Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

Hugs Mumfun ,hope you get some closure one way or another soon X

Oh Mumfun - sorry love. Keep posting on here. Single motherhood and pmt are not a good combination IME!
I wish I wasn't having to constantly do fucking work. It's neverending and I never feel like I can just relax, even for a day, without doing some. Just trying to update French assessments at the moment. Crap.

Thats what I meant to say Goo -to echo Starting that I dont know how you do it working - and at such a demanding job too! You are a star!

We are all stars love. Don't know how SAHM do it either - it would drive me mad and I would be shite at it. You have my ultimate respect x
French assessments not going well, as you can see!
Exbf is playing a gig in a pub in my town next Saturday. He messaged me asking if we can meet. I can't cos I've got the kids - our "free" weekends no longer coincide, which is a blessing, as I'd be very tempted to meet for a romantic liaison! Funny, you know, because I really don't want to get back with him now. He is stuck in a neverending rut of no work, no money, selfish behaviour and my self esteem has gone right up now that I'm no longer trying to please him :) But hey, he looks awfully good in a t shirt, so he could be my little fling on the side. Except he can't. BEcause we have no coinciding weekends! STILL trying to get my mate to set me up with drummer man, who is yummy. Patience - youtube - drummerboyful. Watch him playing the drums love and see if you get what I mean!

Listening to Van the Man. Fab.

ok away to look now x

tried to look - got vid about tits (birds) :)

Haha! Yeah, you gotta scroll down cos he posts lots of things under that name. One of thumbnails shows him sitting with drums. Hold on ladies...

yep im struggling googs need more clues,

ohhh. Kept wanting to say look up a bit! :)

But good hands! :)

Yeah, hasn't he? Sigh.

.....and feet x

Ok Dad of the year cancelled at half 9 this morning ,pick up should be 10am.
Ds said ,can we go and buy some pringles instead ?

Sad thing is that you're not at all surprised are you, Patience? Saddest for the dc but they still get 100% good parenting even though he doesn't contribute to it. Bring on the barbecue Pringles.

Elsie he texted me

I'm really starting to not like u ,
I replied
Whatever.......

Think this is indifference.
No need to hear his excuses over the phone,just did it all by text,he is just a prick.

But he isn't indifferent, is he? Or he wouldn't need feel the need to tell you what he thinks of you. Keep that thought and enjoy the view from the moral high ground. But don't waste too much of your headspace on him. My friend said to me, why are you allowing xp to live in your brain rent-free? which is a very good point.

It's a nice place to be Elsie,its like im 95 % of the way there.I'm not feeling any emotion re X.just like reading the end of a low qiuality v predictable novel .

I'm just going to kick back and eat pringles ,I have officially declared my life a muppet free zone.

Hi everyone, hope you had a good day.

Patience - never expect anything from your ex and if he does turn up then all well and good. What you have to remember is that when your DC are older they will remember what he didnt do for them. He will be the loser (is the loser) in the long run, but I guess for you to sit back and watch what he is doing to your DC is very difficult and upsetting.

Mum - sorry things are difficult for you. Sending Hugs.

Elsie - oooo you lucky girl, go for it and enjoy yourself. So pleased that you are moving on, im sure your little interlude will be very helpful to you. What does your exP think?

Goo - hope you are well and not working too hard.

I had a lovely few days away with a work friend, she was crewing to Johannesburg so I joined her and had a great time. On Friday night I had the best evening out I have had for a longtime, (I dont really drink but felt it would be rude not to try their red wine) the food was out of this world and so was the wine, whilst a little merry the two girls I was with made me text H saying where I was and how much fun I was having and that the red wine was amazing (he loved red wine)! Oh well I dont suppose it did any harm, but I shouldnt be lead by others.

Waves to everyone else, Sov -hope your NM is still looking after you, and Tea how is the decorating is going well.

Hello ladies, how are you all doing? I have been checking in but doing more hours at work and just finished a big project so it's been quite hectic.

Name changed for today - been thinking about Tossbag ex and his foghorn lady and I know they stalk me on Twitter so not sure if they do on here.

I felt really down and blue. It's 6 months since my life turned upside down and ex said he wanted a complete break with me ( and 5 months since I found out about the OW!)

So strange, lying cuddled up with NM, who is lovely and kind and interesting and I was overwhelmed with sadness about what happened to me and my girls - and engulfed in thinking about ex and OW, what they are doing? how happy are they? and how he can go from being a family men to seeing our beautiful girls a couple of days a fortnight. He doesn't even ring them anymore.

I know part of it is the 6 month wall - so hard to get over, it's ex's birthday next week and him and her are going away for the week. So he won't even see his girls on his birthday...not my problem I know but I always made such a fuss about birthdays that I am finding it hard to understand.

My life is going well, promotion in a job I love, better off financially and spritually, I can do my own thing and I have a lovely bloke - it's a long distance relatioanship but with my girls and his job commitments...it suits us really well. I don't want ex back but because of the lies and deceit from him sometimes I doubt all my feelings and emotions about my new fella. I feel numb a lot of the time.

So, not sure why I was crying today for the first time in months - still can't believe that our family was ripped apart so he could go off with the new woman in the office. I was reading on here about hearts being broken and torn out this week - and it's so true.

Can't believe I feel so down about this 6 months milestone. I know I'll feel better tomorrow but hate having all those same thoughts return about what we had for 13 years and what he chose to destroy and discard without a second thought.

I hope you wonderful, strong ladies are doing better.

Big hugs field ,
Just hang in there,
ru watching the GAGA just about to go on stage LIVE ON BBC 3

Field - six months is still not a long time when you consider how long you were together, you are always going to get down days while your heart is healing but remember they will get less, I am nearly a year on since I found out and still have all the same thoughts, why, how could he, are they happy etc all the same ones as you, but as time goes on you get to the stage where you will still think them but the answers you make in your head affect you less.

Thinking of you, think how lucky you are with all the positive things that have changed, your wonderful girls and also your lovely guy you are seeing.

hi rom Thanks - I do know how lucky I am, and I do feel that I am doing well. I think that's why it came as such a surprise...I'm sure it's hormonal as well. Just caught up with me out of the blue x

Evening all. Haven't read thread yet so need to catch up. Just spent an hour on the phone again to my date for tomorrow night. We seem to have really hit it off & I find I am getting v excited about date tomorrow night. Only down side is I haven't had hair done in ages & haven't time to get it done tomorrow either so will have to make serious effort to dress so impressively that he won't notice the hair lol.....