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Conjugal rights in marriage

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kismet1 · 27/04/2011 09:32

Apologies if this is a bit heavy in the morning but I need to ask seomeone... Am I unresaonable to think that it is not on to be groped while asleep? DH thinks its ok but I think I slept better when the kids (now 6 and 4) were waking me every few hours

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plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 13:58

LuigiB.......I'm devastated tbh.....

must remember to tow the party line on MN and not have a different opinion.....tut... naughty me!

zikes · 03/05/2011 13:59

Ooh a rush of 'you should be grateful'lers.

plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 14:00

Thank you moonbeam....at least we stand by our views...I personally believe the man should be in charge of all aspects of family life and that includes the marital bed...

moonbeam32 · 03/05/2011 14:01

I don't think she should be greatful...i'm sure she could get it from anyone if she wanted.

I just think you should relax a little and enjoy a bit of fun.

Gawd why are you all so frigid on here...ya tupennys will be like dried up prunes :/

gawdblimey · 03/05/2011 14:03

plasticgeordieman - I have reported your post as it is just absolutely vile.*

oh come on, get a grip

why are you afraid of others having a different outlook/opinion?

I like being woken up like that, its nice

LuigiB · 03/05/2011 14:14

I am not afraid of others having a different opinion at all - but spouting stuff like that is unbelievably unhelpful to women like the OP - she needs advice on how to bring this up with her DH, not told that it's her duty to lie back and think of England because she has to 'obey and submit' - that is both nasty and ridiculous in equal measures.

plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 14:21

love, honour, obey.........not difficult words to understand!

mushed · 03/05/2011 14:40

LuigiB .. I think plastics view is out of date, I mean how many people do 'obey' in their vows now?

but a lot of marriages do survive because women put out, as much as you'd hate to think it doesn't happen ... it does! Why does that offend you so much? Sex is just whatever you want it to be .. you think of it as a hassle, it will become as hassle. To some people its just sex, can be fun, boring, can be used to keep a fella happy in turn making you happy (even if you're not up for it at the time) .. its just sex ... kismets fella just wants a bit of nookie and keeps getting knocked back ... wtf some people on here make him out to be almost as bad as a rapist I don't know! ... seems theres a lot on here with their own hang ups ... not the types that should be dishing out 'advice' imo

moonbeam32 · 03/05/2011 14:44

I often wonder how half of the husbands who are slagged off on here would feel if they knew they were being bitched about in this way.

You lot have this womans husband down as some kind of pervert who is practically raping his wife. You don't know the man at all. None of us know how this womans relationship is. She came here to have a little rant at how pissed off she was that he kept annoying her...you lot have tore him apart and have him down as the next serial rapist.

This man could be the most loving, caring husband who is doing his hardest for his wife and still finds her irresistable and wants to show her that.

6 pages of how disgusting he is as a human being and how he is stripping her of her human rights is also nasty and ridiculous...in equal measures :/

plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 14:46

out of date!!!!!..... sulks ......

I think more women should be submissive within the parameters of marriage.....after all the modern woman appears to have to much power.....and should IMO be obedient....can see absolutely no reason why women would see this as anything other than beneficial to their relationship!

mummakaz · 03/05/2011 14:56

what moonbeam said.....

mushed · 03/05/2011 14:59

oh and in case anyone jumps on my back about my comment 'can be used to keep a fella happy in turn making you happy' ... think about the many times a hubby will put out when the wife wants it .... and god forbid if he doesn't! ... he'd get another slating for that no doubt ..'making his wife feel unattractive etc etc' ... if that problem arose in here I'm sure he'd be accused of having an affair with countless other women LOL

zikes · 03/05/2011 15:18

scentednappyhag · 03/05/2011 16:20

Wow, what a little rush of people with the same odd opinion there! Obey and submit indeed... If both parties want sex, have it- as kinky or weird as you like. But if one doesn't, then get a grip on yourself. Ahem.
The posters talking about rape are referring to men who are bullying their wives, not just seeing if she's up for it that night, there's a world of difference. No one is calling a man who fancies his wife a potential rapist. Stop being so ridiculous and trivialising what some of these women have gone through just because your blokey solidarity is misguidedly rearing it's head.

moonbeam32 · 03/05/2011 16:29

who's trivialisng what some women have gone through??

We are talking about kizmet here aren't we? Not people who have been raped. All her husband has done is have wondering hands and tried for a bit of nookie while she has been asleep. I can't see how my opinion is trivialsing whats he has gone through.

What exactly is it she has gone through apart from get a little pissed off at her husband waking her up. Hardly abuse is it (although i get the feeling alot of you would think it actually is) . It's what everyone else jumps to that makes it sound alot worse.

You need to calm down a bit really :)

scentednappyhag · 03/05/2011 16:35

Calm down? I see, you're one of those posters. Ok, cool.

She told him to stop. He didn't. This is bad. That's as simple as I can make it for you, and I won't be repeating myself for you.

moonbeam32 · 03/05/2011 16:38

It's ok scented...i see you as 'one of those' posters too :)

gawdblimey · 03/05/2011 16:52

reminds me of the thread about the woman who had sex with a dad from the school gates then felt remorseful about it

there must have been 20 pages shouting rape! even though she herself kept saying it wasnt rape and she had consented all the way through

was ridiculous and imo trivialised and was offensive to real rape victims

mushed · 03/05/2011 17:27

scented ... I think you'll find he did stop when she asked him to, she said so ... she had to defend him against a load of posters implying she was in some way being abused .. someone told her her marriage was doomed ffs!

I can understand Kismet getting pissed off and coming to vent on here about it, but can't understand at all why some posters would suggest he was a stones throw away from a rapist!!! ... bunch of nutters! LOL

AnyFucker · 03/05/2011 18:15

have we had a little invasion from MRA.com ?

what fun

plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 18:32

have we had a little invasion from MRA.com ?

Nope...just from anyfuckerwithcommonsense.com :)

AnyFucker · 03/05/2011 18:34

common sense with an attitude like yours ?

good luck with that

AnyFucker · 03/05/2011 18:34

plasticgeordieman · 03/05/2011 18:35

I was born with an attitude, heartbeat, temp etc......

AnyFucker · 03/05/2011 18:37

nah, shit troll

boring

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