The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

Hello theala - I am new to this thread too. i have managed 2 nights with no wine, but have to admit I am very tempted this evening for some reason.... LIke you, I would love to be able to just drink sensibly, but after a glass or two I am not sensible and seem to get the taste for it!

mouse - I don't know your past, but you sound very strong and I am sure you will work everything out (you certainly are helping others on this bus!)

MOP - I am wishing that I had not told my DH about not drinking - he decided to join me last night and was very animated about tis being the start of his new cycle in 'his' life, yet has just popped to the shop for beer!!!! So maybe doing it quietly is a good idea - you are doing really well.

Anyway, wishing everyone a good evening. I may have a glass of wine with dinner to see if I can, shall let you know if there is any sense in this in the morning (i am sure you are all thinking 'noooo don't do it' and you are probably right).

x

legalalien - you sound very like me, I hope I can get to the scent of wine sending me to sleep stage

legal you know it .

thurso - my dear friend. To read your post about something happening to you at 11 made my eyes fill with tears. It seems that a lot of the Brave Babes have been through some truly horrid things in the past.

Maybe some of these 'things' shaped us into the women that we are today. I, like you thurso, don't want to talk about it to someone who may judge me, someone who may think of me as part of their case load.

I'm so pleased that you have your DH there. I know he gets on your tits bugs you, but if he hadn't suggested that, you'd have felt super bad this morning and hungover.

Sober - thank you. Good luck having just the one glass.

Legal - don't shoe those shoes to Jesus whatever you do!

And thank you to all of you who have posted messages of support. xxx

Hi Babes and welcome to Soberme and Theala

Had a busy but good weekend with friends staying. Had a little wine (planned) & my friend was surprised that she drank 3x as much as me. It's usually the other way round!! Told her I was dieting which is not a complete lie as I am still counting calories.

Talking of calories noteven I don't think your in cloud cuckoo land and I say go for it. Is it something you could start from home? Keep costs down?

Soberme I think we all have to test ourselves now and again. It helps us learn whether or not we can control or moderate our drinking.

Well done all those not drinking.

Mouse so sorry for all the shit you've been through. Don't know anything about it and no advice to offer except what others have said already, but thinking of you x

hey all - nothing much to report, just checking in.

Hi all
checking in. not doing so well , lots of family stuff irritating the hell out of me. had a couple of glasses earlier but thats its, i dont even want anymore or anything to eat. Going to bed soon to try and forget today ever happened, at least i wont have a hangover .

tryandtry - One. Day. At. A. Time. Little steps sweets. I know I'm not want to talk right now but RL does get in the way. It gets in the way of you trying to stop drinking doesn't it?

An early night sounds good but try and have a piece of toast and a cup of tea? Or maybe I can find you the last slice of cherry cake I made earlier?

Sleep well. xx

Faire - well done on not getting trashed. It always amazes me when you notice you're drinking less than your mates! And thanks xx

TV here and a nice glass of my new posh French lemonade. Nemo has crashed and DD has to go to bed early and is NOT looking forward to school. Thing is, she's so good at school, so bright. I wish she'd just accept that she has to go.

noteven - was it today that you saw DD? Did you take her to school? How was it? xx

Hey Ma xx

Well done tawdry. keep going!

Now I know this is a silly question but what's the alkie consensus on non-alcoholic beer? Just wondered. I know we have free will etc but I'd be interested to know. And using wine for cooking? Jesus, Noteven, Bafana; any thoughts?

I realise that last post seems as though I'm targeting 3 of our lovely babes and labelling them as alkies. That's not what o meant. I just know that you three have done particularly well with your recoveries, and that you attend meetings and could give the official AA perspective.

MOP - personally, for me, I like Becks Blue beer. I still cook with red wine in casseroles or tapas but at first I swapped red wine with Worcestershire sauce/chill etc.

The booze burns off in the cooking process.

But, to me, if you are going to abstain from all alcohol, then that to me means all. I believe that anything with alcohol in will give you that taste again.

Rescue Remedies have booze in too! Who'd have thought?

Right, bed.

Night night all xxxx

Well done tawdry you are awesome.

Blagh! opened up a can of worms inside tonight!

Keeping going though!, or trying to!

Xxxx

what's happened Thurso, my friend?

Oh, sorry, Thurso, is everything okay?

hmmm, must try this Becks Blue. I am like you Tawdry, it is very much a habit. I have had 3 glasses of wine and will go to bed shortly. don't feel the need to finish the bottle or anything, but wish I could have a few alcohol free nights without feeling I'm missing out!

I'm fineish (is that a word)!, thanks tawdry,
just too much thinking!!!
xxx

evening!

mouse - i have a few 'ponderings' for you! - i think that most of us have something in our lives that is scary/horrible/upsetting/sick-making to remember (im NOT minimising what happened to you by using those words btw) - i also think that when we look back at some of those things we feel that we caused it/were responsible for it/didnt do enough to stop it/allowed it to happen - i think it is those thoughts that cause us the most trouble, not the deed iyswim? -
on one level we KNOW that we didnt cause whatever happened to happen but almost in the same breath we wonder why we allowed it to, its the same nasty insidious voice that tells us we need a drink, that we arent worth more a bottle of gin and a meaningless shag -
in essence, our control over our own lives was taken away and that is what causes us to go over and over and over past events -
i believe that having the control removed, by force, by someone we had given our love and trust too is a sure fire way to feel worthless/stupid (add any word here you like) -
i also believe that talking about it minimises its power over you, once those thoughts are out in the open they cant hurt you anymore, you have shared it and it has started to shrink and everytime you talk about what happened to you it shrinks in importance a tiny bit more (sorry, im struggling here to articulate and i hope you do understand what im trying to say!) - just keep talking, let out the thoughts that swim in your head, dont hang on to them! - dh will not see you as 'damaged goods', he loves you, he is a kind man!, he may well be angry, buts its not directed at you! - what happened to you is part of your history, it goes some way to make you the person you are today, you must not let it define you though! i know it wont if you keep talking, keep going through this hard bit now and you will come through it, stronger, better, wiser!

L XXXXXXXX

hmm! becks blue - i quite like it! my friend bought me a bottle of de-alcoholised wine the other night, ughhhh shudder spit! it was disgusting!

as to cooking with wine/beer, when i first stopped drinking i advoided it like the plague, i was really scared of the smell, in case i liked it too much and couldnt stop myself drinking the rest - these days im much better, i can use it pretty much anytime although i do get dh to uncork bottles for me, for some reason i just feel thats part of a ritual i darent revisit!

Just checking in to say goodnight, well done to those who are sticking to their plans and thurso, hope you feel better in the morning. If we made a list of similarities and differences on the bus I suspect overthinking might be in the similarities column.

Great to see all the new joiners in the last week or so. I fear however that I'm starting to confuse names so apologies in advance for any wrongly addressed messages. What we really need is a big SPREADSHEET . where is msgee when you need her? Everyone knows lawyers can't do excel.

Good morning babes,

It's horrible, wet and windy here. Summer appears to be over.

I was somewhat sorry that I posted what I did last night, as it opened doors inside me that I thought were locked for good. Then I thought maybe it was the time for me to think about it again, and try not to let it hurt anymore. Anyway, not a big deal in the scheme of things.

JWN I know your words were meant for Mousie but just to say thanks, they resonated with me, too.

I hope all of you slept well, and have a good morning. Sorry not to name check everyone, a spread sheet sounds a fab idea, Isindie, Msgee?

xx