So, had date on Sunday, another one this Friday - what do you think of this?

[shineoncrazydiam0nd]

Had warm ish date with man on Sunday evening and we have arranged to go for dinner etc this Friday and ..well, see how the night goes I suppose!

I already know him in that I went out with him for six month when I was 14 and he was 17 - we are now 39 and 42 respectively and our paths have crossed again so just seeing how things go really. I have only seen him once or twice over the past 25 years and not at all for the past decade or so.

So, we go out for a drink on Sunday. He is not some jack the lad, he is the UK's top person in his specific field, very intelligent man. I get in his car and he has a can of beer on the go. I make some comment and he says that he always has a can of beer when driving along. I'm not sure what to think about that! Obviously you'd have some questions to answer if the coppers pulled you over etc but WHO has to have a beer when driving? An alcoholic? An 18 year old lad trying to impress? Is this NORMAL behaviour? I suppose I wondered what was the urgency..

We then drive off to the pub. He drove at 95miles PH along the road - a 50 zone. I swear to God I nearly wet myself. We were taking corners at literally breakneck speed. I told him to slow down - he did so by about 3 mph! He was laughing and incredulous that I was so scared - ' but this is a top of the range BMW! The brakes are incredible and there's about 7 air bags on your side alone ... '

So... is he a twat? Tell me straight. my radar is not good really at the best of times when it comes to men. He is lovely, btw.

pore ol shiney

For future reference it goes like this:

You approach car.
Man is sat in car with can of beer to drink.
You walk away as man obviously a twat.

if it is a goer, shiney, do not get in his car.

man in car drinking beer more suited to dating fellow Jeremy-Kylesque lady

not grown-up shineys

Twat, does he not know that more accidents occur on country roads than on motorways. It's nothing to do with the drivers ability, you just do not know what is round the next corner.

And the beer thing just tops it off!

I'm thinking on it ffs.

You go Shiney, have a lovely evening with him and continue to have a life with loser men. Personally he sounds like a bore to me.

Your past history isn't great when it comes to your choice in men. You are nearly 40 years old and like Attila said, you really don't want to be in the same position in another 10 years. I fear it will be worse then, another 10 years experiencing 'dates' with arrogant fuckers like this.

also, canholder thingy is for storage of cans of Tizer , Coke pink lemonade or on special occasions Red Bull

not wifebeater juice

think on

drwhose - blimey, you're a cheerful sort

Shiney, do you really need anyone to tell you?

the OP won't take any advice that's on offer Hully so I don't know why she keeps on posting anyway.

Shiney obviously makes bad choices (at her own admittance) and has asked people's opinions - I have given mine, that is all.

I just cannot believe that from what I have seen from Shiney posting on here before that she is being so stupid with this situation. As I said before, it just isn't here.

Anyway, it doesn't matter, if she still wants to date him then I am sure she will, I just think she is making a very bad choice here.

I mean this in the nicest and kindest way but, you surprise me here Shiney, I thought you had more sense than this

oh shiney . run, run like the wind.

the beer is very bad. the fast driving is very bad.
but the dealbreaker is not caring that you were scared.

someone who does not care that you are scared does not deserve your time.

find fun smart fab guy who does not think it funny that you are frightened. and also won't be in jail.

he sounds like an absolute dickhead. Really. Drinking and driving at 95 mph. Woah, big man. NOT.

oh, I think shiney will nurse her slightly dented head pride for a couple of hours, then cancel Mr FuckingFantastic...

OR..could you arrange to meet him somewhere (avoiding car thusly) and then ask him all about it? Cos it is sort of fascinating..

i agree

it would actually be really interesting to know what he thought he was doing.

Yes, who thinks, Right, I'm off to meet my Laydee, wanna impress her, wanna look good. Hmmm, I know, a can of beer on the go, and then a superfast ride in my superduper car to scare the shit out of her. I'll be in there, all right.

What was he wearing?

shiney - how did you get home? Did he drive you after the 2 pints in the pub and (some?) of the can in the car?

Why the hell would you allow that to happen?

Why didn't you question the second pint?

Do you need to work on your self esteem?

You should have called yourself a taxi to get home.

I bet you weren't comfortable with the situation?

Did you know which pub you were going to in advance?

When you saw the beer in the car did it not occur to you to call the date off immediately?

Prove to yourself that you are strong and independent.

Cancel the next date and don't enter into discussion about why.

no tell him why

then discuss it no further

Oh FGS, she doesn't have a problem with her self esteem, she just fancies a shag every now and again (presumably). So the bloke is a nobber while driving, but otherwise reasonable company. That sounds like an awful lot of blokes- they can't all be Jack The Ripper.

Shiney- don't get in a car with him, don't get serious with him. Whatever else you want to do with him is your own affair.

Bloody hell. Dangerous Twat.

Oh my god.

I have no self esteem issues, im perfectly normal with a perfectly normal life so all comments regarding my pitiful low self worth are laughable. I think I shall leave this thread as it is all a bit 'chinese whispers' now and some of the comments are , quite frankly, way off beam.

The Mystery BMW Driver is - Jeremy Clarkson! And I claim this week's star prize. Next week - guess which Coalition MP mortally offends disabled people, win win win!

dp thinks you should have reported him for dangerous driving; not a bad idea so soon after the little 6 yr old boy was killed by hit and run.
Hope you meet someone nice who respects your safety soon!