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Would this be acceptable to you ?

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 10:03

Would it be okay for your DP to escort a woman home in a cab because she was so drunk she couldnt walk and all her friends had buggered off ???

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PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 15:43

we need the OP to come back

I want to know if she has rung the phone number

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 15:43

Yes or that snob, that was my initial reaction to the op.

I fully agree about the good samaritan thing, I'd want my DH to do the same.

But carrying her upto the bedroom, and taking 4 hours to cycle 10 miles Hmm I don't think so, that wouldn't wash with me as it's bollocks.

spidookly · 19/02/2011 15:48

Taking her to her bedroom is well weird.

All he needed to do was watch her enter the house from the cab.

shadycharacter · 19/02/2011 15:48

Have to say "carrying her to her bedroom" all sounds a bit cliche, the kind of thing a bloke might say to make his story sound more convincing. I too wondered about the bike fitting in the cab, unless it's one of those fold up ones?

Surely drunk woman knew she wouldn't be staying out all night, that she'd need to get home at some point? Who the hell goes out such a distance that it costs £50 in a taxi to get home and doesn't even take any cash, at all? Hmm

I trust my DP very much but if he'd carried a drunk woman to her bed, paid her £50 taxi fare, been very late home, not contacted me/been contactable I would be absolutely fuming.

spidookly · 19/02/2011 15:50

The kind of man who would put a woman he didn't know to bed is the kind of man I'd be hoping DH would keep away from the vulnerable woman in question.

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 18:03

well i spoke to him at 1.05am he said he was just walking to get his bike from a london city station, he was a bit drunk too.

That would have taken 30 minutes, so now 1.30am, then they started walking to other main london station heading south west, another 30-40 minutes, on route, she couldnt walk anymore and they got a black cab. Dp got money out.

The cab was over 10 miles so yes, £50 is correct. That would have taken 40 minutes, so now approximately 2.45am to 3am. He then saw her in, and cycled home and got back at 4.30.... so that too him 1 to 1.5 hours, for someone who was a bit drunk too.... the time is sort of right.

I spoke to him earlier and apologised for shouting at him, and he said he should have phoned or texted me to let me know what he was doing.... so the air was cleared, but now im tired again and feeling pissed off again.... Im going to ask him if he carried her to the bedroom, im sure thats what he said last night.... Hmm

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 18:04

Also, he and this woman walked another female colleague to a city station first to make sure she got on her train.... the night had gone wrong as the birthday girl had her ipod and present stolen.....

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CameronCook · 19/02/2011 18:05

I'm lost - where does it say he took 4 hours to cycle 10 miles home?

IIRC he said he'd be home at 2 but got home at 4 - not inconceivable that they might have had a long wait for a cab if she was really pissed

CameronCook · 19/02/2011 18:05

ooops x post

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 18:05

do you know the worst bit of this.. he was a fucking idiot for cycling when he was drunk.... he could have had any sort of accident... :( or caused an accident.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 18:05

ok...so you apologised to him and the air is now cleared ?

Good god woman Shock

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 18:07

do you always end up apologising to him when he pulls stunts like this and has you worrying half the night about his whereabouts ? Hmm

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LittleMissHissyFit · 19/02/2011 18:12

i don't think he could be accused of pulling a stunt tbh Pete.

If that story is not true, and it seems to ring true timing wise, then that's another matter.

Yes he should have called and updated her, but basically I think she kind of blew things out of proportion a little.

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 18:14

based on just teh OP yes it would i would think less of him if he didn't make sure she got home safe. now off to read the thread.

LittleMissHissyFit · 19/02/2011 18:17

But there is the fact that I was with a total arse for years and have clearly been a totally gullible idiot...

I bow to others greater knowledge.. Grin

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 18:23

don't be daft, missHissyness Smile

joanne...did you call her to arrange the reimbursement of the taxi fare ?

I would do that

just 'cos

ENormaSnob · 19/02/2011 18:31

So she was sober enough to walk another person to their station Hmm

crock of shit

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 18:33

No I havent phoned her !

He got her number, but she didnt get his, so he needs to contact her.

Im sure it will get sorted on monday, once dp sees colleague in work, she was the sister i think.......

He has fallen asleep so i cant ask him any more questions... will wake him in a mo...

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noddyholder · 19/02/2011 18:34

Fgs she started off the night walking a fair bit with him so by the time they got a cab and got her home she shouldn't have needed carrying to her bedroom I think any bloke would help out if the person was falling down drunk at a party but she wasn't if she could walk from station to station initially.It sounds more like he went back to hers and got a cab home at about 4

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 18:34

Im assuming they came out of bar at 12.30 to 1am, it can take time for booze to suddenly wreck you....?

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joanne34 · 19/02/2011 18:35

no he cycled he and his cycling gear was soaking wet....

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PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 18:36

I would ring her now, while he is asleep

make arrangemens to get the money

but that's just me Grin

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 18:36

ok have read the whole tread and i totally believe his story. tehre are people out tehre who are good samaritas but not so hot on teh common sense.

i had a colleague who went out looking for her teenage son one saturday night in belfast city centre at 2am. she parked up and started looking on foot. she came across a young guy who was really the worse for the drink, lying against a bin. she went over to him and managed to egt out of him that he was trying to get home but had no money so she went off to find an ATM and withdrew £50 to give him so that he could get a taxi. luckily when she got back he had disappeared so she didn't lose £50 but she was all for giving him it. she later passed him staggering up teh street as she drove home. she thought he looked as if he was a bit more able so she left him to it.

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 18:36

If you believe that you are a better person than me. She was so pissed he saw her in and carried her to bed, yet she was the responsible one walking another girl to the station?

That story has more holes in it than a sieve. But at least you apologised and cleared the air Hmm