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Internet love rat...revenge tips please?!

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 10:49

Been seeing a guy three months... turns out he is running no less than 8 other women , I have their email addresses.he doesnt yet know that I know..we just got back from a minibreak abroad..and he has booked a similar break with one of the others the same time as he booked our flights..he has sent some of them pictures that he took when we were together..scenery..im shattered..but coldly furious..cant sleep/eat

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 13:15

Yes..we have talked before.. I'm not going to engage any convo's with him..no retributions etc.. he doesn't get anymore from me..nada

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puzzlesum · 04/08/2011 13:15

Penguin Thread 1

Penguin Thread 2

If nothing else, it will cheer you up no end. Two of the funniest threads on MN ever.

HerHissyness · 04/08/2011 13:49

Honestly? Does it matter if he knows you told them? Your relationship is dead as a dodo anyway.

If you have gmail or similar, just set up a new email and mail them from there.

Email them. They deserve to be able to make a considered decision as to if they are being scammed.

solidgoldbrass · 04/08/2011 14:10

Yes, given that it sounds as though he is scamming women for money it would be a good thing to do to email them all with a quick 'FYI just in case you thought this was a monogamous relationship'. Then dump the man and block all contact. It was only three months, you haven't invested much time, move on and don't worry.

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 14:28

I have thought of a way of telling them where he cannot be sure it was me... my hesitation is because he is likely to be mightily pissed off... and I'm not sure I can contemplate vitriol...but no rush..ty for links..will read now :-)

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 14:29

How do I block him tho.. can you block email?

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 15:18

those threads are hilarious!

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SarahStratton · 04/08/2011 15:28

Actually, if he's lining up flats and work visas I'd be inclined to inform the police. Sounds like he's more of a bona fide conman than merely a love rat. Is the work visa for this country?

Not that the love rat thing is better :(

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 15:40

No..Australia..he's apparently got a well paid job..but I no longer believe anything I have been told..

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chubsasaurus · 04/08/2011 15:57

8!? Where does he get the energy? I find 4 a struggle (nonexclusive) Grin

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 16:04

We are up to 10... I won't ask re the 4

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OovoofWelcome · 04/08/2011 16:29

DEFINITELY expose this repugnant little fuck-up of a man - urgh! Angry

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 16:56

I have every intention of doing so.. be in no doubt about that :(

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OovoofWelcome · 04/08/2011 17:02

Good plan Littleblue - we're all right behind you. Sorry you are having to contend with such an arse.

Once it's sorted you will have cleared a space in your life for a genuine new man when the time is right Smile

SarahStratton · 04/08/2011 17:13

I think you should link us to his page, forewarned is forearmed after all Grin

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 17:32

just avoid badoo... theres loads like him in there

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ChristinedePizan · 04/08/2011 17:35

How did I miss the penguin saga? Brilliant, brilliant stuff :o

sis · 04/08/2011 18:54

Sorry, got caught up with other stuff but I see that the penguin threads have been found and Shiney herself has arrived and given very sensible adviceGrin.

ratspeaker · 04/08/2011 19:13

Set up another gmail account as herhissyness suggested
email all the women along the lines of " I found your emails on my boyfriends pc, seems he's creating a harem. Has he asked you to set up a flat, go on holiday, pay for stuff? Get out now dont get hurt like me"
Make sure you cc all the emails so they can be seen by all the women - but make sure you include your usual email addy in there, that way it will look like someone is going through all his address book but he wont know it was you

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 19:28

thats precisely what ive set up to do... just waiting to see if anymore conquests crawl out of the woodwork... gmails up and running..and shes emailed me..which ive asked him about..shes asked me if we enjoyed our weekend , I messaged him.."had an email from yadda yadda..but i havent the foggiest who she is....?"

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 19:29

....if that makes sense...

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Memoo · 04/08/2011 19:33

Did I not read a thread on here from a bloke claiming to have 8/9 girl friends??

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Littleblue · 04/08/2011 19:37

Obviously got alot to prove...he was at best..a dismal shag

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year2011 · 04/08/2011 19:37

let those women knw wht hes playing at ,he deserve a slap

moonferret · 04/08/2011 19:43

Men like this take up all the women that should be shared out! Fair play to him though, women often go for womanisers, cheats, charmers and those with a partner already. Sadly my morals get in the way of doing this, although I'm beginning to wonder why!