Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Morning

Offschool hope everything goes smoothly with your dds op today. I have had no good reports about Black Swan. Hope work isnt too heavy - what do you do ?

Patienece great news you have been socialising, sounds like you have a busy literary schedule ahead

Starting I have read about this theory of writing down a wish list for your next man ,yes keep us posted . Thats a shame about Norm but as you say Valentines would have been the perfect reason to get in touch and if he hasnt this probably is it

Mumfun come on tell us about the package , I presume it was Valentine related ?

Romney nice to see you on here , never seen that film so cant advise

Goo CD man sounds lovely hope he is beginning to oust exbf from your brain !

Elsie are you off until the weekend now then ? Hope you are getting out in the sunshine with your dog

Well goo summed up how I am a bit atm ie not happy not sad just am. Got a call from the estate agent about a house coming onto the market which sounds very promising seeing it on friday.

I seem to be very tired atm no emotional or physical energy but thers no reason why that I can see. I suppose maybe I am having a patch where the constant stream of "stuff" to do with separation be it money/dc/house is weighing down on me a bit. This too shall pass !!

Have a good day everyone

Quick post - Black Swan rubbish - would rather have stayed in for a glass of

Wow thanks for all the lovely messages about DD2 just going to hospital now to see how she is

Offschool - hope your dd is ok - thinking of you as we all are. Your strength and courage in dealing with worries about dd puts everything into perspective for me
Patience - glad you are seeing friends. Me and eldest ds love hummous :) he likes it with carrots and breadsticks. Valentine's never really bothered me either - bit like New Year tbh - just a lot of hot air.
Getting - you are bound to be a bit knackered - selling and buying/renting a house is very tiring and stressful
Happy - not going to bother with Black Swan after loads of people are of your opinion. Hope you are feeling less down today
Starting - interesting field trip ideas! Might read those books too. Are you feeling ok today?

Offschool hope shes ok is she in overnight ?

Happy Pink told us ages ago it was rubbish , I want to go and see Tangled

Well I am on a buzz the surveyor came today and has given the house a clean bill of health apart from a couple of minor things . Yipeeeee I have been worrying something serious might crop up to delay our departure but it seems not

Dont understand my final section of my computing course and the guy who works there slipped me an exam copy but my lack of understanding is so great I dont understand that either . I think he fancies me and I think hes probably lovely but not for me at all.

Had lots of fun letting dd cook the pancakes for pancake day , yummy , minor detail in discovering Pancake Day is 8th March

lol Getting. Never mind - you can never have too many pancakes!
Good news about the house - one more thing to cross off the list eh? :)
Very flattering about PC course guy, even if he's not for you. I NEVER get the impression any bloke fancies me!
Mmmmm....Clive Owen

I know goo , the thing is men never fancy me unless they are exposed to me over a period of time like he has been (very slow learner)shame he isnt for me

Whats happening with CD man are you off to the cinema at the weekend ?

Hows the survive until the summer plan going ?

It's the same for me - they have to get to know me first - not really a knock em dead type - too tall, hair too curly lol
Yes, going to flicks at weekend with CDman. He has been very patient, as I didn't go out with him the other weekend because I was going to meet Patience then I was bloody ill, and then he wanted to go out this week but I don't really do week nights cos I'm knackered and babysitter costs a fortune. Looking forward to it actually. One of the songs he sent me last night had words along the lines of I know your heart is hurting but I will always be your friend and wait for you. He's very sweet and tbh I could do with someone who doesn't have a huge ego and who wants to take his time.
I'm surviving until summer I think. She was horrible last week to me and sent me 2 letters this week but they weren't as bad as I thought - she just said she was "consulting at governor level" about this thing that she wants me to do that isn't in my contract - basically she is going to try and change my contract. So I'm going to try and string it out for as long as possible so that she leaves before it can be changed!
One of my lovely colleagues was sitting at the deathbed of one of her siblings last week and the head phoned her to ask if she could just find an internet point in the hospital so that she could email plans into school. That about sums up how awful it is.

Hello goo goo, cd man sounds so nice. can't believe your colleagues, what utter dreads they must be.
Well the following happened today:
H took DD2 in for her hospital operation, due in at 8 a m so we were up at 545 this morning. I went off to work.
They got there and said there had been an error and the list was starting at 1 pm so they came home and waited till then. H seething I think because he wanted to race off and see OW as he had not seen her since last Friday and missed Val. Day. Shame.
H then texted me to say hospital would discharge pm so I should go home, wait for him, then change cars and he would shoot off.
So home I came. half an hour later, change of plan, hospital keeping her in. So down I whizzed and he left about 5.
I left the hospital at 8.10 pm and came home. Phew. Large glass of wine. Carer is with DD2 in hospital who is thrilled to be watching the Brits with copious chocolate and orange squash!!
DD1 and i are having a quiet night in and I will go back to hospital tomorrow lunch time after a m at work.
We all have to be retrained on new equipment for DD2 so v busy day tomorrow.
Lucky I do not have to squeeze non existent new man into my schedule, eh ...

sorry if you think I am becoming a "DD2 problems" bore but as you can probably guess it just easily takes over one's life. have to just detach as much as I can.

OMG @ internet link ggm.
She sounds completely out of control like the late Thatcher years .

Off school ,hi 5 for inconvenient day for ur X.
Post whatever u like mate ,I watched the brits too,mumford and sons and arcade fire both won awards so I am content this evening.
Punching a bloke tonight at kick boxing,he was solid but all self defence training told bloke about dv ,meant to be doing a belt soon ffs ROFL.

Offschool - post away, you know you are safe here to wite anything you want and I don't know how you cope with it all really - I have a lot of respect for you. What a faff today for you and with dd1 to sort as well. Just glad that dd2 is happy watching brits bless her and you got to relax a bit with dd1 :)
lol Patience - and she calls herself a christian, sitting in front row at church every week
A belt? Fantastic love. Glad you told bloke about dv - I think it was good to give him a bit of history. Punching a solid bloke eh? Sounds bloody great for many reasons :)

Thing about church ggm imo when it is good it is very very good but when it is bad it is awful.

Too true. My philosophy is that the ones who sit in the front pew looking round are always the ones who are there because it looks good to be there, not because of God.
I know lots of good people who live out their faith. And lots of good people who live out their lives staying true to themselves and loving others :)
Not happy with one of the new women at work. She seems to like coming on to married men. I told my other friend at work that there ain't much I judge people on but that's one of them. Felt slightly sick looking at her today. Her husband left her when she was pregnant, over 10 years ago. She was heartbroken. She told me she'd had an affair with a bloke before Christmas and she could see I was shocked. Her philosophy is that she's been hurt, so she doesn't care what happens now. Now she's after a bloke who's engaged, who my other friend at work knows. I don't get it. As my exh would say "She's warm as toast". I don't really like her.

Ffs ggm why would anyone mouth off in the staff room about shagging someone's bloke .don't know what toast bit means ,but round here we' d call her a rocket .

GG Totally agree about not liking new woman -I wouldnt like her too. My OW was like that - heart broken and looked for unreal sympathy and support from girls I knew - then happy to do it to me. Never know why anyone would want to be friends with her as you know she would stab you in the back as soon as look at you.

Patience - agree with you about church and at twisted head being such a pious so and so

CDman sounds a good fella to have in your life in some capacity whether mate or more

Off also yay for a bit of inconveniencce for H. Have been pushing much morre onto my H recently and too right. And also unload all you can here. I have a child with aspergers so know what its like having a child with special needs but the demands on you are so much more - Respect!

Getting -Im sure the DCs wont mind a second Pancake Day. Shame the fancier wasnt fanciable but hope the two come together soon for you :)

And Goo again at your head - she has some kind of personality disorder for sure. There is something not right in her head!

Hi to Pink, Happy, Starting, Rom, Sov and everyone else

Beautiful day here. Did find out who present was from - there was a card too but kind and predictable explanation of someone kindly organising Valentine for me from the kids.

Have good as poss days eeveryone!

Hi everyone

goo I am tall with curly hair too but not thin like you ha ha ! God your head sounds quite unhinged tbh , yes just sit tight and ignore her if you can. Blimey what with her and the new member of staff...

Offschool I hope your dd is home by now, are the new things you are having to learn ultimatly make life easier ?

Mumfun well done for getting your H doing more and thats sweet about the package

Well I am on top form. I had a call from the solicitor earlier checking all was well and how good was it to say yep and no offence I am not missing having to talk to you !! Its sunk in that total freedomn from xh is within striking distance now and all the months of calls emails etc are over and I can make my own decisions about everything. My mood is helped by the sunshine and noticing flowers are starting to open which means spring is on its way

Estate agent showing me a house he thinks will be perfect for me on friday morning which I am trying not to get too excited about but it does sound fab.

Got computers later and If I can pass this last exam (more of a test really)then I will finish today. I have mixed feelings about this as I have really enjoyed the structure and actually doing it but also it will nice to have the qualification and to have achieved what I set out to do last October !

DC at xh tonight so I have a friend coming and want to persuade her to go to see Kings Speech which I know lots of you have said is good.

Waves to everyone x

getting you sound happy, how lovely.
Goo goo I do not like the sound of that woman either.
waves to all. Just back to hospital now after morning at work, to see if they will let her out this afternoon. Hold your breath, ...

Best of luck off school,
Waves to getting,hope the black head popping went well the other night .have u tried the pore strips u leave on ur face and it cleans the pores when u lift them off.
House sounds fab.
I don't know how I would describe where I am with X .its a bit like when the kids leave home and I will have to learn to let go ,understand they are not my property and have every right to live their life.well I feel the same with X ,shit happens,he has moved on end of.
I sometimes lapse and wonder if he is seeing that girl ,but as someone said ,if its not her it will be someone else.
All I know is if I concentrate on me and don't let his life come into my head I can do this and recently it has been easier to put that philosophy into practice.
Got some good news this morning re business so that's a definate boost ,also taking agnus castus so interesting to see if it helps with Pms,

Hugs to everyone x

Off, hope all goes well for your dd this afternoon.

Goo, get a calander & start marking off days till summer . I'm about her texting collegue in hospital. New collegue equally sounds lovely

Getting, good luck with the computer exam

Patience, lovely that you had some good news

Well I need to make my first report on The Secret/The Power. I think there may be something to this. I read a little bit before doing school run & decided yes I deffinately needed to be more grateful etc so decided to lift my frequency to a happier more grateful place this is meant to also attract good things to you, so it's a win win. Anyway stopped into shop on way home & was feeling grateful for all the good stuff I have when a man who worked in the shop came running over to my dc's & gave then loads of free gifts (he gave them a load of the free gifts that come with magazines). Watch this space............

Yipeeee I passed I passed and I am the first ever to pass within the agreed timeframe

and better still is that he has got me onto the GCSE maths course (think he wants to keep me there )so I will still have structure and purpose to my life ha ha ! Oh and I may yet , at 44, get my maths GCSE !!!

Calms down.

Patience thats great news about the business and how much better you are feeling . Ds chickened out of facial but I was looking for those pore strips (he will need something industrial strength)as I thought that would make it fun but couldnt see them in Boots.

Starting hmmm isnt this just an extension of positive thinking ...? Hows the grow your own man list looking ?

Back later

Ok just reading a thread where the w is alwyas interuppted by the h and she is upset.

Love these reminders of what I no longer have to put up with . The other day I asked xh not to talk over me and he said "Its not interrupting its called a conversation" . In other words its a positive thing - what an egotistical fool

But heres the scary part I actually went and fetched the dictionary and looked up interrupt to check its negative connotations. Sad but true !!

Well done on course getting x

Yes well done Getting!