The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spring Into Summer.

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Hello

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

This is a quest full of Babes, all fighting to remain sober, cut down or are somewhere in between right now.

You ticket to travel is free, it won't expire, and the Bus will always be here, even if there are days when you are not. So come say hi.

I'm Mouse. I have a thing for cheese and vodka, not together, well, not always!

Here is a LINK to the last thread, where you can read all of the previous threads and the journeys so far.

'Blood is thicker than water' - that may be the case but there comes a point where the 'blood' dries up!

You owe them nothing IsinDe xx

Tortoise - nope, I wouldn't be laughing either. Very Franky Boyle. Well done on not drinking.

luci - I hope you managed to get some sleep last night, sorry DD1 was awake so late for you.

Date night was lovely, plenty of alcohol. I checked what I'd had last night when I got up....... starting at 4pm - 2 pints of strong cider, 2.5 glasses of champagne, 1 glass of red wine, 1 glass of white. Not big nor clever. 24 units in one night. No wonder I feel like deep fried dog shite today.

IsinDe - I knew what you meant lovely. xx

Drink aware got it to 24 units, 13.5% red, 12.5% white, champers was 12%, cider was 7.5%.

Hope your head clears too, red wine really fucks me up and I said no when offered but then decided that steak needs red wine. I too am a prize twat.

So today IsinDe - we can be prize twats together!

Hello all - good holiday but glad to be back.

What have I missed?

Welcome back MIFLAW

I'm sure we'd win a prize IsinDe

Lovely to see you all on here this morning - hello to mitch and squee.

isindie glad to see you back here after last night, and your posts are on top form despite your hangover.

No, I was wondering about her too Ma and Obrigada, she was having a shitty week last week IIRC

Still here Mouse, took me ages to read through all the posts from the weekend (internet at home playing up). My heart went out to you when I read your post. Spent the weekend helping my siblings clear out my mothers house as she is now in a home full-time so was a bit emotional.

hello you lot! - whew!, finally cought up with all the posts, hello to the new girls!

well!, engagement party went really well - about 45 people + various small dcs - it stayed just dry and warm enough to use the garden - caterers did a lovely job - dd and df (dear fiance!) looked gorgeous and young and in love and hopeful and i cried! everyone drank champagne (but not me! proud emoction!) - my cupcake tower looked fab (although i say so myself!) the in-laws-to-be seemed very nice, fairly quiet but they were competing with the most loud and flambouyant family in east anglia! - dm got tipsy and cried, my df looked fantastic in his stripy jacket and panama, my dbs both came in black biker gear and parked the bikes outside so all the dcs had to get on them! - my little niece who will be bridesmaid looked all pretty and blonde and dainty and dh was as proud as a dad could be!

now to plan a wedding!

now to plan to be very poor!

oh obrigarda! - what a bloody awful job! - i do hope you stumble across the memories that make you smile as well as cry!

Afternoon!

JWN - well done on not testing the champers. I bet your daughter is really proud of you (as you are of her I expect

It's nice to see it getting quite busy in here again!

well that serves me right! Am sick of heating fruit and healthy shite so said to the office in general that i was craving chocolate. One of the old boys kindly produced a Mars Bar and lobbed in in my direction whereup in scored a direct hit on a cup of hot chocolate which then splattered me, my desk, my chair and the carpet!Got more chocolate than I bargained for . That'll teach me to be careful what I wish for!!! Fortunately the hot chocolate was more of a lukewarm chocolate so not burny, and double fortunately the Boss wasn't in the office at the time

Obrigada - so sorry that your mum is now in there full time, it's never easy. You know where we all are is you need an ear and a little cry xx

Ma - sorry but . That's the sort of shit that happens to me!

JWN - you're royal aren't you? That sounds sooooooooooo Pimms I am very jealous that I wasn't there to see you all looking fabulous and happy. Well done on not drinking the champers, I bet you felt so very proud to me DD's mum now and not a year ago.

I'm so proud of you lovely lady, you have done so very well. xx

mouse - i was awake at silly o'clock this morning and was running the party through my head, like you do - i AM proud of the the fact that i stayed sober, this time last year i would have turned the whole thing into a massive binge - dd was a very unhappy teenager this time last year, she was worried and felt helpless, i was out of control and she could see my life going down the toilet and wanted to stop me but at the same time she hated me, well, not me, but the person i became when i drank (which was everyday, i was only 'sober' for a very small window everyday) - yesterday she told me i looked lovely and thanked me for making her day so special! - just to have yesterday with her has made all the 'hard' stuff in the last year worth it! - this time last year she didnt want to spend time with me, didnt talk to me and at one point refused to come home at all!

i know she still kind of panics if she thinks i might be about to pick up, but it is lessening and i know she is on a much more even keel emotionally, something that lifts my heart when i look at her!

something else i also noticed was how little everyone else actually drank! - we got through about 40 cans of beer, a case of white, a couple of bottles of red and 6 bottles of champagne - and absolutly loads of soft drinks!, no one was 'pissed', we had a few 'merry' people but it was all good natured, no dramas, no rows etc! - a far cry from how it could have been!

All those (almost) sober people are everywhere! I have to walk up a street full of bars after my friday night meeting and I often think it would be good to see people acting like arseholes as a reminder why I'm going to the meeting in the first place. What I actually see are people behaving like... well, normal people! It's very disconcerting, because if it were me in those bars, by that time in the evening I would have been fairly bolloxed and probably saying and doing things very unbecoming things for a 41yr old woman It doesn't make me want to go in the bars, btw, because I don't see the point in one drink whatsoever.

JWN - exactly. This time last year, you'd be posting a completly different tale of events. I can almost see you shining at that party, knowing just how proud of you your DD was to have you there, in every sense of the word.

It sounds a bit pathetic to anyone who has never had an abusive relationship with alcohol, or anything else for that matter, to be proud of not letting anyone down just by not drinking.

Yet to those who know what they and others have been through, day in day out, fighting, struggling forward, hour by hour, then to look at what you have achieved is nothing short of wonderful.

I'd be very proud to have a mum like you

Hello all, back from work, thumping headache, and very tired, so I'm going to chill for half an hour or so, before I get dinner ready.

JWN so glad that the party went fabbo, what time of year are DD and DF getting married?

Inde glad to see you, list for Miflaw was cracking .

Obrigada how sad to have to clear out your mother's house. But maybe now you can spend lots of good times with her (is she nearby?) knowing that she is safe, and being looked after.

Ma new bed well and truly christened , this weekend. Sort of holding my breathe to see if this ship stays on an even keel, and afloat (note to self: don't be a cliche queen!).

I had a conversation with DC1 this weekend, which I found myself wondering about. It was DC1's girlfriend's Birthday last week, and for her present, her mother has booked a holiday for DC1 and GF in August . Is it me? First serious BF and GF for both of them (I haven't met her yet), and went out for the first time in January. He seemed really happy about it, and so I was, but, I don't know.....

Thurso wishing you a fair wind and full sails

thurso - what are you unsure about? Why is August an issue? Cost? How busy everywhere will be? Talk to me

Sorry, I didn't explain myself very well,
it just seems to me, that it is the middle of May, and 3 months away is a long time in such a very new relationship, I worry that it's putting the pressure on a bit. Paranoid, helicopter mummy .

DC knows what he's about though, I'll just la, la and not think about it .