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The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

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NotTheMessiahJustMouseface · 13/04/2011 14:34

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. Smile

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

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Isindebetterplace · 20/04/2011 08:05

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thursomuchtolookforwardto · 20/04/2011 08:19

Morning Venus, Isinde and Changeling,
and hello all lovely babes not about yet Smile

Early one again for me, still, means the washing will be dry by lunchtime, how glam is my life!

I have decided to crack on with stuff today, my stuff, instead of worrying about DH, I'm hoping the decision works!

Ma You've probably already left, but I'm wishing you a lovely, flirty day!

Love to all
xxxx

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 20/04/2011 08:20

Sorry, meant to say...
Isinde I hope you feel better soon, and JWN, lovely, how is your back?

xx

changelingforthis · 20/04/2011 08:24

It's going to be a gorgeous day today - dd off to her friends for the day ds has a friend over so i may actually get some job applications done - in between sitting in the garden Grin

export · 20/04/2011 09:20

Hello all,

No you hadn't scared me off :-) Due to late working and the tubes being a PITA I didn't get home till gone ten last night so was too tired to pop on. I have read all the messages you all so kindly left for me though and thank you for taking the time to reply.

I didnt have any wine last night, I'm not sure if you will think it is a cop out or not but my goal is to not drink wine AT ALL as I just like it far too much. I will occasionally have a vodka and lemonade but like last night I had a tablespoon of vodka with a pint of lemonade so I do feel that compared to a bottle of wine that is quite hard core cutting back. If anyone thinks I'm kidding myself so speak up Smile

Now if I can carry this on, get a better job, lose weight then life will be just perfect Wink

export · 20/04/2011 09:33

Oh and Isindebetterplace, yup to all of the non children friendly things.

I even read the paper cover to cover every day.....see whenever I get broody I just read mumsnet and it puts me right Wink Smile

Hammy02 · 20/04/2011 09:34

Export, I don't think you are kidding yourself. A tablespoon of vodka is nothing compared to a bottle of wine. Just as long as it doesn't creep up to more-speaking from personal experience-not having a pop at you.

I went to an AA meeting last night-arrived there at the same time as another bloke and joined the group. Sat down and they asked where I'd heard of the group. I said on the internet. They looked puzzled but said nothing. They then asked my name, I gave it. They then asked for my surname and address. I looked puzzled as it is supposed to be anonymous. They passed me a form to fill in with the heading, 'The city walls and improvement of tourist access'. Yep. I was in the wrong room. The other bloke & I left and had a good old hoot when we got out of the room!

Anyway, eventually found the correct room and found it really helpful. Full of like-minded people who understand you feel. I am planning on going 3 times a week to keep me focused.

Sorry for my me, me, me post. Just thought I'd share my funny moment.

piebald · 20/04/2011 09:39

I need to join but are you just for giving up altogether? I would like to give up drinking on my own everynight and be better for the kids but still beable to enjoy a glass or 2 when dh is home

changelingforthis · 20/04/2011 09:43

Ha ha Hammy, that's brilliant! I go three times a week - it's enough I think. Too much and you can get weary I think. It's so different to what I expected!

export · 20/04/2011 09:47

Oh Hammy that sounds like something I would do. I can be very scatty when I put my mind to it. What is AA like? (or is it a very personal thing)

I'm glad you don't think I'm kidding myself and tbh my plan is that once I have finished this bottle (estimate it will take about a three/weeks to a month) I will just have lemonade and hopefully that will be my 'ahhhhh' at the end of the day.

But that bit is easy, its just avoiding dodging the wine calling me from the shop

Hammy02 · 20/04/2011 09:51

Changlingforthis. I'm glad to hear 3 times a week works for you. I don't want to go every day as I think that would be overkill for me but if I don't go regularly I will slip back into old (recent old) habits.

The people are so lovely. I have been to meetings before but in a different city but the nature of the people are the same. Very kind, determined and caring about the lives of the other people at the meeting.

Hammy02 · 20/04/2011 09:57

export. Some people love AA, for others it isn't for them. I personally really like it as you hear other people's stories and I find myself nodding as so much applies to me. There are different degrees of the extent of people's alcoholism of course, some people have reached rock bottom and are now on the up, others, like myself, are aware that if we don't do something now, we will end up rock bottom and I don't want to get to that stage before doing something about it. I am also vain health conscious and am aware that I have been piling on the pounds due to the thousand or so empty calories I have been consuming with all of the wine.

export · 20/04/2011 09:59

I'm glad it is helping you. I must also be vain as the weight gain worries me more than the alcohol dangers at the mo Blush. I'm telling myself it's because I can see an actual difference in my body and really I'm not that shallow.

Hammy02 · 20/04/2011 10:07

export. If I wasn't gaining weight, I can't honestly say whether or not I would be so vigilant and determined to keep off the wine Blush Logically though, I know deep down that I must have been doing enormous damage given how much I was drinking (around 1-2 bottles of wine a night). Also have high blood pressure and as I don't smoke, eat well etc, the only cause can be drink.

MIFLAW · 20/04/2011 10:11

Piebald

It's not so much thate "for" giving up altogether as most of us have found cutting down unmanageable.

In other words, you may find that this is a purely academic decision whose outcome is not in your hands ...

changelingforthis · 20/04/2011 10:23

I've lost half a stone since I stopped drinking! Mind you at two bottles of wine five times a week that's probably why Blush !!

Isindebetterplace · 20/04/2011 10:44

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changelingforthis · 20/04/2011 10:47

tee hee! I do swim as well though!

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jesuswhatnext · 20/04/2011 11:08

morning!, back is loads better!, i gave in and went to the docs, got codeine, feel all warm and squishy now! Grin

nice to see all the new girls! Smile - i will say this though, swopping wine for vodka REALLY worries me!, i know you have cut down loads and i can see your logic, i can also see that you are still determined to drink, (and you plainly like to drink alot more than is 'normal') after sitting in countless AA meetings i really believe that vodka is the devils brew!, i have heard so many people say that vodka seemed a 'safe option' and the consumption of it just grew and grew, slowly over time until it was just as bad, or worse, than the previous consumption of whatever it was they were trying to avoid!

please dont think im being negative, if you really can drink it in the way you foresee then great!, im Envy, i know that my will power would fail me and i would be on a bottle a day in no time - i just wanted to sound a word of caution if you like!, couldnt bear to see someone at the top of a slippery slope without saying something iyswim?

Tristmum · 20/04/2011 11:15

Isinde, you put things so well.

People read papers? I buy them to put in the newspaper rack, and occasionally look at the pictures if I'm feeling particularly intelligent...

Hammy that genuinely made me burst out laughing! Glad you found the right room eventually.

Hello Piebald and welcome

Glad you're not in so much pain JWN

Zanywany · 20/04/2011 11:21

MOrning all. Got all the kitchen cupboards finished and so now just the walls.

Had a little less wine than usual again last night - just hope I can keep going.

How are you Silver and Mouse

JWN glad your back is better

I think I would lose weight by cutting down if it wasn't for the pizza's, hmmm.

Meeting DP's Mum later

piebald · 20/04/2011 11:24

Thanks for the welcomes-i feel better and more positive already. I am supposed to be busy but lounging around on here as a bit hungover--so i will go and get on now and look forward to a better day tomorrow

JaneS · 20/04/2011 11:29

Morning babes (just. Yes, I am still in my dressing gown, so it's morning here). Smile

Oh, you classy lady Isinde. Hope you feel better - alternatively, have an asp, I hear they're fab.

export - well done! I don't think you're kidding yourself at all - see how it works for you and stay vigilant, maybe?. I drink dealcoholized wine myself, which has 0.5% alcohol or less - some would say that's cheating too, but it works for me so to be honest, I'm not worrying. Smile

hammy, that's hilarious! I'd do that, I bet.

I hate you people who can lose weight when you stop drinking - I'm on a bloody diet as well and still nada! Hmm Grin

jesus - so glad to hear you're not in pain, it sounded horrible.

I'm interested to hear what you say about the vodka. I can count on the fingers of my hands the number of times I've chosen to drink vodka, and I did try it as there's all that bullshit about it being the 'cleanest' spirit and least likely to give you a hangover. I don't know if this makes sense, but to me one of the things people say that made it easiest for me to pretend I didn't have a problem, was that 'real' alcoholics will drink whatever/ 'real' alcoholics drink vodka by the litre. I liked to think that because I was still turning my nose up at blossom hill I didn't really look like an alcoholic (obviously, I was just an alcoholic spending that special bit more Hmm).

Do you really think there's a big difference in the effects of different drinks on addiction, or is it all contextual?

export · 20/04/2011 11:29

hmmm...thanks Jesus (seems very odd to write that). I cannot ever in my wildest days see myself drinking that much vodka I just wouldn't. My reasoning behind the swapping is

  1. I am happy to take it or leave it, so like last night basically had lemonade with a dash of vodka which is much less

2)I am expecting that once I have finished the bottle of vodka (which I hasten to add wont be tomorrow, will be in a month or so) I will just be happy with lemonade and the occasional drink at the weekend which would be the perfect scenario for me

3)I love wine, I like the taste and am unable to drink just one glass so my paramount reason is to get out of the habit of wine being my go-to drink

4)I am reluctant to say that I have an 'alcohol problem' yet. Some of you may be expecting me to fail and say that I will have to stop drinking completely further down the line which is absolutely fine and I will do that. However this is my first real effort to not drink so I would like to establish if I could break the habit first.

5)I am trying to lose weight so swapping from wine will help with that (hopefully)

6)I really really will be using the vodka and lemonade as a 'last resort' as I do want to cut back and not drink in the week at all so don't think I am just completely swapping one for the other.

I hope I don't sound defensive i'm just trying to explain the reasoning behind the swap.

In the perfect world I will end up not drinking in the week and at the weekend have the occasional vodka and lemonade and on very special occasions some wine. That's my end goal at the moment until I give myself further reasons to think I cant manage that.

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