in the DARK! It was mooooooooooooooooooosive.

I have a fridge full of nice non alcoholic drinks ready for that demon of mine. Definitely need to stay off the booze with these black out spells.

Off for a shower and then to M&S to get something nice for dinner, it's like the end of the world here today. Brrrrr and wet.

legal glad you are feeling better. Iron, who would have thought it?

MissP I had to get DH to get a huge hairy spider out of the bath. He said (scornfully) oh what a fuss, it's already dead. But he still poked it before it picked it up just to make sure it . You do know they can crawl back out of vacuum cleaners?

Saf you are doing so well. You are starting to achieve what you set out to do.

I am planning to lose 30lb in 90 days eek! Quite a challenge but I don't want the booze to wreck it. Not projecting but am going to stay off it as much as I can. Starting Monday of course . It will take me up to just before Christmas so I'll be in shape for the party season. Anyone want to join me? DH will but he's so fecking moderate in everything he does, he doesn't really need to lose that much. I could do with a motivation buddy.

How are all the lurkers? Hope you're ok babes x