The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Giving Up Booze For Lent.

[Mouseface]

Hello.

I'm Mouse.

We are a Bus load of posters with various relationships with the demon booze. Some are sober, some are not and some are inbetween.

So come say hi and meet the rest of The Babes, there's always plenty of room on the Bus, the doors are ALWAYS open.

No judgy pants are worn on this journey, pants yes and even the odd Tena Lady but always of the non judging variety.

Previous Threads

piece = peace ARRRRGHHHH (war and a piece of cake, that might be a helpful strategy in world relations)

threesteps have a hug

I do wish that not drinking would solve everything in the world, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to. What I find helpful about this thread is that when I have to deal with real life while I'm sober, I can come on here and have a little rant. I love my dp to bits, and I am insanely loyal to him and would never complain about him to my friends, but I come on here and moan about his ineptitude and how it makes me feel - because everyone on here knows that I'm having to cope with it without resorting to a drink.

fwiw, I don't think that you can't cope with the crap that occurs in real life, it's just that we're all having to learn some new ways of coping that doesn't always involve a bottle and a big glass.

aw, thanks venus, I appreciate the hug and the kind words, I love hugs

It feels weird at the mo as usually my periods in life where stress is high I can usually say have been exacerbated by too much booze. I've been making such an effort to limit drinking to fridays and saturdays, that I can't really blame the fact I feel like I'm falling apart to booze. It's a bugger!

Although tonight all bets are off - am sitting here pissed as a fart with a high-gloss foot! DP looked dumbstruck and horrified earlier to see me in such a state after the showdown with our builder (before the first glass of wine I hasten to add) (I say showdown - he said 'you're being unreasonable' - I said 'yes, you're probably right', and then cried) - everything has made me drink like a mad thing tonight. Making up for Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday? I think so.

Oh god I don't know, once again I wish I could replace from my neck up with someone who's together and sorted...like Myleene Klass...doesn't she always seem so annoyingly sorted at all times!!

Oh, babes,
all had a bit of a day it here, I think, certainly for me.

Three Know how scary the health thing is, I had a scan for a lump last December, and cried when it was Ok. I hope all goes well.

Big I am , Mouse you make me laugh, because I think you're really little!
(as are most people, I think on here, (5ft 8 with bare feet, I feel a giant!) .
Spent many years wishing I was a lot shorter, but there you go....

DH just gone up to bed, but I am still zinging with the two glasses of wine, and want more, but lots to do tomorrow, and writing this has stopped me!

Ma how are you doing tonight?

It was "Benidorm" [shame icon] I just love it! Said to DH I need to buy a boxed set so that I don't have to think, instead of the wine! But having dissected various texts, and reading Charles Dickens, was just what I needed .

Going to bed quite soon, but Silver are you out there?

Thurso, Benidorm was where I spent a lot of my lost gap year with my mate in a VW camper van . We were mainly in Altea, which is a beautiful town about 15 km from Benidorm, and I have many happy memories! I did kareoki (sp?) for the first and only time in Benidorm!!!

Thurso, do you feel two glasses is enough for tonight? can you do the tooth brushing and/or tea thing and take yourself off to bed?

Very jealous of you spending a gap year three, only wished that it was George Michael, instead of Banarmarama on there tonight.
I loved George before he came out, and still do, if truth be told

three x posted, yes, lots of tea, although I don't feel like it, and still not tired, so up to bed in a moment, are you ok?

He's fab isn't he!! Seems so happy to be part of a parody/piss take, he's got to be a funny bloke!
Hmm, claim to famedom, I had a tatoo done in a parlour in London where Nigel Kennedy was! His friend was having a tatoo and he and Nige took us out for chips afterwards...he was very lovely . He could have been a lookey-likey though, but this was before the days lookey-likeys had careers!

Thurso, I'm good thank you. I have radio on quiet when I go to sleep, it's my saving grace, although used to drive DP mad (no longer in same rooms). Makes me feel I'm not spending small hours alone when I have insomnia...

Mouseface, thanks for posting that about the PM I received, but I wasn't upset about it. Astonished, yes, but not upset. I was already half way to a meeting (in my head) by the time I got the message so it had no effect on my decision at all. I was more concerned about what effect that kind of message might have on someone who was still very unsure about what direction they might take in order to find some help.

I'm off to bed. The takeout did the trick of gluing me to the sofa for the evening and I have a meeting to go to first thing in the morning. I'm enjoying sleeping well and not waking at 5am with my heart pounding and dread in my veins.

Good night thurso, venus, golly and all the other brave babes and MIFLAW
tomorrow's a bright new day
three x

Hey Thurso I'm here but off to bed. I feel like I've been the cause of all the anxiety on the thread, so I'm off to sleep under the back seat.

sweet dreams babes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Just caught up on the messages. Seems as though it's been a tough week for many.

Fwiw I think this is a fab thread and has been really helpful to me. I do consider myself a newbie but I have always been supported on here. Everyone has to be a newbie at some point

Hi All
Just caught up with all the messages. Many many things that I wholeheartedly agree with.

Fab meeting tonight, feeling serene and in control of me and my own destiny.

Sleep tight brave babes.

Bafana

Morning

Even now I am still surprised that I wake up and feel OK, especially on a Saturday morning. Sometimes I wake up and have a little tiny sort of headache and my first reaction is 'oh god, what did I have to drink?', then I realise that it's only a teeny headache and I don't have a dry horrid mouth or a sweating body, I haven't got a raging thirst, and I haven't got to apologise for upsetting anyone the evening before, or try to remeber what I might have said.

Cup of coffee, headache gone. Now what shall I do with the day? Bloody good this sober life and for me well worth missing out on the wine for.

Hello everyone just checking in to say hello, hope everyone ok, work frantic and no time for anything! Hope you are all ok will just try to catch up now x

Morning everyone! It's supposed to be 25 degrees C here today. Scorchio!

Finally got a pretty good night's sleep and feel so much better for it. Me, DD and DS all fell asleep together in the double bed at 9.30.

I wanted to say something to people who feel they can't keep up with the thread and so don't post. I have got over this by totally accepting that I can't keep up, no way. So I read every post but generally don't respond because I'm a day behind, and because there have been so many posts that I want to respond to that I don't respond to any. That may make me seem a little self-obsessed, but I don't care because this thread a huge part of the reason I'm not drinking. I feel like I know and love everyone on the thread. (Will probably be able to keep up much better when I'm back at work )

Mouse I know you're not around but just in case you read this, you said to me EXACTLY what I needed to hear yesterday afternoon when I was feeling pretty sorry for myself, thank you so much!

Just popping in, been up for hours already but without the hangover a Friday night used to result in

maddogs - you're welcome, I hope you managed to get some sleep last night. xx

Golly - sorry, I couln't think how best to phrase it. But you have explained perfectly, what this tired old Mouse could not.

Coffee and toast anyone? Or I could rustle up a bacon sarnie as it's the weekend?

Ruby - fab to see you!

Morning Babes
We're a chipper old lot this morning!
Have lovely mornings all.
xxxx

afternoon all
have takend DD to the stables, done the supermarket trawl, cleaned the house and am waiting for washing to stop before hanging it out in this gusty wind.
Didn't have a very good start to the day - DH tried his usual pesteringloving, and as usual I moved away. There was a pause, then normally he would just come back at me again, but this time he said, in a sad voice "I wish I could turn you on the way I used to" and then left me alone.
I feel really sorry for him, but what can I do?
Keeping on keeping on....

Afternoon all!

Typing one handed, poorly baby (and also [yawn smiley].

Venus, that's exactly how I felt this morning, and it was fab! I hate to think how many days a week on average I've been hungover in the past 15-20 years, and it's just so nice not to be!

Can I have a little bit of reassurance please? A week of not drinking here, and feeling very clean and serene, but a little voice has started niggling at me. Not telling me to have a drink, more along the lines of "oh, stop being such a drama queen, of courese you're nothing even approaching an alcoholic, you're just...greedy, that's it. You're making this into a big thing just for the attention, you're getting ideas above your station, look at all these people with real problems trying so hard, who do you think you are, trying to join in". Etc, etc.

My sensible self thinks this is a load of guff, but are these normal thoughts (if that's not a stupid question?)

Hope everyone's having a lovely Sat - maddogs - 25degrees! .

xposted - ma, that's a very guilt-tripping thing to say

Ma - are you still talking to him about the lack of physical intamacy in your relationship?

This must be heartbreaking for you both.

Have you thought about couples counselling or even seperate sex therapy?

I imagine that this is putting a massive strain on your relationship, and maybe Dh thinks the only way he can 'show' you he loves you, is by having sex with you.

Quite often men feel that's they only way. Very caveman but true. I wish we were nearer so we could just talk and talk and talk about it all.

Your head must be swimming with all of this pressure. Have you tried to write any of your feelings down in black and white so to speak?

I'm not sure what else to suggest but you can't go on like this and neither can DH.

Huge hugs to you lovely xxxxxx

Afternoon

Trist - I know that voice all too well. Try perhaps to think of the end result rather than the pleasure (relief ?) you might get from the first drink. You know you won't stop at one, don't you? In fact, that first one will be the reason you want another... I'm sure you know the drill. The end result is probably quite messy, and a raging hangover tomorrow, on mother's day.

I'm loving the non-hungover weekend mornings too, it's a revelation and especially lovely when the sun is out