Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.3

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Hugs mf thinking of u ,escape up here whenever u like x

Oh Mumfun that sounds so frustrating about ds & cutbacks ((Hugs)). Hope you are managing to take care of yourself in midst of it all. Thanks for the tip on oil of cloves I'll deffinately look into this & actually you've made me think that I need to check out if there is anything else practical that I could be doing to help so I'll need to go back googling. I've had mention of the receding gums aswell but tbh I blocked it out as can't cope!

PT, you'll get there, it all takes time & I do think having financial settlement brings huge closure & peace.

Patience, yes crystals in place under pillow & signs from angels all looking good

Hello everyone,
starting you poor thing toothache is horrible especially when it costs money. Have you tried whiskey?
Getting glad things are moving with the house and I'm sure as emotionally draining as it is, this will really help you to detach and move forward.
Patience you're sounding wise indeed the truth will set you free, nothing like lies and deceit to mess with your head.
I'm really excited about my move now, nothing is getting me down. i'm managing to be really nice to my x too. he minded the boys while I got my drastic'living social'cut and colour today. Its a weird colour actually. However I have to be careful cos to my surprise, horror and shock I felt a wee flicker of something for him as we met at the train station in the pishing rain (key hand over) Also I have to watch that I don't budge an inch as i'm a giver and he's a snatcher!
Think of me tomorrow-my last day at work cos I will feel a bit daft with my big bright hairdo. They're having a tea for me so I will be a bit selfconscious.
get a good nights sleep mumfun and hello partytime tea googs and everyone.

Ooo cut and colour Maybee ,have fun tomorrow ,just think chin up tits out and imagine we are all at the tea party ,that's what I always do if Im in a big group of people.always makes me laff x

Ok strong gale force winds .trampoline has just tipped over , I am doing trampoline checks at half 4 in the morning.we were going to pin it down next weekend.don't think its damaged much but its meant to last til lunchtime.I dont know if I can cope til then .think the wind is to do with spring equinox .

Oh Patience, hope trampoline is ok.Funny weather here too, kind of wild & ice & snow due back again from tomorrow !! Hope you manage to get it pinned down asap

Maybee, radical change sounds good. Hope you have a great day today & that it's not too emotional

How Ru today starting ?

Hi all

Hope trampoline is ok ! We might be getting one soon as have been recommended to as therapy for DS! Exciting.

Life is weird at the moment. Still thoroughly hacked off overall.#
Then I get amazing news this morning -cant post details but have chance at huge really huge financial/career opportunity. Got through initial very tough selection -now have to wait further stages. Absolutely shocked that got through as thousands tried. Will keep you updated :)

But still was thinking Id give this up if I could could put the clock back -stupid I know but maybe understandable.

Mumfun thats sooo exciting and sounds well timed to have something nice , yes keep us updated !

Starting hope you feel a bit better today toothache is awful , I had no idea stress could affect your teeth. Hope you can get it sorted out without a mortgage !

Maybee glad you are moving back to be nearer to family and friends and are so excited

Patience hope you have hung onto trampoline - its had quite an eventful life that trampoline ! Great you are so happy and sorted now , amazing the difference in you since finding out what had gone on with ex and his gf

Well first of all I have just had the most wonderful news , my bf has had her results this morning and she has MS but not the rarer progressive form they suspected but "just" normal MS. We have just had lunch out to celebrate , very emotional , we laughed saying it comes to something when you are celebrating having MS !

Feeling so odd still , last night at the girls night we ended up looking through the hosts wedding album and everyone was talking about their dresses etc . Although I did have a burning desire for a cigarette I was otherwise fine and heard my self say how much I still liked my dress and would choose it again [detached emoticon]

Waves to everyone - Offschool ok ? Sov hope you are recovering , Happy,Elsie,Pink, Tea and googoo hope you are having a nice day

Mf how xciting 4u !!!
Getting this is the 2nd trampoline LOL other one lying around the garden waiting for X to pick it up.
Spoke to him today asked him to pick up anchorage thing to pin it.not that expensive and he was next to supplier.he said he was going to make something by himself
Waves to everyone ,got my bt stuff connected but no hub yet.soon be here though .

Starting, hope you're ok. Tooth pain is one of the worst pains there is. The antibiotics should kick in soon.

Getting, so pleased about your friend.

Mumfun, well done re possible new job. Don't tell your h about it though because it would affect your divorce settlement hugely. I'm wondering if it might soon be time to give your H the big heave ho. Hope I'm not speaking out of turn but your enormous amount of patience with him in waiting for him to change might not serve you well in the end, especially if you start making some serious dosh, of which he would be entitled to half. If he gets wind of that he could well hang on in the knowledge that he would benefit financially.

You've been waiting a long long time for him to change. Is it maybe time for you to cut your losses, file for divorce, and then if you get that job the money would go to you and your DC. Please don't tell anyone you can't trust %1000 about your amazing news.

PS, you don't have to reply, I know you keep things close to your chest, but I do get the feeling that your H is quietly taking the piss. x

Mumfun what Pink said

By that I mean I agree with her

hello everyone, mumfun thats great news for you but a good idea to keep it quiet as others say.
I had the day from hell today. Boys all v grumpy took Louis for his MMR then did school and nursery run. My tea at work went fine until all the auxiliaries arrived late as teaching staff were leaving and sat at another table. I just assumed they had a meeting but they had come to say goodbye (I didn't know) so I apparently ignored them! I thought I had to get back to class and unknown to me my manager had invited them all even though it was just me and 2 other teachers who had come in just for the tea left. Anyway they had all been v generous and had signed the card so I felt so bad that they thought I had snubbed them. so I spent my last hour frantically running around the school apologising and saying bye. It could easily have been resolved by my daft manager but she had disappeared. Anyway I rectified it as best I could but it has disportionately upset me. I need people being precious and oversensitive like a hole in the head! I have been weepy ever since! ds3 threw an entire bag of sugar around the floor, ds2 kept me a prisoner in his bed until he fell asleep ds1 has started his'mum you've ruined my life'tirade again. i want to run away or hide under a big stone! Anyway tomorrow is another day.
Patience i admire your patience with that trampoline!

Ok here continues the saga of my bt broadband,I tracked the order for my hub and it has been delivered to a different number in my street.wtf I hear u shout.but here is the best bit,I notified them that the emails they were sending me were the wrong address.the engineer was given new details and managed to find his way here,but alas the hub is on its own secret mission.next Friday we will do some tunes .bt man asked me what speed broadband was I used too.I just laffed I don't know faster than a fecking dongle mate,Apparently it will be super fast when I get it ,heres hoping x

Maybee !! That all sounds too much for one day and sounds exhausting and draining. Hope you sleep well tonight and DC1 gives you a break.

Waves to Maybee Ffs do these woman not know how to party.
Sympathise re sugar. My Ds did coffee once ,whole fecking jar of gold blend.I just walked out and left it tbh.went all liquid by the time I got home I remember.

Hi everyone. Trying to keep up!
Starting - so sorry about toothache. Lots of sympathy from me xxxx
Party - hello - just read a bit about your situation. You will get there. I feel for you.
Maybee - god love you, what a day. And I completely sympathise with bloody school politics - why couldn't those women have come and sat with you ffs, instead of sitting on their own in a group? How were you meant to know they were there for your do if they didn't bloody say so? ARRRGH! Chin up love - final push and you will be free and all will seem well when you get over there :)
Up for tunes tomorrow night Patience if you have your broadband
Hello to all. Just finishing data analysis here. I know, my life is one big party and I'm eating the cake. Never mind, school actually went well today and I'm in the boss's good books! That should last for...about 2 days! Revelling while I can though!

Haha Patience - yes ffs - why can't these women party?!!!! Reminds me of that great Pink song "Don't get fancy, just get dancy!"

Must tell you all that I had a rare conversation about things with my lovely dad last night. He said that he was so pleased that I was happier and that when I was upset he just wanted to weep for me. And he said he thought the girls "on that mumsnet thing" have really been a godsend! Bless him - he's right! :)

Googs I haven't got a clue what data analysis is but I like eating cake .
Forgot I have the annual fabulosity and glitter dance school extravaganza,googs and my hub has gone awol,but next week we shall do our versus tunes ,best reflective song for walk out dads must be daddys gone glasvegas googs,put it on u tube with the lyrics x

Glad u had a chat with ur dad googs x

Waves to all & thank you so much for your kind support re my whole tooth saga. Well thankfully pain killers are doing the trick mostly. Strangely first think this morning I had a call from dentist to see was I ok . I just kind of babbled I was ok while wondering wtf they were ringing me for. Dentists don't normally ring to see if your ok? Only two explanations I can come up with 1) he's an extremely nice person & concerned about my welfare 2) he bottched the work he did & is concerned about reprecussions

Mumfun, that is really fantastic news, I'm so pleased for you as you really deserve a break. Was also thinking that if this happens for you it might give you the means to get the support necessary for ds if he'll be affected by cutbacks as you feared. Sadly I agree with others that it might be wise to keep this from H until you decide how things are progressing.

Maybee, sorry to hear you had such an emotional day but was probably never going to be the easiest of days as I'm sure you're emotional about leaving too. I can empathise about the sugar as I've had a few of those experiences with dc's!! Ds is bound to be a bit wobbly atm but I'm sure he'll settle in in no time. ((Hugs))

Getting, that is great news about your friend

Goo, that was such a lovely thing for your dad to have said about you, he sounds lovely .

Patience, the saga of the broadband continues

Hope everyone else is doing ok

Little story about how far I've come with xh. He took the dc out this afternoon & when I was collecting them he was telling me that he loved the book I got him from dc for his b'day. It was The Power (follow on from The Secret), I knew he'd love it as he's believe it or not a lover of self help books & power of positive thinking etc. Anyway he was telling me how he went straight to section about attracting money, I just burst out laughing & said "and that is the reason we are now separated" i.e. xh always put money/business before family, it used to be one of my major gripes. I reminded him of the time the counsellor asked him to write out the top 10 things he wanted to achieve in the next five years (it was a focusing excercise). I had the misfortune of finding his list one day & every single item on the list had to do with money/material things/business success etc not a mention of family, me or marriage. I remember being furious when I found that list. Anyway, I just laughed & said to xh "who know's maybe you'll get it right for wife No3". He said "you must be joking, I'm never going to get married or live with anyone again". I said "never say never, maybe it'll be third time lucky".................Now that is coming a long way!!

Forgot to mention a major side effect I am noticing from all the medication I am taking seems to be that I can't stop eating . I have spent the whole day eating & am just now chomping down on my 3 donut of the day & will no doubt eat the fourth one for good measure. I also had 4 large ham rolls & 2 hot cross buns & that was just the snacks . I'm not a big eater so hope I don't end up doubling my body weight by time I get my teeth sorted