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saddest feeling?

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chubsasaurus · 10/07/2011 10:07

Aside death...

Watching someone who once pursued you mercilessly, loved you with every inch of their being, would have moved the world, given up anything and followed you anywhere... just not care any more. At all.

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AnyFucker · 20/07/2011 14:06

< clutches chubs to bosom >

thanks for coming back to update

you sound sad, but a little stronger and a lot clearer

just keep keeping on, one day this will be a horrible memory

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chubsasaurus · 20/07/2011 14:10

Sorry to be so self invovled --- Anne that sounds so terrible, you must be so insanely strong to get through something like that, it makes this mess pale into nothing.

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chubsasaurus · 20/07/2011 14:10

:) thanks AF. Yeah that's about right. Sad but not quite as deathly sad as before. Day by day..

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oldwomaninashoe · 20/07/2011 14:35

Gosh that 9.30 thing speaks volumes, did you really have to "clear " being out beyond 9.30 with him??????

You. young lady have had a lucky escape.

Look after yourself, keep up with the running, happy hormones are the way to go.

I promise you that you will meet someone who will love you and let you be just you, and love you for being just you, and you will wonder what you ever saw in the"Letch-urer"

AnneWiddecomesArse · 20/07/2011 16:36

Chubs. I wasn't strong; but I came out stronger. I had to understand (later counselling) and then I had to rebuild my self worth and my self esteem. It took a bit of time.
One of the things I had was "blame". It took me a long time to see that (for want of a better phrase); "bigger men" than me were taken in by his effortless charm, good looks and smooth talking.
He always moved on before the shit really hit the fan; but I know it caught up with him when I went thru the solicitors/cat custody.

But now I kick arse. In some ways he did me tremendous favours.
Despite him, I am succesful professionally and have a wonderful DH and DD .
Very very best of luck to you. It will get better.

You can't see it now, but you will be stronger and happier.

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chubsasaurus · 21/07/2011 16:11

very, very sad today

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chubsasaurus · 21/07/2011 17:10

Ha well I wouldn't go so far as a connection in bed. It was alright but.. yeah.

I hope it gets better. I've just made a huge pot of cabbage soup to keep busy. PhD research is just too much right now.

My friend booked us a week in the Maldives last night and another bought me a Mulberry bag to cheer me up. It's insane. I wish either would kill this sadness.

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AnyFucker · 21/07/2011 18:50

cabbage soup ? < edges away from chubs >

you will be ok

nobody died

you have your health, you have your career, you have your friends, you will have a great relationship and a family (if you want one) in the future

this bloke will just take those things away from you

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