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So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else.

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

Really? Do you think an AA friend might help me? I don't know what to do but am sobbing. I need some help and I love my daughter and my aunt and I just don't know what to do.

noteven

I'm just worried that talking to an AA friend might not be enough. That's the approach you've tried so far and with all due respect it's clearly not working at the moment.

Have social services not tried to find you a means of support/treatment? That's part of their remit as well...

I really do second what JWN said about rehab. To my mind you need proper professional intervention, and going to A+E when you're vomiting blood may well be a means of triggering that.

In the meantime though, you need some immediate psychological support as well, whether that's from a sponsor, the AA helpline, or an organisation like the samaritans.

Please talk to someone or go to A&E. I hate the thought of you feeling so alone and helpless.

xx

phone your sponsor!, she will help you get to hospital, you have to be looked over!, come-on! you know that vomiting blood is not good!, dosnet matter how much you love people or how you are sobbing, you need to get a grip and sort yourself out!, you were strong willed enough to pick the drink up, now you have to find the will to pick yourself up!

i know that sounds harsh, but frankly, the time has come to stop messing about, you are ill and help and no amount of soothing words and brow mopping will help right now - i think its time to say it like it is! GET TO A&E AND ASK FOR HELP!

noteven, I'm hoping you're off to A&E but if not, please go. You need to put yourself in someone else's hands and let them help you.

LRD - just had a look over on your abiu thread - really interesting to read all the replys - i think there was some good stuff to take away and think about - i know im very guilty at times about making this 'all about me'! , i know that sometimes i feel incredible restentment towards dh for 'making' me be sober, after all, surely ONE little drink wont hurt?, thank goodness he sticks to his guns!

jesus, you hit the nail on the head there ... I was making it 'all about me' and I am wincing a bit reading it back - but it was posted in a hurry and I think it was good for me to get some very sane non-drinkers' perspectives when I was upset.

Your DH sounds lovely.

aw LRD, dont wince! , we are all the same!

We are!

However, I feel a bit wrong to be talking about this on here - I'm ok. I'm worried about noteven, and I really hope she is getting some help.

LRD - dont worry!, its NOT wrong to be talking on here - however much we worry about noteven, her choices are her own!, we can only hope she takes our advice! - in the meantime there are lots and lots of other babes whose problems are just as desperate, just in a different way!, the main point is that we help and encourage ANYONE who posts here!

now, today i have a small niggling worry!, i have been told that having a 'birthday', as in one year sober etc can be quite a dangerous time!, apperantly some people 'pick-up' on the strength of it!, now, i am trying really hard not to project here, im determined to get to my first birthday, but will i hit some kind of phsycological barrier and start drinking again? - i think i need miflaws thoughts on this one actually! ohh young man!!

I'm not really worried JWN, just feeling the conversation ought to move on from me!

I can imagine why a 'birthday' would work like that - I think it's easy to say 'oh, I've done x amount of time, I've proved I can do it!' (obviously, my 'x amount' is, ahem, smaller than yours! ).

Maybe you can not celebrate it and try not to think about it? After all it would only be significant in the future if you didn't carry on - if it turned into 'the year I stopped drinking', if that makes sense? So you really want it to be something insignificant, just another year in your non-drinking life.

Dunno if that makes sense but that's what I do for the weeks and it might work scaled-up for years!

thanks LRD, you have put it into the right perpective for me - you are right, it will only be significant if i make it the year i didnt drink - i want to carry on with this sober lark for a few more years yet!

must go and put some dinner on!

Noteven how are you, really worried for you. Have you been to A & E? or got in touch with your sponsor? Let us know how you are. You CAN do this sober, in the last few months you have had absolutely loads on your plate and are maybe working too hard? How do you feel about rehab? It doesn't mean you won't see your daughter as you are doing lots to overcome your desire to drink. ((((hugs))))) let us know how you are. x

Sending thoughts to noteven and hoping that you are getting help.

And in awe at ma's sister - good on her, what a great thing she is doing.

JWN (not projecting here - obviously ) but I suppose what you are celebrating is your anniversary. When you celebrated your 1st wedding anniversary with dh did you think 'phew, done that, proved I can do it, now I can get on with being a single woman again'? I doubt that you did. You more likely thought - that was a great year, and I am looking forward to many more like it to come. Or maybe you thought that you'd had some tough times and maybe the next year together would be easier. So why not take that anniversary approach to your one-year-sober date? Tbh, it sounds as though a glass of red wine (vile tasting, nose-wrinkling stuff) is the last thing on your mind.

Also sending thoughts to Noteven and hope that she got to A&E.

JWN, I like Venus thoughts on your 1st year anniversary and think that is the way to approach it. It's an fantastic achievement and your life sounds so different now.

I'm 8 days sober now. I managed my night out last night and it was ok.It felt weird not to be drinking and lots of people commented on it, however the I'm driving/have son with me/working in the morning, managed to fend off most of the 'stop being a boaring bastard' comments! I'm not ready to share with anyone in real life yet, as they don't know the extent of my drinking, since the majority of it has been skillfully hidden at home.

Today was the hardest though. I'm going on to days off tomorrow, so this would have been historically my 'private party time' at home when I finished work. I would have planned this to detail normally, popping out of work to secure wine supplies and then hiding it in my scooter, so know one knew. I did have to go to the supermarket for work purposes and the thought crossed my mind more than twenty once as I whizzed round. Anyway, I didn't buy anything, finished my shift and got straight home. For now, that urge has past and I'm off to get ready for bed, very pleased with myself as my son is on an in service day tomorrow and I'll actually be able to spend the day with him, as opposed to lying in bed hungover and hating myself.

I hope that everyone else is ok.

Dee, also thinking of your sis in law and her team and wishing them all a safe journey.

Morning Babes.

noteven I am so hoping that you got the help you needed. Take care lovely.

isindie don't disappear on us, come and post, you had a great few days.

Noteven, I have been thinking of you and hoping you are being looked after and you're not so scared and low.
If you take all the help offered it will be ok.

Take care darling.

Luci XX

morning!

luci!, lovely to see you!, how ya doin?

chic - you are doing sooo bloody well!,in the first couple of weeks, i used to go to halal supermakets so that temptation was removed!, it worked a dream but we ate strange stuff cos i didnt understand the labels!

isindi!!, i agree with venus!, come at let us know you and dp and the twins are ok!

Morning Brave Babes.

Luci - fab to see you again.

Well, the house is about to be torn apart one last time for a while, and one of the brand new radiators is leaking. Again.

But..........

The sun is shining, the sky is baby blue and it's all frosty outside. Today is a smiley day in the Mouse house.

Hope you are all okay, those who are posting and those who are not xx

NNN

Never trust anyone, in AA or not, who consistently shares with the word "we" instead of "I". All I can tell you about, for example, is how I drank, and I can ask you if you recognise yourself; I can't tell you how YOU drank.

The AA guy sounds a cock. Why not forget him and give it another go?

AA birthdays only do that if you let them.

So don't let it.

Of course, the guy's right - if everr you get complacent, you may well drink.

So don't get complacent.

Also, when is your birthday? Because there's no way you are going to celebrate 365 days without first making it to 364 days. Worry about your AA birthday (and, for that matter, your real birthday) when it comes.

Morning MIFLAW

You okay? How are your girls?

Yes thanks, all well here! How are things with you?