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DH went to strip club last night. 3 dances. Am I stupid & naive to feel so sad about it?

507 replies

bail · 25/06/2011 22:49

DH came in at 5am last night. I was relaxed about it as he only goes out infrequently (every couple of months) and I trust him (or should I say, I USED to trust him).

Anyway, to cut a long story short, after initially lying to me, I discovered he went to a very swish and expensive strip club in near Mayfair. He had three dances.

I am upset, I keep imagining gorgeous girls dancing for him, wearing next to nothing and then my DH handing over money to them for the pleasure.

What do others think about this?

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travellingwilbury · 27/06/2011 20:22

I hope he at least made a nice picnic for you ?

I do know some men who would enjoy going to lapdances they are generally the "sad and tedious " kind .

I know for a fact my dh wouldn't pay for someone to pretend to like him or fancy him .

travellingwilbury · 27/06/2011 20:23

Good point BOF .

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 20:24

yes, BOF, perhaps it was

SchrodingersMew · 27/06/2011 20:27

Wtf is Primrose Hill? It sounds like something from Stepford. Hmm

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 20:29

it's where the celebs frolic (imbetween shagging each other)

you know, like Sadie Frost, Jude law and Kate Moss

you ain't nobody if you ain't frolicked on Primrose Hill

SchrodingersMew · 27/06/2011 20:34

Ahhh fair enough, thank you. :)

Sounds too mooshy!

I can't imagine snuggling up to DP, having a picnic on Primrose delusional hill and thinking everything was fine and dandy, if he had went out and paid 3 women to rub their bits all over him. I'd be Angry.

SpeedyGonzalez · 27/06/2011 20:35

Travellingwilbury: "I know for a fact my dh wouldn't pay for someone to pretend to like him or fancy him " Hahahahaha! You are SO right!

So Robf (I know you're watching this thread Wink)! How's about some answers to my questions about the women in your life? Your answers will be all the more illuminating now that we've heard some heart-warming tales from actual ex-strippers about what that rosy little world is really like. Niceguy2 - please feel free to give us your thoughts on the same questions!

Grin
sungirltan · 27/06/2011 20:36

for trips to primrose hill are bugaboos and orgnaic olives compulsory?

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 20:37

what is good about Mumsnet is you can tear strips off each other on one thread, and be in complete agreement on another Smile

just sayin', apropos of nuffin

SpeedyGonzalez · 27/06/2011 20:39

AnyFucker you are bang out of order for using the phrase "tear the strips off someone" in a thread about the evils of stripping!!! Grin

SchrodingersMew · 27/06/2011 20:39

I agree AF. :o

Unless it's RobF, he boils my blood no matter what thread I see him on. Hmm And I generally don't hold grudges.

travellingwilbury · 27/06/2011 20:41

bail If you do ever come back to this thread , I really think you need to re read your original question .

You have gone from feeling sad and no longer trusting your dh to having a picnic on a hill in less than 24 hours .

That is a bit odd don't you think ?

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 20:42

sorry about that, speedy

I didn't know what I was saying !

the heat has scrambled my brains

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 20:44

And I generally don't hold grudges.

neither do I Smile

SchrodingersMew · 27/06/2011 20:49

I always find it funny on MN, I have seen some bloody awful arguments on here and then 2 minutes later on another thread the people who were arguing are really friendly.

It's why I like it here. :)

"
You have gone from feeling sad and no longer trusting your dh to having a picnic on a hill in less than 24 hours .

That is a bit odd don't you think ?"

I completely agree with this, it's a bit Stepford Wives.

EggyAllenPoe · 27/06/2011 21:01

'disrupt the life of your 11month oldson forever'..

at what point would you leave then? lyin to you isn't enough. paying to see strippers isn't enough.

the fact you have children with this man menas you should expect a higher standard of behaviour, not allow him to do all kinds of bad shit and expect forgiveness from you time after time....

travellingwilbury · 27/06/2011 21:01

Two people agreeing with me Grin

I think that might be a record for me .

tadpoles · 27/06/2011 21:51

"You have gone from feeling sad and no longer trusting your dh to having a picnic on a hill in less than 24 hours .That is a bit odd don't you think ?"

Oh for fuck's sake you silly irritating women - leave off - frankly she probably doesn't give a shit what you think.

Playground stuff - so pathetic.

tadpoles · 27/06/2011 21:52

Bullying in the playground - some people never grow out of it. So sad.

AnyFucker · 27/06/2011 21:53

have you been frolicking on Primrose Hill too, tadpoles ?

BulletWithAName · 27/06/2011 21:58

Very strange travellingwilbury

The frolicking on Primrose Hill bit is

SchrodingersMew · 27/06/2011 22:00

This story actually seems a bit too fluffy to believe. Hmm Unless the DH has decided to take over on the posting?

SinicalSal · 27/06/2011 22:03

Primrose Hill, Mayfair.

things are different there

tadpoles · 27/06/2011 22:06

AF - you know what, I would have a little bit of respect for you if you didn't resort to these pathetic little playground antics.

"have you been frolicking on Primrose Hill too, tadpoles ?"

No - have you?

tadpoles · 27/06/2011 22:08

Dont even know where it is and whats more couldnt give a shit

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