The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

[NotTheMessiahJustMouseface]

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

Hey change welcome aboard too.

I am also in AA, and have been since Nov. I listen and take in what makes sense to me at the time, and discard the rest. The more I go, the more that makes sense to me.
Have already made some really good friends, which is also good, people that I can speak to when I am struggling to keep it in the day and not project.
Like the people here. I am slowly building a support network around me, to keep me sober ODAAT.
Have only told a couple of very close friends though!

Glad to have you aboard.

indie try to not make me snort with laughter when I am attempting to Mumsnet on the sly whilst at work

Afternoon Babes.

Busy, busy day here. Just wanted to pop in and say hello to Export

Be back later or tomorrow.

Feeling a bit grim today I went to my doctor yesterday which is when she gave me the librium and upped my a/d's. I feel such a failure - I honestly thought stopping drinking would be the panacea to all my ills - sadly not. My eldest daughter took my two youngest swimming today and I felt such freedom in being without them for a while. I'm not working right now - long story but I miss it so much. Need to be a bit more upbeat. Sometimes I plan a secret drinking binge - I think of where I'll get the drink, how and where I'll drink it...mad thoughts! I mustn't do that - it would be a disaster - ah well, just wanted to rant a bit. Have my women's AA meeting tonight which s always lovely, so am looking forward to that. The sun's out too.

Good afternoon all,

Dc just gone shopping, so have a bit of time, not being scared that Dc will look over my shoulder!

Not a brilliant start, Dh awake v. early, Dr's appt at 8am!

Long story short, Dr has changed Dh's meds, suggested "sleep hygene" ie: not going comatose in front of the television at 8.30!, and told him to go back in 3 weeks.

I was in with him, but did, at one point suggest I leave in case Dh wanted to say anything private (about me!, you know what I'm getting at ), but Dh got upset, and said that we're a team, and didn't want me to go.

Have had conversations to say that I could give up my studies, and work full-time, the children are older, and we could survive, if he just gave up his job, and did something he really wanted to, but that doesn't seem to be the answer either.

Crikey, if anyone feels like a failure, changeling , it's me. Why can't I make it better?

Thank goodness I didn't dive into a bottle of wine last night, or I couldn't have coped, keep on repeating manta like Miflaws comment, "there is no situation so bad, that drink won't make it worse", sorry if I misquoted!

Any way, sorry for the blah, blah...
Hope you are feeling better Isinde, and not so snorty!
Much love
xxxx

mantra like!

That's a saying I always repeat to myself too!

Thurso I relate to the wanting to 'make it better' and sometimes that is possible by putting everyone else first and taking on the burden that others are finding hard to bear. BUT you need to look after yourself too. I hope that the change in meds has a positive outcome for DH. And you are being the support that he needs now.

Tonight I will not have a drink - and hopefully the rest of the week too.

I am not looking further than that. I need to stop drinking (a bottle, sometimes more each evening). My weight is up, my blood pressure is up, I have a form of anaemia that is associated with excessive drinking.

I can't afford it.

I think my family worry more about it than they let on.

My father died of alcoholic cardiomyopathy a couple of months ago - and I am going the same way.

Tonight will be a dry night.

Just think one day at a time - or one hour, minute, whatever it takes - you can do it

Hello everyone, just checking in.

Isinde - nice summary of childfree life! If it makes you feel better, I'm horribly horribly broody atm, SIL is due at the end of the week and I am dead jealous.

This thread seems to be very popular at the moment!

Today welcome, we are all trying to do the same thing on here.
Sorry for your loss, but you are in the right place to feel better .
xx

Ahh lost thread. Hi Change Today an Export

Been really busy painting so not been posting. Not drinking too much but not cut down as much as I would like.

X parents in law just picked the DC's up to go to their Dad's and they refused to get out the car and knock on the door. I went out to them and said 'O Hi, I thought you wouldhave come to the door' and they copmpletely blanked my in fron of the DC's. All I can say is they made themselves look like fools being so rude to me in front of the DC's.

Seeing DP in a bit and still going really well.

Will catch up more soon.

Hope your back feels better JWN, your cold improves Isindie and hope Nemo and Mouse are OK. Thurso hope your getting support too

just checking in. Went for a wobble run after work and have had a nice bath.
DH's brother "might" be able to help us out with the debt thing so keeping my fingers crossed - we are running out of time.
Still feeling quite vulnerable and stressed though.
Tomorrow am going to a conference thingy where I hope to meet up with the love of my life - sort of . A man in his late 60s who I have heard speak at several events and whom I have become friends with. He is just inspirational and I have a bit of an "older man crush" on him - he's like the father I wish I'd had. he is Welsh and when he wraps me in a bear hug and says "how's my lovely girl then?" I feel that, for a moment, I'm safe. Sorry, that sounds very silly but I am SO looking forward to seeing him tomorrow.

Not silly at all Ma. I have friend who I hug and get that safe feeling with.

Right 8 more kitchen cupboards to go although the dog is taking far oo much interest in the painting and so is now a black labrador with a pale blue back, ear and forehead

Evening all! Just come back from my women's meeting. It's always good, especially when I don't feel like going . I'm beginning to think about drinking less and less which can only be a good thing, but it's very hard. Hope everyone is doing okay tonight.

Silly dog now has a pale blue tail

hahaha!

Buggered it up - am drinking.

Maybe tomorrow.

Morning all. ma enjoy your confernce and make the most of it - you deserve to have some good feelings.

today - today is another day, don't beat yourself up about last night, but can you use the experience to help you today? Have a think about what happened - did you already have wine in the house? did you make a special trip out to get something to drink? what else could you have done instead? In the first couple of days all my attention was focussed on delaying having my first drink, for a few minutes, for half an hour, for an hour. And sometimes I foudn that the strong feeling had gone away and I'd get through a night with nothing to drink.

Hope everyone has a lovely day.

today I don't want to be an AA basher - but have you thought about giving them a go? I spent years trying it on my own and had a really negative opinion of AA but I finally accepted I needed some help and went along. I find the support there incredible, I'm still very new and working it all out but it seems to be going well. I'm pretty sure that if i wasn't going I would have picked up a drink again - I'm going through a really rough time with my depression and being out of work, short of money and other rough stuff, and to know that there's someone at the end of the phone and somewhere i can go when I just need a hug is amazing. I don't go every day, I certainly don't subscribe to the '90 meetings in 90 days', I don't know many people who do - it's up to you how you use them! I don't know where you are in the country but I'm sure there is a meeting somewhere near you? if not, maybe just call the helpline? You sound like you really do need to stop. It's a horrible addiction . Please think about it. Hope you're feeling ok .