Last week I posted about my lovely weekend with new-ish DP and about my exh being bloody difficult in our negotiations re maintenance. Well this week what an about turn!!
Exh and I met, had a reasonably good discussion and made some headway. I was so happy, a big step, firstly that he seemed to be realising where I am coming from with regard to my needs financially and secondly that we spoke civilly to each other. There is still a way to go but progress at least.
But wtf is new-ish DP playing at???
I've been seeing him since June last year, and things moved pretty quickly, he is so unlike ex that it was a revelation to discover not all men are controlling, selfish, self-absorbed, emotionally retarded gits.
Anyway on two occasions previously DP has had a wobble in that he feels he can't give enough to the relationship because of all the other issues in his life, such as 4 teenage DC's, ex wife, running own business. Each time we have talked and decided we loved each other and to take each day as it comes and enjoy our time together.
This is what I thought was happening, until Friday night when it all came to the surface again. He says he needs time to sort his head out and decide how he feels about everything, including us. I am now utterly confused and sad, I can't believe this has cropped up again when I thought we had cleared the air. I haven't made demands on him, commitment wise, but have been honest about my feelings.
So what do I do? Do I walk away now and leave him to it? Suffer the sadness, knowing that I want to be with him and can't imagine not having him in my life.
Or do I wait around and see what he has to say when he's cleared his head, no matter how long that takes? Knowing that he could still end it all.
Any advice would be appreciated.