Shy man ( I think)

[ithastobedone]

Sorry to be a name changer. Not for any other reason than, I feel a bit of a twerp TBH.

Simple question really.

How best to let a bloke know that you fancy him? I have known him as a friend for years- it's come as a bit of a surprise to me even. When we are together socially we talk a lot and get along really well and he'll very often hug me.

I'm so out of the dating loop but we're both free; I think he likes me but he is very shy and I don't want to freak him out. What would you say to let him know?

Is it really daft to send him an email because I couldn't possibly bring myself to phone him.

He lives far enough away that I could avoid him if I make a complete arse of myself.

No news OP?

Argh, need to know how this is panning out. Any news?! Bump bump bump

waiting with bated breath for the good news

EVERYONE OVER HERE!!!

The reply came...
Wow! I'm very flattered. Why didn't you say hello 10 years ago? I've got to confess ithastobedone (obv I changed that bit) that - although I'm usually useless at either noticing that someone's interested in me or in taking the initiative myself - I felt there was a spark between us too at the reunion. I'm tied up in London with work for a bit, but let's meet up when I do come back to find out a bit more about each other, to see if you're still interested when you do!

Worth the wait me thinks!

well worth the wait

It's a pretty cool response - just right- not at all desperate.

I'll now have to respond (later) in a not-too-madly-keen fashion.

Good, he replied . Hope it goes well when you meet up again.

:o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o

ohmygod yay yay!!!!

aren't you glad you did it now? well done!

Hooray!!! great result! I am excited for you! You need to let us know how it goes.

I will of course let you know.

How nice is that?

Really chuffed for you :) :) Maybe one day you'll show him this thread!

Great news. Lucky fella.

Awww, he sounds lovely :) Yay!

Ahhhhhh .

Youy will update us, won't you? wedding photos, baby names etc

Hurrah!!

Aww!
That's nice.

Woop woop! Great response, yay!!!

yay!!!

He's a really nice bloke and everyone likes him (men and women) which is a good sign.

We are very similar in many ways and he is just so very straightforward and well rounded and I have known him for a very long time.

I can imagine this will move very slowly (which is good) so, don't hold your breath folks!

I hope after all this effort, it doesn't go tits up at the first hurdle!

Overuse of the word 'very' ^

Excellent stuff. Really pleased it's worked out.
I do like a happy ending [soppy git emoticon]

It's been 2 hours since he sent his reply so, I thought it would be OK to reply...
I said this:

Oh phew! I thought you'd either be pleased or completely freaked out. I'm not really one for making myself known in this sort of situation and therefore, wasted another week procrastinating - shall I/shant I?
I'm happy you recognised some sort of spark; that's a good sign isn't it?

I agree; let's keep in touch and when you're next home, we can go out and have a drink and a chat - I'd like that.

I'm crap at being forward; totally out of the loop as far as dating goes but I think you and I could get along really well together. : ) End of message

That's alright isn't it?

Lovely. Just the right tone, friendly anticipation with no edge of neediness. Like it.