The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

Ok - I had about 3 glasses of wine - had a terrible night. DH was horrible. I slept badly. I have a splitting headache and it is pouring with rain and I have loads of stuff to do. Feeling miserable :(

I am definitely not drinking tonight.

Hope you all have a lovely day, and sorry for being miserable and me, me, me....

Morning All

mOuse and thurso hope your both ok this morning.
Have typed several things out, but keep deleting, as they sound trite and condescending. I understand only too well how you are feeling .

Fortunately I am in a good place at the moment, and although I can think about it, it is currently holding no power over me, and I can not have the negative thoughts, self doubt etc swirling around in my head, in an increasing emotional vortex of unhappiness,

inde glad to hear that the twins are beginning to grasp the sleeping all night thing . Hope the increased uninterupted sleep is good for you and DP too!

Becks Blue - I am an Anti, that's my personal choice. TBH,
For me, it is pretending to be something that I am not. I don't drink, I will not be embarassed by it, I tend to drink loads of water when I am out, or soda and lime. For the most part, at home, I now drink tea (and the list of teas I have grows ever longer!) coffee and cordial.
When I first stopped drinking, I drank posh cordial out of a wine glass, But I don't do that anymore either.

For cooking, I have substituted, and looked for alternatives. Not because I feel I have to, but because I want to. All or nothing girl me, one of my less endearing qualities! .

Right. Off to get ready for the day.
Have a good one everybody

Bafana
xxx

Love inde's summary. I don't cook with alcohol because it messes with my head! It boils at 87 degrees so the alcohol will boil before the water does (at 100 - you should see it boil, stop, and start again, I could draw you a nice graph!) - it's not really about the ingestion of it, just as it isn't with de-alcoholised wine (for me, anyway) - its about the motives. If I am happy in my sobriety, why would I need alcohol substitutes? After where it's taken me, is the taste of my risotto without white wine really the issue, or is it a reluctance to let go absolutely of my old ways and justifications.
But it's whatever works - I would never insist on this for anyone else - I know for me it is the right way to go about it, and I have peacefulness in my head these days (and my casseroles and risottos taste just great :) ).

I am angry this morning with my letting agents who did an inspection, 3 months early, and think the house isn't tidy enough. Because there are things on the worktops. AAAARRGGGHHHH...... and yes there is history with this letting agent, they are truly the worst I have encountered in my years of renting, truly hopeless, rude, unpleasant and unhelpful. (But when I am disturbed, no matter what the cause, I must look within me.... and breathe... it's not the end of the world.)

But, anyway, collecting DD from school and going swimming later :)

morning all
soberme forget last night, in terms of drinking, today is a new day. The reason this bus is still on the road is that no-one said it would be a short journey!
speaking of which, where is Silver these days?? Run off with MiF?

Morning! Sorry, you're having a rough time with your DH, SoberMe. Do you want to talk about it?

Morning.

Feel crap this morning, been feeling weepy all weekend and last night I thought 'sod it' and so had a bottle of wine as a treat for not drinking much over the weekend . Had a fall out with XP whom I used to live with but have been seeing as just friends recently, he could be quite immature/emotionally abusive but for the last 2 months has been a changed man, until friday night! Feeling very confused now, weepy, lonely as my friends seem to have disappeared recently, stressed with the DC's and XH being a twat difficult still. Just had enough at the moment and in need to a break!

Morning Babes - just quickly, I have a list of Brave Babe names. I've had it since we started 'The Brave Babes Battle Bus' threads, over a year ago!!

The thing is, I an't just put it out there, but I can PM anyone who wants it.

BUT - as we've said in the past, it has to be okay with everyone who has posted on the recent threads.

I keep a record of posters over the last three months. No longer back as if we don't hear from people after 12 weeks, chances are they don't want to post any more.

Which is completely their right and totaly fine with us!

So.

What I need is a list of who is happy to have their name (MN name) know as a Brave Babe.

Right, off to catch up, back soon xx

I'm a brave babe

Morning, just checking in.

Posted too quick, I'm a brave babe :)

me too. And virtuous as well (just came back from a run in the rain and wind. Actually, I think it's the best weather for running in- sort of Wuthering Heightsish. Not that I manage more than 30 minutes anyway.).

Legal, that's 29 minutes, 30 seconds longer than I could manage

Hello Brave Babes. I've lurked a few times, and been steeling myself to join the bus. Not sure I am ready for those front seats at the top yet though. Thanks for your company so far....

I'm alcohol dependent, love the stuff, and the release it brings from anxiety. Hate the headaches and the sluggishness next day though, and hate that I find it so hard to control. Every morning I am going to not drink that night, but by the evening I lose all resolve. I don't drink in the day, but I drink every night, often sneaking booze behind lovely Mr Clambering's back (he's disgustingly restrained and horribly psychologically balanced....).
Always used alcohol to wind down: I am a big swotty swot, and I used it first to calm down and help sleep after revising for A levels - I have a PhD now, so that is a lot of boozey calming over the years. Nowadays in a nice job and not studying, but it's the kids I feel I need calming down from. They are normal shouty loud boys, well behaved in public, horrors at home sometimes - just normal I know, but I find it so over stimulating, and the booze seems such an easy quick way to calm down.
Feel I've tried lots of ways to reduce or stop, I am seeing a therapist (exploring/trying to heal legacy of barmy, though tea total parents.....) and I try to meditate and practise mindfulness, though I am not regular enough at that.
I want to join the bus just so I can have some other Babes to talk to, and who understand.

I'm going to try not to drink tonight.....
ClamberingUp

Morning All

mOuse and thurso hope your both ok this morning.
Have typed several things out, but keep deleting, as they sound trite and condescending. I understand only too well how you are feeling .

Fortunately I am in a good place at the moment, and although I can think about it, it is currently holding no power over me, and I can not have the negative thoughts, self doubt etc swirling around in my head, in an increasing emotional vortex of unhappiness,

inde glad to hear that the twins are beginning to grasp the sleeping all night thing . Hope the increased uninterupted sleep is good for you and DP too!

Becks Blue - I am an Anti, that's my personal choice. TBH,
For me, it is pretending to be something that I am not. I don't drink, I will not be embarassed by it, I tend to drink loads of water when I am out, or soda and lime. For the most part, at home, I now drink tea (and the list of teas I have grows ever longer!) coffee and cordial.
When I first stopped drinking, I drank posh cordial out of a wine glass, But I don't do that anymore either.

For cooking, I have substituted, and looked for alternatives. Not because I feel I have to, but because I want to. All or nothing girl me, one of my less endearing qualities! .

Right. Off to get ready for the day.
Have a good one everybody

Bafana
xxx

Ok, no idea how I managed that!!
Mouse - I am prepared to be counted - nay delighted to be counted as a brave babe :-)

Clambering - come and sit next to me!

Swot - check
overuse of alcohol to calm brain down - check
too much wine in evenings - check
mad parent and sane dh - check

we will have lots to discuss over a nice glass of - er - I think tonic this evening. Have you got your nice alcoholic drinks lined up?

ooh thanks Legal

Nice non-acloholic drinks - yes, I am one for wierd teas, discovered the joys of liquorice tea on a work trip to Netherlands, everyone else (in UK??) thinks it disgusting, but I know what I like.....

Remind me to make one for myself while I cook this evening.

Err, yes . hopefully not my subconscious at work.

Hello clambering, welcome to the bus, watch out you don't trip over my files .

Thanks Isinde and all - recognise the cycle and the anxiety...

Glad I'm on board, off to do big clear up of house and clothes now - kids in school and I am not working today

Morning, welcome to Clambering and big wave to everyone all round

isinde hurrah for DTs sleeping. And for spreadsheets. I do lurv a good spreadsheet.

mouse happy to be a Brave babe. Am honoured to be in the company of you all

in terms of non alkie beer, I drink 0% bavaria wheat beer (very nice and bit hoegarden ish). I would not, however, drink non alkie wine as that is my alkie drink. 0% beer feels safer, if that makes sense.

All ok in the Gee house. Didn't drink last night, so on day 3 (again...). Feeling less angry and ranty today (sorry if my comments were not helpful yesterday mouse). I snapped at my sister yesterday. I do sometimes feel like screaming at my (well meaning) family that unless they have been wheeled into theatre to have their baby's life terminated when every fibre is screaming not to, or had some jobsworth make them sign a paper for baby's funeral they don't really get to offer me helpful advice. Which I realise is not fair on them. Today I just said its ok that you don't understand, of course you can't - and to be honest I wouldn't want them to. Anyway, enough of me. Sometimes I am so bored of me.

DD is fine. Unhappy to go to nursery today as one of her best friends no longer goes so she doesn't really have any friends there today. Unfortunately she did not sleep well last night, up twice having wet the bed. That is the last time I let her drink a pint of milk before bedtime. She did tell me this morning though that she slept really well and felt she should have a smartie as a reward. Cheeky thing (actually I gave her one for sheer bravado).