LOUDLASS have you spoken to the school about school sweatshirts? Our keeps some for people that cant afford them. School sweatshirts get on my nerves. The rest of the uniform is really cheap in Asda etc because they are made by child slaves in India but the sweatshirts break the bank
baby will watch that Horizon on demand, if its availoable
SOOOooooo.....we went for our first Mediation appointment yesterday. Its was worse than useless in my opinion and only served to enflame our situation, whilst the 'mediator' sat there barely listening and going 'hmmmm' 'uhu' etc. She said not to talk about the past but to concentrate on how to move forward. How is that possible????? the failure to resolve the financial issues are BECAUSE of the past.
He told lots of fibs, about how much he had contributed to the household bills/ how much money he had borrowed off me/ the equity value/ about his assets--and then irrelevant stuff about my character/motives and this fecking 'secret agenda' he attributes to me. I apparently FORCED him to take jobs he didnt want, I FORCED him to take us as a family to visit his family in his country, I FORCED him to have a second baby.
I am genuinely shocked that he lied to a third party. I dont think he is lying, I really think that IS his truth. He really believes what he says is true.
I would like to ask you all what you would do with this situation
We are both broke, with no savings and barely enough to pay bills. He will not move out until he has a share of the equity in the house. The equity is very small and I feel his share is cancelled out by assets in his country which we have aquired whilst being married. He thinks that those assets should not be considered and he wants a sum of money for a deposit and to set up home. He 'understands' (because he is sooooo understanding!) that I dont have £4000 (!?:@%$£) to give him and so he proposes that he doesnt pay child maintenence for 2 years so that he can recoup this money. His maintenece payments would be around £200/month but would make the difference of me really really struggling and being just OK. After mediation yesterday where I said I didnt feel I owed him any money, he has threatened that if I dont agree to him paying no maintenance then he will report me for claiming WTC and CTC as a single parent when I wasnt single!!!
He is referring to a time 3 years ago when he got arrested for drink driving; lost his license;lost his job; lost our home which was attached to job and also lost the opportunity of a fresh start in the country which was what the job was for. He also ended up in hospital through drinking-sedated and on a drip for 48 hours. I had had enough at that point and seperated our finances; he came back into the family home as he had no where else to go. And over a period of time my resolve vanished and we were back together. SO at some point in there I probably was claiming fraudulently; I mean I cant say what date and time we 'got back together'. And if the husband reports the wife then surely he will be believed anyway. I could really do without the hassle of having to prove myself (which might be difficult to do).
Although I feel he is taking the piss, I am verging on agreeing to wavering the child maintenance claim just to get him out of the house and to put an end to all of this. Surely its worth one last sacrifice?
Christ-thanks for reading!