Three months gone after break up

[forestfly]

First of all for everybody that knows my story i want to say thankyou for all the help i recieved. I honestly think that mumsnet helped me get through a very difficult time.I put the support i got from here as one of the positive things to come out of the situation. For any of you going through a break up or a bad situation use this, it helps so much. At some points i was full of despair not knowing which way to turn i was guided out of the darkness by the smallest of comments everything everybody wrote helped in some way. Thanks again and i will never forget you all xxxxxxxxx

[fio2]

no! no! It's really me:0 Can't beleive what you come out with

[forestfly]

I dont think youd call yourself by that name it has no relevance.Im sorry for all the naughty things ive wrote!

[fio2]

Bet your sis isnt as common as me

[Jemma7]

Fio, you keep confusing me with all these porkies Not that it takes much to confuse me!

Ohhhh wonder who FF's sister is - Come on, own up

[forestfly]

Fio is famous, she is married to dadslib, and is my sister?

[fio2]

I can hear you

[forestfly]

Really upset, ds1 is screaming and hitting out every morning when i drop him off at school. The school is being really supportive and letting me leave even though hes hysterical. Just rang X to let him know he said its been a while now, i should be over him. Not to make up stupid stories, he told me to move on, that he has. I didnt even mention anything to do with our relationship, i know he was talking in front of new friends who will think im insane!

[fio2]

what a complete prat

[forestfly]

Thanks fio

[Blu]

This sounds so very painful.
But now you know that he is never going to be of any support to you when difficulties fly up in front of you, neither is he interested in hearing your pain in dealing with his ds all on your own.
Have you got a close friend who you can call at moments of crisis so that you never have to listen to his cruel and humiliating lack of responsibility again?
What a complete*

[Jemma7]

What a complete tosser FF.

I know it is so much easier said than done and it is so easy for people on the outside looking in to make suggestions but is there anyway you could muster the strangth up to try and not include him in anything.

When ds does something good, don't tell the pratt, when ds does something bad, don't tell the pratt - he will soon wonder why he doesn't know of anything his kids have been doing and will contact you about it - if he doesn't then maybe it will be something to give u the push to realise he really is not worth it and to let the kids make their own decisions about him when they are old enough.

Sorry if this is no help, or if these things have been said before - things like this just make me soooo angry - my SIL has been in the same boat with her ex h

[fio2]

Are you OK today forest???

[sykes]

Hello, FF. How are you? I think your p is disgusting. My h said the same thing to me a while ago - ie, move on. I told him he was a cheeky, insensitive, shallow f*cker and found it remarkable that he could "move on" so quickly - but then again he didn't see his elder dd screaming for daddy every night. Her catch phrase at the moment is "I hate daddy". So hard to say no you love him and he loves you very much when you think ... mmm, good point, I hate him too. Anyway, let us know how you are. Feel so sorry about the situation.

[forestfly]

Thanks im fine. Just had a meeting with the school who told me that ds1 is grieving. Feel violent now i want to kill the BD

[sykes]

So sorry. It's such a horrible situation. Absolute pig.

[forestfly]

How are you sykes. Im in such a bad mood today, house is a mess kids are driving me mental, and at six hes ringing to say goodnight to the kids. Decided he wants to see them every friday now ring at six on a monday wednesday and sat. and take them the last weekend of every month. Hes had time to sort himself out so now he can help. Still no money and i am so in need of it. There told you i was in a bad mood

[fio2]

forestfly your poor ds1

[forestfly]

Hello fio2 you well?

[fio2]

yes tar But I suppose if hes having the kids that might make them happy? You could then go on a date with a hunky fireman Hes still a big fat prat though

[sykes]

Still not exactly offering a lot is he. And after how long? He's bl**dy lucky his kids still want to talk to him. Don't think I'd be quite so forgiving. Are you okay about the arrangements/did he discuss them/just impose them? And if he has ANY sense of responsibility he should be making some kind of attempt to get a part-time job. Big deal he's a student - he should get off his arse. I'm very angry for you and your children. Generally I'm up and down. My dds have nits that are very resilient despite every kind of treatment so I'm hoping he gets them and passes them on to his "friend". Take care.

[fio2]

Sorry I leave you and sykes to talk, I wasnt making light of the situation just wanted to try and make you feel a bit better and you sykes

[forestfly]

Wrs

[forestfly]

He just rang and im crying. I am so fed up today i really need a break and i just lost it with him. He told me to shut my F**ing hole. Now ds1 is crying saying i want my daddy, i want my daddy........im just so angry i was just screaming saying i need a break. What a mess

[janh]

ff, I'm so sorry you and your kids are having to go through this. I can't believe he told you not to make things up and that he doesn't seem to care (or want to know) how upset his son is - of course he wants his daddy, and a phone call now and then is no substitute. And no money either. Bastard.

Where do you live? Anywhere near Lancashire?