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Sex question - fairly extreme

128 replies

gymsleepandfreedom · 06/03/2011 22:08

Right, so apologies in advance for the nature of this question but I was discussing it with a friend and it got me thinking...

Would you let your DP/DH erm.... ejaculate in your face? I think it's quite demeaning, she didn't, I wanted a wider opinion.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 06/03/2011 23:48

Ami, I hope you smashed the (quite literally)tossers phone and told him never to darken your doors again... what an absolute arse...

tigerchilli · 06/03/2011 23:48

Naa it's the "money shot" from mainstream, pornographic, hate speech against women. I would rather keep any sexual encounters that I have out of the mediated and predictive propaganda of some misogynistic VV rich men who make a living out of despising women.

Momentarynamechange · 06/03/2011 23:49

erm, what is scat Confused?

Original poster
gymsleepandfreedom · 06/03/2011 23:50

This is interesting.

I don't think it's extreme but I thought for MN perhaps it might be.

I thought it was demeaning mostly due to porn, I quite like a lot of porn but HATE money shots on the face, it is always degrading the girls involved to little more than a wank sock with legs and I think I associate it with that now.

Going to give it a shot. DP is the most loving, respectful gorgeous man alive (to me), it might be fun.

OP posts:
PeterAndreForPM · 06/03/2011 23:52

give it a money shot

why not

just make sure there are no cameras around Smile

Momentarynamechange · 06/03/2011 23:53

And OP, I don't think it's necessarily demeaning, as others have said in a trusting relationship etc....context is all....

squeakytoy · 06/03/2011 23:57

Has your DP said he wants to do it then?

ShavingGodfreysPrivates · 07/03/2011 00:01

It's not for me but I don't think it's extreme or necessarily demeaning, it depends on the situation and the people involved.

I've had more pearl necklaces than the Queen and Audrey Hepburn put together though.

nurseblade · 07/03/2011 00:09

All this talk of cumshots in porn, do people feel the same about porn that shows women ejaculating on men? Do you feel that is degrading to men?

squeakytoy · 07/03/2011 00:13

If it was on their face, then yes, I would really but again its just my personal feelings on it.

I am not anti-porn in its entirety, but like many people, there are some porn "shots" that I find distasteful and would not watch. This sort of shot being one of them.

If a man was to ejaculate all over her boobs, thats somewhat different. That (to me) is a lot more acceptable than over the face. Its just the face thing that really turns me off.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 07/03/2011 00:20

So what have the anti-porn posters got to say about women's vaginal fluid on a man's face? If a woman has an orgasm when a man is performing oral sex on her, there's going to be female sexual fluid on his face. Is that more/less degrading than male sexual fluid on a woman's face?

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 00:24

the day I see a group of women furiously masturbating and annointing some unhappy-looking bloke on his knees with several lots of sexual fluid on his face as "mainsream wank fodder" will be the day I say you have a point, sgb

the way things stand right now ?

err nope

nurseblade · 07/03/2011 00:28

What? There is plenty of mainstream porn depicting females ejaculating on men. I would link you to some but I'm not sure we are allowed to link to porn on here. Google for squirting porn, you will find loads.

lovenamechange100 · 07/03/2011 00:39

scat involves poo dont google I did and wished I hadnt

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 00:40

really, nurseblade ?

groups of women, ejaculating on mens faces ?

where those men are not shown to get any sexual satisfaction at all except for the "privilege" of accepting the cum (and sore eyes) ?

really ?

I don't disagree there are probably loads of "squirters" out there in pornland, but usually they are lone/coupled females, for the benefit of male wankers

which is what most of porn is < shrugs >

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 00:41

and no, please don't link to porn on here

it's easy enough to find it, more is the pity

nurseblade · 07/03/2011 00:45

Yes really. I'm not sure how you prove the men don't get any satisfaction from it any more than you prove women don't in the reverse scenario, but quite honestly I prefer looking at it when the men do seem to be enjoying it, and I'm female.

amberleaf · 07/03/2011 01:26

Ive definitely seen porn depicting groups of women ejaculating over a man!

LadyFannyofBumStreet · 07/03/2011 03:03

Heh. This is by no means extreme. And yes, I always let him do it would consider it if asked nicely.

Lovecat · 07/03/2011 07:19

I know that I'm a bit dense when it comes to stuff like this, but I don't see how a group of women can ejaculate onto a man's face. Logically speaking, that is. Unless they were queued up for it and took it in turns (which sounds well sexy - not!) or else they were all coming on a different bit of him - which differs considerably from a 'many men on one woman's face' scenario. Women don't have the aiming ability of men, after all...

OP, I personally wouldn't, and if it had been my partner that asked me rather than it being your own idea, I'd actually be quite bothered by that. Not sure why, as I've had it on my face before as a by-product of inexpert fellatio, it just seems a bit yuck as a calculated thing. To leave off sex just as it's getting intense and effectively spit in your face? It just seems rather... well, I'd be wondering if he was thinking of me at all god not whatever porn movie/mag he'd got the idea from.

Lovecat · 07/03/2011 07:21

and - I don't know how god got in there! Damn phone...

JessicaDrew · 07/03/2011 08:32

would be a whole different ball game if it was the lady who said " when your about to cum whip it out and spunk all over my face"
i had a friend like this!!!!!!

amberleaf · 07/03/2011 09:50

lovecat Women do have the aiming ability of men, in fact ive never seen a man 'project' the way a woman ejaculating can.

BelleBelicious · 07/03/2011 10:22

Amberleaf

Nobody is arguing that there aren't all sorts of porn out there - name me anything in the world, and I'm pretty sure I could find a porn link to it somewhere. But the vast majority of porn uses women as basic cum canvases - and has no real interest in their pleasure. That's because the market is for men looking for a quick (or maybe direct) fix.

There are all sorts of roles you can play with sex and I agree with the poster who said context is all. If you are happy and enjoy it, go for it. But it is an act of domination - spunking allover someone's face, and pretending that it isn't, is just naive. There's nothing wrong with that per se and if your relationship caters for that or you are inclined towards it, fine, but don't agree to it, if it doesn't.

Thingumy · 07/03/2011 10:38

Is a woman being the dominating one if she orgasms whilst her partner is giving her oral sex?

I cannot see why lots of women think getting spunk on their tits or around their neck is more acceptable than their faces?

It's just another place on the body and if you like it,so what?