The Brave Babes Battle Bus - We're All Going On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babe's Bus. This is a bus full of drinkers old and new, sober and not, and those who are somewhere in between.

We are all at different levels of sober so you can bet that one of us has walked in your shoes.

If you want advice and support then you're in the right place.

Come take a seat or just lurk, we're happy to have you along for the ride.

And here is a link to the last thread so you can catch up on the journey so far HERE

thurso school breaks up on Friday and it will definitely take the pressure off. Unlike come ASD children she responds well to the lack of structure in the holidays.
Thanks for asking

hi to you too venus!!

SAF - just try and remember that its just for one day that you are not drinking, just one day! one day at a time! and yes, i reckon your get up and go will get up and come right back to you if you give it a chance!

im off to bed now, im busier than a busy person at work right now and its making my eyes ache, i need to go and close them!

see you all in the morning!

L XXXXXXXXXX

SAf in a bit of a circle - keep drinking, feeling bad about drinking and deciding to have a break from alcohol then just drinking again the next day, feeling bad about it and on and on.
That's me to a tee! The odd thing is once I get the resolve and go that 1 day without I find it relatively easy for a while. Then my ideas get skewed and I decide I now want a drink rather than need one and I'm back to square one. I am amazed at how much time I spend thinking about alcohol. When I'm not drinking I'm counting days and congratulating myself but it's still in my thoughts.
I haven't had a drink since Sunday night but I'm trying not to focus too much by counting the days!

By not counting the days I meant to say.

Floor tiles sounds just fine saf. I found that the first couple of days of not drinking left me feeling pretty tired and lifeless, so don't aim to do too much. Concentrate on looking after YOU, especially if you're not feeling great to start with.

hi thornrose, I was never much of a day counter either - it seemed like it just kept the thought in my head. Like JWN I tend to decide in the morning 'today I will not be drinking (just for today)'. Then if that works, I might get up do it again the next morning. It is a lot quieter in my head than when I was constantly battling with the "will I / won't I" debate (which incidentaly always led to "I will").

venus that's what I'm aiming for this time around.

SAF, the inlaws have moved abroad. We are still living in their home and are still skint but DP and I are getting on better without the pressure of their presence. I have been trying and failing to stop my weekend binges.

Welcome back to the bus. It's been a long tiring day with what felt like endless preschool and nursery drop-offs. I have only 2 kids but they currently (but not after tomorrow thank God) go to different nurseries at different times of the day...don't ask!
Off to bed. Today I chose not to drink.
Night night Brave Babes. X

Hello again,
going to bed now, although how long I'll sleep with a pint of peppermint tea inside, and a fuming rage, I don't know!

Venus Exactly that! If I don't organise and arrange things for us to do together, Dh would do his sport and come home, fall asleep, and on nights that he doesn't do sport, is happy to do sit in front of the tv, all my responsibility to make life more interesting!

I despair, really. Tonight Dc2 cooked dinner, he made a wonderful meal, that we had shopped for, following a recipe we had found, and Dh got home late and said "good effort dc" (weep)!

I am very fed up tonight [grump]. I know Dh is very tired, and pulled a muscle last night, but, really........

Wish me luck for the next couple of days!, I just have to take a deep breath, it should be one of the proudest times of our lives, and here I am, wishing I was going on my own!

Sleep well lovely Babes
Tight lines (I don't know?, it's a friendly fisherman saying evidently )
XXXXX

Let me join you for another coffee SAF. Also needing to get it written down that I won't be drinking alcohol today.

Morning, you described my life in a few short words Mouse, "stuck in a cycle of kind of existing", sad but true , energy levels non-existant, interest in doing anything non-existant, I just seem to lurch from day to day.
So today I will join you all and say that I too will not be drinking today.
Started the day off with a 30 minute walk, so good enough start. Now I just have to get through another day of mind-numbing work! ODAAT!
Hey SAF:)

saf well done you on not going to the pub today (I'm assuming you're sending this from home). That's an excellent start. Your yoga class sounds great for the autumn, why not get a dvd and get used to some of the poses in the meantime? Try not to worry about what will happen in September, if you really want to make some changes, then you will be able to plan other things to do on that day. I have found that I mainly fall into the drinking trap when I allow myself to do it. By having nothing planned for risky occasions I am willingly giving myself permission to trip up.

Hi obrigada - deciding not to drink today is an active decision. What do you like to drink instead? Ice cold lime and soda? Cranberry juice? Coke? Hot chocolate? Take the next active step and put some ice-cubes in the freezer if you like cold drinks, or keep the kettle filled if you like hot drinks.

SAF

Avoidance is all well and good and we all feel like that sometimes.

could you maybe go to a cafe instead of the pub? If a cafe just wouldn't do it for you, do you know why?

JWN is spot on - today is all that matters. Tomorrow will take care of itself.

and if you don't feel safe going to a party, you could always "catch a cold" and just not go - you really do have choices.

S

SaF - hello there!

Sorry, I didn't see you on here straightaway or I'd have charged over to say hello.

Hi all. Yesterday morning I woke up feeling sick and miserable. I could not go to work and could not face eating all day. Just wanted to curl up and sleep but couldn't even do that. Another terrible hangover you ask? NO! It was a good old, lovely, ordinary, everyday stomach bug

I am so, so, so, so glad that I didn't open that bottle the night before. I would have blamed myself for those 24 stomach lurching hours. And it would have been 10 times worse with dehydration and headaches.

Feeling better today, and 3lb lighter

I too will not be drinking today. Sending love to all the brave Babes facing their personal struggles today. Be kind to yourselves

Thanks Venus, liking the phrase "active decision":) Am so stuck in a rut at the minute that I know that if I don't attempt to change things I will be in the same situation this time next year, this time 5 years, as they say "if you always do what you have always done, then you will always get what you've always gotten"!

HI everyone

Welcome SAF - I find that I give myself a mental check list of things I want to get done each evening and then never get round to them all once I've had that first drink. On the days I dont have a drink I do manage to get alot done although tbh my list is too big anyway

Mouse - hope things go OK this weekend and that you remember to look after yourself aswell as everyone else. Things are definately over with DP and I am obviously sad about it but not distraught so obviously wasn't 'in love' like I thought. Regarding my DC's they do say specifically why they are unhappy with their Dad although they can be quite selfish with my time (especially DS) in that they aren't keen for me to have friends over/chat on the phone etc so I don't think it is 100% that their Dad is pushing them out of his life which is what they feel.

BOING!!!!!!!!!!!!

morning all!!

hmm! treat thursday? - sounds a bloody good idea to me! - today im booking and sorting out an itinery for a ladies day out im booking a personal shopper with champers for them and oj for me complete with canapes, then a lovley place for lunch and a posh car home (no, not a limo, even i have more taste than that! ) - sounds like fun to me!

how ever said about changing things, or not, is spot on! - if you dont change the things you dont like, things will never change, iyswim? - i honestly didnt think i could change the path i was on, drinking, feeling like shite, drinking again, on and on and on............ seriously, i can do it then anyone can!

'who' ever said, obviously! doh!

Would you consider going to an AA meeting in that time instead of the pub? There might be a daytime meeting near you.

just a thought, no pressure at all.