Hello Patience, I've just read 2 days worth of your posts and it's clear that your ex still has a huge emotional hold over you which you don't feel able/ready to break free from. He's abusing/insulting/taunting you again and again because he's getting a kick out of it. He's goading and goading (sp) you like a hyeana (sp) with a rattlesnake, sniping and and running off and sniping and running off because it's fun and he gets a reaction.
He's a bully and a c**t and you're letting him do it. He can't do it unless you participate. It's a cruel sport and he's loving it.
FFS TAKE BACK THE POWER.......Please.
You texted him....We both can't live like this, do you want a clean break to live with your gf ?
Patience, it's YOU who can't go on living like this, he's pure scum and dumplings don't care about scummy narcs and whether he wants a clean break or whether he'd like muffins for tea IT DOESN'T MATTER. All that matters now is what YOU want.
You're tormenting yourself with him being 10 mins away and not seeing the DC for 3 weeks. Ditto, my ex lives 1 min away and doesn't see his DC for 2/3 weeks at a time because he's a selfish wankstain....just like yours.
It's so lovely of you to encourage him to see your DS playing footie etc but you've said it here in black and white....he's not interested and for your own sake you need to stop flogging a dead horse because he's quite litterally taking the piss out of you....hopeless wife, girlfriend and woman ? He really is scraping the bottom of the barrel coming up with that one. He's very immature Patience.
Don't rise to his bait anymore.
Don't engage with him anymore. He's not yours anymore and I know that takes a huge amount of getting used to and it's heartbreaking and devastating, I haven't yet conquered it myself yet. What you had with him has now gone, like when when you watch someone you love die (which I have) and when the last breath has left their body what's left is just a cold deadweight of a corpse, which is totally worthless, just a byproduct to be dissposed of. The spirit and the soul have flown away and what you are left with are the memmories of the good times and bad.
Patience, we are all unique and so are our feelings and situations and we all handle them differently and the strong (like all of us) survive and rise up through the mountain of shit that's been dropped on our heads, and we grow and bloom and become even more gorgeous like the daffodills in the breeze,exept with nice new haircuts and newly confident smiles, beaming with pride at how we and we eventually learned to stop hating and self harming (emotionally) because it interferes with our quest for serenity, makes our eyes puffy etc.
The week, however, remain full of hate (actually I'm still enjoying the hate bit for now) and ask why, why, why, over and over again, why did he go ? Why isn't he more interested in his wonderful kids who he was lucky enough to father, why doesn't he want to see them more, why does he resent giving them money etc etc. The 'whys' are endless and pointless.
There is only one answer and that is that men are programmed imo to shag and go, to leave their wives for a younger model and to be selfish. There is nothing we can do about it. It's what (often) happens.
Forget about his lies, you probably don't know the half of it and it really doesn't matter anyway. Your H is a wankstain of the highest order.
Men are just large boys, and boys are often restless, distracted, impatient, led by their willies, and don't do deep feelings or emotions (appart from football etc), After a few years of living with the daily drudge which is their wife and kids, they often feel like a little change which involves a perter pair of tits and no more crying, wingeing, fighting, demanding kids.....so they leave, which is where our stories on here begin.
I'm rambling now....
You've come such a long way Patience, but you're floundering at the moment
and your H is taking advantage of that.
Don't try and stop him from seeing the DC as that will give him ammo against you but accept that he's a shit dad and don't expect anything from him. Don't phone him for ANYTHING, have no contact appart from if he texts you and then don't answer appart from a yes or a no. He is no longer a part of your life and will probably have minimal contact with the DC as he can't be arsed........that's the way it is and don't worry, you won't have 2 teens screaming at you one day. They'll have the measure of him and will love and adore and respect you for bringing them up on your own, with a smile on your face (most of the time).
My freind had a teeny weeny little slug on her salad today when we were out for lunch, quite sweet it was, and that slug had more integritty in one of it's little horn things than your H has in his whole body.
He's gone, he's a stranger, he's not the man you married. Leave him behind and if he cries again then tell him to blow his nose and stop sniffing ffs.
Stop letting him drag you down. Your kids need YOU NOT HIM.
If I lose the post I'll be fucking furious. Going for a shower now so if you flame me Patience I won't be here 
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