The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

[NotTheMessiahJustMouseface]

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

the thought of never drinking again fills me with horror, which in itself tells me something is wrong.

i can go a week or so without booze but then i think, oh right, i've got a handle on it now so i'll have a bottle tonight, then it's two bottles the next night and then i get back into my habit again.

i know i'm doing better than i was two years ago, when, if i'm honest, i was on about 150 units each week. not good. now i'm at about 50. still not good but better.

just checking in. still here, still alive. DH and I doing a LOT of talking...a LOT.
He wants us to stay together, I am undecided. his grief at my threat to leave was awful.
On another topic, I managed a 30 minute jog today - a new record.
thank you all for your support

Glad you're talking - it's so difficult isn't it? You have to be happy, that's the main thing, I've had to have long chat with my dh tonight about alcoholism and how it really 'works'! Very impressed with the jog too - I only managed 20 lengths in the pool last night !!

Hello new people!

I'm in a bit of an up and down place at the moment. I did have a drink the other night but stopped before it got out of hand thank goodness.

Went to a meeting last night, sat at the back not feeling like I wanted to talk to anyone and an older bloke came and sat with me. He was absolutely lovely - had that really calm/serene air that many long term AA sober people seem to have. He said some wise things and gave me some advice about some of the AA things that I've been struggling to grasp - all without making me feel pressured.

I'm not sure what's going on with my sponsor but I haven't spoken to her in 48 hours and she's not replying to my texts/missed calls (not hounding her, but have called a couple of times). I'm building up the courage to call her landline in case her mobile has finally given up the ghost. I'm not sure what I'm scared of but something's making me nervous about it.

TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

Not least because we have a family day out to go sightseeing in London (on dd2's request) tomorrow and the train is booked for 8.40am so I can't be feeling crap tomorrow. It's as good a reason as any to stay sober!

good morning all
sun is shining and today am taking dS up the coast where we will meet DH when he finishes work and spend some family time together which doesn't involve watching football or drinking. Weird
Have missed a lot of the thread recently - hi to new folks, I have been abit Missing in Action recently but well done for joining.
big hi to Mouse Indie JWN Thurso Golly qo and everyone else who is now offended I have forgottne their name.
Thurso are you ok?
mouse is it Nemo's bithday today or am I being previous?

Hello Brave Babes.

Ma - nice smiley post from you lovely, have a fab day.

Nemo is 2 tomorrow! A whole 2 years old! I'm weepy and excited about it all. We're off to see my family today and then having a BBQ here tomorrow with DH's family.

I still can't believe he made it this far but boy, am I glad he did!

Yes, where is thurso????

Golly - I take it things with your DD have settled down?

Right, time to go and get ready for Nemo's big day. Bye for now xxx

ma that sounds really positive, i hope you all have a great day together xx

I'm feeling a little more positive today, don't feel able to go out but feeling more able to sort stuff out in the house instead of letting that all mount up and make me feel even worse. If I have to be stuck in, I might as well be stuck in a clean, tidy house!!

Hope evryone is happy and safe xxx

Hello my Lovelies,

Thank you Ma and Mouse for asking how I am, bless you .

All fine here, bit like Ma lots of talking going on, and so haven't wanted to absent myself by coming into the study, we're both trying to meet in the middle with things, and I am full of hope. And DH is trying so hard to let it all out, which rather goes against his nature, I want to be very around

with much love to all, I will be around more next week.
Love, love, love
xxxxx

Phew! am going for an early bath,

I have tried (and succeseded in the main) to do all the thing's that DH want's me to. But, now I am just so tired, and, after a lovely roast dinner, Dh has gone into the garden, to potter around! Can't he just be for a moment!

I hope the quietness mean's that you have all had a good day.

Love to all,
xx

I have thanks thurso, got the whole house clean top to bottom, hoovered and everything, DS came up and cut the grass for me, and then I cooked us all a lovely tea. Had a long chat with him too about how I've been and that was good.

Feel really peaceful and calm now and as if I've achieved a lot(I still have a lot more to achieve in this house let me tell you!!) would love to unwind with a drink, but sent ds for 2 bottles of pop instead.

Today is day 7 for me, I can't believe how different things are just one week on. I've still got a long way to go mental-health wise, got lots going through my mind still and lots of issues, but at least I'm facing them sober.

I'm off now for the evening, hope everyone has a good night xx

oh qo well done. 7 days is bloody brilliant!!!
Have had two spritzers and that's it for tonight.
Going for a wine-free week this week as part of deal with DH who is going for half his normal beer consumption.

Good evening, everyone, I hope no-one minds, but I have a couple of questions of behalf of a colleague. She is very open to me that she has a problem with drink, I don't know that she tells me exactly how 'bad' it has got, but what she is saying is that she wants to address it.

She drinks vodka, she 'says' around half a bottle a day. I have never seen her drunk. She says she would like to be able to not drink one day if she has drunk the previous day, so I take that to mean she would like one day on, one day off - sounds to me like she's not ready to stop completely but would like to cut down, and if she could do one day on and one day off she would be cutting her drinking by half, so should I support her in trying for this, or should I be trying to encourage her to stop completely?

The other thing that worries me - and it's not something she's mentioned, so I'm not bringing it up with her in case it gives her an excuse to carry on drinking - is that I've read somewhere that stopping abruptly can cause withdrawal problems, which can be severe - does anyone have any info or experience of anything like that?

Hi Cats,

Sorry, I don't know if half a bottle of vodka daily is enough for it to be dangerous to stop. I'd say it was pretty close to the edge of it for sure, especially as it's every day because she will almost certainly have a physical addiction and will withdraw to some extent. Hopefully someone more knowledgeable about that side of things will be along with some advice. Cutting it by half can only be a good thing but my guess is that she'll find it very difficult because that kind of thing generally ends up with the person craving it a lot more than if they were to knock it on the end completely.

Hello ladies (and bloke)

Mouseface - yes things have calmed down with dd. The troubles with her are always in fits and starts, I think I believe her explanation that the page with the awful stuff on it was made by someone she knows to discredit her, which although is horrible in itself is better than the alternative of it being true.

Anyway... I caught up with my sponsor in the end today and we went to a meeting together early evening so I can stop fretting about that now

Train to London first thing in the morning, so early night for me! Hope you're all doing well x

BOING!!!!!

hello all! - ive been away on a surprise trip with dh! , had a wonderful time and just realised im 11 months sober today!

Qo, its fantastic to hear you today! , just 7 days has passed (sodding hard ones, i know!) and already you sound a different person!, so positive, its lovely!

welcome cheermum!, nice to have you aboard!, like qo says, just take it a day at a time - i find the thought of 'never' really daunting, its feels like an imposiblity, some thing i can never achieve, i do find that i keep think in terms of 'just for today' though!

anyway, a huge to all you other lovley babes!, specially you MA and thurso, i do hope your 'summit talks' are going ok!

night night everyone, see you in the morning!

L XXXXXXXXX

Half a bottle of vodka a day is less alcohol (I think, do check my maths) than two bottles of 11% wine or five pints of Stella.

So my experience would say that there is no real danger of withdrawal, though this will depend on a range of factors, including how big she is and how long this has been going on.

But really, lots of people drink far more than that and stop cold turkey. It just sounds more because it's spirits.

seconding the birthday wishes to the wee man and raising a glass mug of coffee to him and his indomitable spirit!
alos huge huge birthday joy to the fabulous, wonderful mouse and dd and dH who deserve everything good and are a family in a million!
Birthday kisses winging their way from Scotland to Nemo x

oh, and LOVE the poem Indie

lovely poem isindi! btw, just looked at photo of the dts! what a beautiful pair of kissable snuggleness they are!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY NEMO THE MAGNIFICANT!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

HAPPY BIRTHDAY NEMO
with lots of love
from Auntie Thurso xxxx

had to check photo - tooooooooo cute!!!
Thurso how's tricks?

Happy Birthday Nemo!!! hope you all have a wonderful day xxxx

Happy Birthday Nemo! Turning 2 is VERY special. Hope you enjoyed your day little guy.

Luci X

isinebetterplace, your girls are completely adorable.