The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Hello

I'm Mouse

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

Crikey, it's quiet on here!

Thanks, BBwanna I do know that it's what I should do, and what I want, just a bit scary at my advanced age! I wish I could have been this ambitious at 20, I could have been chairman of ICI by now!!

I've had a bit of a horrid old evening actually. No fireworks, but, when I spoke to Dh about my work, he was concerned, blah, blah, as always, but not really there, if you know what I mean. I'm very fed up because I have never banged on about my work, or studies, they have never got to me before, and I have always done them in between his worktime, or when he's gone to bed. Dh's work, those that know, has always taken major precendence, because of his depression.
I also think that as a consequence of me not drinking, I am feeling better about my professional life, and stronger in myself, and (aghast) he doesn't want to know. He is fine, and supportive in my emotional crises, but seems to be a bit limp (are you there Ma ) in other circumstances.

Sorry for the long post, so late.
Love to all
xxxx

Sorry Ma didn't mean to imply anything , actually, well intentioned, but, inaccurate would be more my case!!!!!

Hello All

Just popping in before I go to bed ! not particularily nice day at work- some peoplelove to be as difficult as they possibly can dont they ?Gits
However feel I handled it well and really proud that I came home and had a cup of tea !
Hope everyone is ok xxx

Hello, Lostsock, up to bed here, as well. I sympathise with work probs.
Have a good sleep! xxx

boing boing boingidy boing!!!

sorry for not telling you all but i didnt know, dh took me to paris on friday!! - i have had the best most wonderfullest time! AND I DID IT FUCKING WELL SOBER!!! , im not saying i didnt miss it now and again, it all looked very inticing in the cafes but i managed it! we have had a lovely break, just mooched and browsed and chatted and drunk cafe au lait and chocolade viennoise.

i was going to post tomorrow but mouse text me so i had to have a look at the thread - hello to all the lovely new babes, i will read more and catch up in the morning, all you 'old babes' , bloody well done!! you showed them fuckers!!!

see you all in the morning!

L XXXXXXXXXX

Morning all. Guess what? Day one for me. Slipping onto the bus. Welcome to all the new babes and hi to the old ones. I am an infrequent poster although a daily reader of this thread. I need to start posting more and I need to stop drinking. One day at a time for me.

I see from the above post we have the back seat of the bus laid out with clothes and accessories to browse.
Are we having a tupperware party next week?

Have reported spam post above !

at lucilastic - could do with some new clothes and accessories.
Thurso I hear you. Things same as ever, will pm you

Me too Lost

Morning all.

JWN - you jammy bugger you I'm sooooooooo glad you had the most fantabulous time ever. You deserve to xx

Today I will be mostly crying in pain (bad night and no sleep) and trying to get the house straight and tidy for Nemo's many visitors. We have his nurse, SALT and physio today and tomorrow and the house is filthy. Dust everywhere and I really need to vac.

Send me the strength to do it Babes - or a cleaner!

thurso - Agree with BB here re the empty nest. You would really benefit from something new in your life. Get your teeth into a great new job. Put a bit of sparkle back into your life........ I know DH frustrates you but what makes you tick, is different to him, no?

He's changed over the years, maybe because he doesn't have to try so hard now the DC aren't around so much. He's not well either is he? His boughts of depression much effect him to some degree in all areas of his life.

It's just that you're his constant aren't you, you are his day and night, always there. And maybe he doesn't realise that you still need him to talk to you, to be an active part in how you feel?

I'm not excusing his behaviour but I do think that he doesn't realise just how much this distance is hurting you my lovely xx

Mouse you have brought tears to my eyes, you are so right. He is such a lovely man, I think that perhaps I am expecting him to mindread!! How does a little Mousey get to be so wise? xxxxxxx

Morning Babes

Mouse - my cleaner is due in an hour and a half - shall I send her over? She is very good.

Weathered the storm of my interview and dental surgery yesterday (made all the more manageable by the purchase of 3 pairs of shoes but am saving a fortune by not drinking ). Am in a lot of pain but cannot drink for 10 days because of all of the antibiotics and also the implant may not fix itself to the bone if I consume alcohol so that is an excellent reason to carry on. Day 4 today.

Just seen the doctor. Having blood tests tomorrow and been referred for an ultrasound of liver and gall bladder. The doctor seems to think that I may just be young enough to have caught this in time. The referral said "no stigmata of liver disease" which is hopefully a good thing.

Welcome to those who joined the bus - cannot see posts at the moment as am on the phone.

Hope all of the Babes have a good day x

morning possums!!

really busy today, will catch up properly later

thurso, have a ((((((((hug))))))))))

mouse, have one too! ((((((((((hug)))))))))))

hi sharpkat - hmm shoes!!, you sound like my kinda gal!! , what are they like? high heels? wedges? patent? come and tell me all about yourself!

JWN - they are all suede. One pair of beige/nude kitten heels, a pair of black kitten heels with a pink bow and a boring pair of navy flats.

I really struggle buying shoes as am a size 8/9 and can never find anything I like or that fit and as they were in the sale they were just begging to be bought

Your trip to Paris sounds amazing - very jealous. Well done for not drinking

Well I've just spent an hour reading all the posts from the weekend. Given all the rubbish, I was very tempted not to but I'm glad I did to see all the news and the new posters. Lovely to see you all. Whatever happens, this feels to me like a place of equals. It doesn't matter whether you have been posting for a year, or whether you just made your first post yesterday - whatever you have to say is equally valid and important. Tell us if you're doing well, tell us if you're struggling, tell us if you're just at the stage of recognising that you maybe should be doing something about it (but don't want to). But never, ever feel that you can't be honest or that you shouldn't be posting on here. No-one expects anything of you, so just do what feels right for you.

thurso I think it is lovely to hear about your work and your studying. I met a woman at the weekend who had 'downscaled' her job / interests when her dc left home. Now she is really, really bored, quite unfocussed and seemed rather unhappy. I bet your dcs will be really proud of you.

JWN Paris!! you lucky, lucky person. And what a wonderful surprise, especially after things seemed tough a few weeks ago.

I was busy all weekend, and away yesterday, so I've got loads to catch up on. See you all later.

Kat - I really hope you're not on Metronidazole(sp?) - oh my days they are vile. If you are then you REALLY DO NOT watnt to even try a sip of booze. You'll puke for England.

thurso - maybe because I'm on the outside? I'm not emotionally involved, other than worrying about you, so I can see both sides. xx

Mouse - it is metronidazole so definitely no alcohol for me for 7 more days. Actually think it is a good thing to be on it - forces me not to touch a drop at all which is the added kick I needed.

Yep Kat - on drop and you'll be seeing what you've had for breakfast.

I had a bad tooth infection last year, bonfire night and our lovely neighbour had made some spiced apple cider and I thought a drop wouldn't hurt.

WRONG

Within ten minutes I was bent over the loo in agony. NEVER again. I won't take them anymore because they give me an upset tum anyway.

Good luck with them.

No no no to Metonidazole and alcohol. I speak as another person who chanced it and spent the next 24 hours with my head in a bucket.

They should give it out to people who binge drink, Metronidazole. Soon sort them out!

Hi all.

Did anyone see the James May programme last night about the human body? I think it was aimed at Top Gear watchers but there was a really interesting bit about why we get hangovers. Apparently, for every glass of alcohol we drink our bodies wee the equivalent of 4 glasses worth, making us dehydrated. The alcohol in our system is broken down by the liver which requires water. However, because the body is already dehydrated and there is not enough water in the blood the liver gets it from the brain...causing it to shrink and give us a headache. Scary stuff!

Day 8 for me today and I'm feeling really positive. Long may it last, although I doubt it.

Hope you are all well :)

I saw that Alittle

To be honest, I learnt the hard way over the years that it's the dehydration that does the damage the next day.

I always mix my drinks now, water, glass of wine, water, glass of wine.

Well done for 8 days! Go you!!

Just gone through the palaver of name changing to join in in the cult thread, and dropping in to say hello to you lovely bus ladies!

I read JWN's thread when I was a few months in, having started a thread a bit like it- I lurk all the time. Its funny reading that thread and all the suspicion and superstition around AA, so strange when the reality is a bit boring but magical at the same time.

I'm 17 months sober and life is getting in the way of AA meetings- damn all those functional relationships I've managed to rebuild

Keep on supporting each other -sobriety is great!

Hey help lovely to see you here.

17 months? Well bloody done you! xx