I am in total shock

[ShockedToTheBone]

I went with DP to a vicar today to talk about our relationship - for advice etc

we spent a ouple of hoiurs with him then came home.

We carried on talking and DP revealed something to me which makes sense and I am in so much shock I dont know what to do.

Shocked I'm pleased he is going to get some counselling and has realised that trying to bury it again wouldn't be a good thing to do.

I don't agree with earwiga that he doesn't need your sympathy or your anger - I think that is only something he can tell you, it's different for everyone. I do agree with her though that you shouldn't encourage him to go to the police and to let him take it in baby steps - it's massive that he's now told you - don't rush him x