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Sex question - fairly extreme

128 replies

gymsleepandfreedom · 06/03/2011 22:08

Right, so apologies in advance for the nature of this question but I was discussing it with a friend and it got me thinking...

Would you let your DP/DH erm.... ejaculate in your face? I think it's quite demeaning, she didn't, I wanted a wider opinion.

OP posts:

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 07/03/2011 10:49

It isnt something that I would like, or would let DH do (he wouldn't want to) but if it is in your own home between 2 consenting adults then it is none of my concern.

JessicaDrew · 07/03/2011 10:51

i love having a lady orgasm in my mouth while in 69 posn
its No1 on my list
don't care what attention i am getting
guess that makes me a bit submissive!!

carminaburana · 07/03/2011 10:54

Uh huh

SaggyHairyArse · 07/03/2011 11:01

This happened to me this morning!

It was somewhat accidental, I wont go into that of a Monday morning but it wasn't degrading.

When he left I said "thanks for a lovely weekend and for the facial this morning", bwahahahaha!

TrinityIsABunnyMunchingRhino · 07/03/2011 11:03

yes
its not demeaning or extreme
just another thing some people may do (because they both want to) and some people may not

definitely not extreme

Malificence · 07/03/2011 11:33

I don't think it's extreme in any way , I do however think that if a person feels it's demeaning/degrading, then it is (for them).

I can't imagine what either party gets out of it tbh, for a man it's going to ruin the moment surely?
If he gets more (psychologically speaking) out of ejaculating on a woman's face than via ejaculating in her, I'd say he had a few ishoos too.

It would ruin the moment for me, that's for sure, there's nothing nicer than feeling your partner's orgasm, I'd feel cheated out of one of the best bits of sex, which is the knowledge that your body is having this effect on the person you love. I'd feel pretty insulted if a man wanted to stop having sex with me so he could start masturbating, which is what it boils down to.

Thingumy · 07/03/2011 11:38

Mal I think you'll find that there are quiet a few women who will be turned on by watching a man ejaculate .

Are you saying that men who withdrawal and ejaculate elsewhere have issues?

carminaburana · 07/03/2011 11:46

Mal; you're living in Mills & Boon land - sex is supposed to be dirty and varied. And he wouldn't be stopping anything necessarily ( he was probably always near your face - and the woman could be handling the goods - so to speak.)

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 11:57

carmina...you obviously haven't read very many of mal's posts

JessicaDrew · 07/03/2011 12:01

yes Mal is the mrs whiplash of Tuesday afternoon pensioners club!!!!

Malificence · 07/03/2011 12:03

I would think a man who only ever wants to do this, or pressurises a women for it, has issues, yes.
I can understand that plenty of women would enjoy it, if I thought my DH would enjoy it, I would give it a go, but he wouldn't , so that colours my view too.

Pure mills and boon, yep, that's me.
Just expressing my opinion I love biting and spanking yet I know plenty of people on here think that's fairly extreme, in fact I've been told on more than one occasion on here that my DH can only do this for me because he hates women!

"Sex is supposed to be dirty and varied" - really ?, well I had no idea
I take it that you haven't seen very many of my posts then?

carminaburana · 07/03/2011 12:04

PA: No I haven't - but from what I've just read she's no Flintstone

Thingumy · 07/03/2011 12:05

I don't think we were talking about men who are obsessed with it.

squeakytoy · 07/03/2011 12:08

I agree with Mal actually.. (a rarity itself )

If he gets more (psychologically speaking) out of ejaculating on a woman's face than via ejaculating in her, I'd say he had a few ishoos too.

Exactly how I feel as well.

And I dont think sex is supposed to be dirty, certainly not every time. Varied yes, within the boundaries of what both parties enjoy. Personally I want to be loved, and someone wanking over my face wouldnt feel like an act that you do to someone you respect and love. Again I repeat, I appreciate that isnt the same for everyone, but I have frank and open convo with my friends, and we all think the same.

Difficult not to be too graphic here, but if he comes all over your tits, you can still kiss and cuddle up.. and for me that is how sex should end, not with one person rushing off to wipe spunk off their face.

Thingumy · 07/03/2011 12:12

you've still got to wipe up his spunk from your body though haven't you?

Malificence · 07/03/2011 12:12

You'd have to go on a different forum to find the men who are obsessed with it.

I haven's said there's anything wrong with it, just that I find it a bit puzzling from my own POV.

Belly painting and pearl necklaces just seem a bit juvenile, sort of what you did when you were 16, type of thing, or was that just us?

What on earth is a Flintstone btw?

JessicaDrew · 07/03/2011 12:13

OH Squeaky tou need to try snowballing
Mal enlighten her please

garlicbutter · 07/03/2011 12:15

I certainly would find "someone wanking all over my face" demeaning! But I rather thought I'd be doing the "wanking", not him - it's a joint activity with a one-way payoff. Not demeaning.

sincitylover · 07/03/2011 12:16

if it was one part of a long session in which I also come then I have no problem with it.

I also don't get the ick factor with mens semen and would be quite insulted if a man was openly repulsed by my vaginal secretions or gave me oral sex as a 'treat'.

I think it's quite difficult to bring gender politics into the individual bedroom - I have found sex more fulfilling since I ditched the vanilla. I think there's a big difference to what you would do in a safe environment with a trusted partner than with just anyone IYKWIM.

I also like being called insulting names - in the bedroom - it's a turn on for me.

However outside of the bedroom that would be a no no.

carminaburana · 07/03/2011 12:18

Mal - it's someone that makes your bed rock

sincitylover · 07/03/2011 12:18

why wipe it off - just rub it in

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 12:19

what is a flintstone ?

squeakytoy · 07/03/2011 12:19

Well you have Thingy yes, but you can both get in the shower together and start round 2.

And I would also say, its not something that we have bothered to do for years... as TTC sort of needs the stuff in a certain place... :) .. I also do feel a bit past all that sort of porn style sex too nowadays....

PeterAndreForPM · 07/03/2011 12:21

Malificence · 07/03/2011 12:24

I thought we were talking about the porn-scenario of him doing the masturbating in order to ejaculate over her?
Joint involvement is a very different thing imho and far more preferable.

I don't understand the ick factor with semen either, I like the taste, texture and smell.

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