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So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else.

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

I think it's "rumred" Venus.....are you doing it backwards tonight?

Thanks for pointing that out mademented and good evening to Nextwhatjesus, and facemouse, and *WIFLAM and, and,,, oh I give up.

Rumpy Pumpy

Ma - I'm blushing!

Nemo gives the best snuggles, as did DD at that age. I've waited a few years for this so I'm going make the most of it.

Anyway, now we all know what Ma's DH likes, I'm off to bed.

Night xxxx

Ma's DH likes snoring and farting and Five Live mostly. Houghmagandy is added extras
anyway, am off to my EMPTY bed - are you Thurso????

The goings-on on the thread today have made me giggle, thank you for that

Hope everyone's doing okay - it sounds like everyone's doing brilliant!

good night all x

Ma Yes very DH just gone up to bed, so am in for a night of snoring, still could be worse....
going to read my book for a while, then, hopefully, sleep.

OH, and we haven't got a radio in the bedroom, but, Five Live is on all the time anywhere else!

im off to bed, with a little image in my head of our nemo in his new shoes! , love his little heart!

night all!

L XXXXXXXXXX

oh! and thanks thurso!, they all know about the foetal syndrome, luckily it sounds like none of the dcs are actually affected by it - dosent stop the guilt though!

tonights meeting was quite good fun, it ended up as a gossip fest! lovely!

Hope your doing OK Three

Goodness Indie you must be knackered - you sound really busy

I wish I had the huge bed to myself, my DD had been sleeping with me for ages a while until we can get builders in to sort her room out, too small for her now as it won't fit a single bed and she has outgrown her toddler one, well so she says, probably an excuse. She is a sleep wriggler but gives lovely morning cuddles

Right off to bed, early start to make pancakes for breakfast the DC's have demanded requested.

What's the thread count, in your dreams Indie .
I always try to get to sleep by thinking about small things like that, or what I'm going to wear tomorrow, etc.

It's a late night for me, too much on with work today, and no-one to talk to about it. I did talk to DH, but he deals in money, not people, so doesn't seem to understand (or care).

Can I just say (after hours of teaching, and assessment) that exams are just no good for some children, and why don't the fucking schools recognise it, instead of trying to hike up the results.

Rant over! I will try to get to sleep now!

Sleep tight all. xxx

Evening all

Sorry to have worried you qo just hectic busy, need to do some incredibly boring long detailed stuff for the lawyer to progress the separation, so spent the weekend ignoring the PC . Needless to say, the house is spotless, the ironing and washing is up to date. The stuff for the lawyer is not done - Am I procrastinating - totally .

How did I ever find time to drink before - there is so much to do??

Hope everyone is well

Sleep tight BB's
Bafana
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Hi everyone ? I?m a lurker. It?s taken me about an hour to press the post button!

I?m 21 and (at the very least) a problem drinker, if not a full blown alcoholic. I know lots of people my age who drink a lot but I drink, and have always drunk, more than anyone I know. I rarely drink everyday but when I drink I really drink. I often drink until I either pass out, black out or run out of alcohol. This is then followed by at least one if not two days of such crippling guilt and shame that I?ll often skip what I should be doing and stay in bed hating myself. Then I?ll just repeat the cycle again. I can do this up to three times a week (particularly in the winter months when I feel most depressed).

I?ve tried to talk to people in RL about this (one or two friends and my boyfriend) but they are more in denial than I am! They all say that I just overdid it and reassure me that (in states of total memory loss) I did ?nothing to be embarrassed about? ? hmm. Of course, it?s not whether I did anything embarrassing or not that?s the real problem ? it?s that I could have done something embarrassing, sure, but also something dangerous to myself or more importantly to others, not to mention ruining relationships with those people I care about.

I guess my issue is now where to go from here? I have acknowledged that I have a problem (and did this many years ago ? I saw my 17 year old new year?s resolutions the other day and ?stop drinking so much? was, shamefully, the top one already).

It feels so scary (and unrealistic) to decide never to drink again ? when (if I give up drinking, and the fags of course) I could be stating that I won?t drink for the remaining fifty years of my life. Not to mention that my social life entirely revolves around going to the pub.

So I am trying to work out my options. I haven?t ruled out giving up completely. I was reading some success stories today online about hypnotherapy ? does anyone have any experience of this? Might this be a reasonable first course of action? It seems too easy.

Should I go to my GP? Should I be going to AA meetings? I?m really scared of them for some reason. Would I be way younger than everyone else? I feel like my problem isn?t big enough (although, even just typing that, I know that it is a big binge-drinking problem and that it will only get worse).

I?m really sorry that was so long, and thank you to anyone who has reached the end! Just reading through the previous threads has been both humbling and inspiring.

Morning -
Running in and out and wish I could post more but I've only got 3 minutes. 3fortheroad - someone wise will be along soon, I'm sorry not to answer you, but I am in my 20s (just!!) and go to AA and wish I'd faced my drinking with your honesty and courage a few years earlier, I think you are great for coming here and saying what you have and I hope you find some support here whatever route you choose to take.
It's my particularly crazy day today - out at 7:30, home at 9:30 - tired just thinking about it. Love to all xx

Morning to everyone, and I hope you got some good sleep isindie. I was thinking about little Nemo and his shoes, and remembering when my dd2 was 2 and got some new shoes I found her fast asleep in bed wearing them - she loved them so much that she'd got up and put them on in the night .

Hello to 3for and well done you for posting. You ask where to start... well I'd say that there is a real variation in terms of what is going to work best for you, and what is available in your area. I'd also suggest that you don't rule anything out - that you're willing to try most things, and that you are also willing to try a combination of things. So for example you ask about hypnotherapy. I have done this a few years ago, and for me it did have a big effect, BUT I didn't have any other support around me (such as this forum or a real-life group such as AA) and so eventually I slipped back into my old drinking habits.

You ask about AA - I guess that most people have some worries before attending AA (or any other group) - will I be too young, will I be too old, will I be the only female, will I be too well educated, will I be too poor, will I drink too much, will I drink too little, will there be too much 'religion', will there be too many people.... In fact the only requirement is that you have a desire to stop drinking. If you go online you will be able to find out about the AA meetings in your area - try a few and find the ones that suit you best.

Do you know if thre are any alcohol counselling services in your area? Some charities have them, particularly for young people (although there may be a waiting list).

And I guess that this will sound difficult to believe, but you CAN have a social life without getting pissed (or staying in bed for 3 days). You are at a fantastic point in your life to make the most of opportunities, to find out what you really enjoy, what makes your heart sing - and I bet that you find that it is not a shit-load of alcohol. Welcome.

Good Grief i am tired, no, not tired, sleeeeppppyyyy since coming off the Gin - is this normal?

Hi rusty I think most of us have found that there is a period of physical and mental adjustment when we stop drinking. The features and extent probably depend quite a lot on how much you were drinking.

Despite how it feels - alcohol does not help you to have a good restful nights sleep so you may be chronically tired. Also alcohol puts a lot of strain on your liver and other organs in terms of detox, and depletes vitamin B in your body. When you stop your body will be able to repair damaged tissues - and this can be very tiring for some people (a bit like recovering from an operation).

Morning all.

Rusty - It was for me. It was as if my body was healing. I ended up in bed earlier and earlier, especially as I wasn't staying up drinking!

3ForThe - how much do you drink on an average night in/out? It's good that you are stopping this in it's tracks.

That's interesting venus - i hadn't thought of it in terms of needing to catch up on rest...

Also ... what is it with the runs? I thought booze was supposed to give you diarrhoea...

These symptoms have come as quite a shock to me - i thought the hardest part would be the psychological side of it (i was worried i'd be bored of an evening .

Think i must add i'm not totally dry yet - off the gin and wine (as of last week) but having a small bottle of beer a night....not sure how long it will be until i can stop that.

But i drank alot of Gin so it's a bigger deal for me than it might appear at first

Mouseface, thanks - how long did that go on for?