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What do women really think of this?

125 replies

MakeYerOwnDamnDinner · 27/01/2011 11:31

I was reading the thread about blowjobs last night and was interested to read womens horrified reactions to the idea of a man ejaculating on a womans face.

Even some mumsnetters who are quite open about their own slightly kinky sexual preferences seemed to feel that this was beyond the pale.

From what I understand it is an extremely common male desire/fantasy.

I'm not judging anyones opinion, I'd just like to open a discussion about why it's deemed to be so much "worse" than a man ejaculating in a womans mouth, or anywhere else for that matter.

Apologies if it's a little early in the day/week. But I would like to know what other womens honest opinions are on this matter.

OP posts:
propercrimbo · 27/01/2011 11:32

Not a problem, I do it [bgrin]

pommedeterre · 27/01/2011 11:33

I like it and also like having dh ejaculate on my boobs as well. Didn't realise it was something that made people horrified. Maybe because it's something often used in porn films (so the money shot can be seen I guess..?!)?

Quite like the fact that I am apparently very kinky. Had no idea.

maras2 · 27/01/2011 11:36

Must keep eyes closed as it stings like hell.

madonnawhore · 27/01/2011 11:37

It's a PITA because it gets in your hair.

Butterbur · 27/01/2011 11:39

Why would anyone who is prepared to swallow the stuff mind this?

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MakeYerOwnDamnDinner · 27/01/2011 11:40

The honest truth is that I like it too.

But as a woman with strong feminist principles I sometimes feel quite conflicted. As if I shouldn't like it, you know?

OP posts:
ginnny · 27/01/2011 11:41

Really don't see the problem tbh. Some people overthink these things imo.
Or maybe I am kinky too Shock

seaweedhead · 27/01/2011 11:47

Not a fan. Don't have a problem with other people doing it but its just so messy, especially if it gets in your hair! And don't even get me started on getting it in your eye - youch!

Its kind of a male dominance thing, isn't it?

pommedeterre · 27/01/2011 11:50

But in a loving relationship where (in my case) the female partner has asked for it it's not exactly dominant or anti feminist is it?
I think applying 'feminist principles' to sex in a relationship would be a bit odd.
Agree with hair and eye thing though. Dh's need to have a modicum of aim ability to make it work.

IngridBergmann · 27/01/2011 11:50

If anyone put that stuff anywhere near my face I would be gone.

I don't really like oral sex - giving or receiving. Yuck.

StuffingGoldBrass · 27/01/2011 11:53

It's fine if you like it, but not something you should put up with if you don't. Applying feminist principles to sex means not having sex you don't want just to be polite or to keep a man happy, it doesn;t mean avoiding specific acts that both you and the other participants enjoy because oh dear boo hoo what would other people think?
It's supposed to be good for the skin (though I have my doubts about the truth of this). I quite like it though prefer it on the tits.

Malificence · 27/01/2011 12:00

It doesn't horrify me, it's more of a puzzle tbh as to why a man would enjoy it so much because it's not actually a turn on for my DH, in fact he thinks it's quite odd - but then he doesn't watch porn and doesn't masturbate.

I suppose if men have watched porn since their teens and seen this as the norm, they are probably conditioned into finding it erotic?

JustForThisOne · 27/01/2011 12:04

i like it a lot (face/neck/breast) and like OP I was surprised to read some comments but I do get the point

Truth to be told i would not like it to be forced in on me by a new partner, luckily it has never happened to me, so I could be the one that initiate it (no one complained)

BEAUTlFUL · 27/01/2011 12:06

Hmm at conflicted by feminist principals.

wukter · 27/01/2011 12:09

No, not for me. I wouldn't like it if DH wanted it. I suppose I have the porn connection, and am fairly anti porn so that influences my preferences. But, y'know, whatever you like yourself...

FreudianSlippery · 27/01/2011 12:10

I like it :)

Should I be embarrassed about it then? Sod that Hmm

Although you should keep eyes closed... I remember it hovering above my eyes once. It happened in slow motion, you know like when a cartoon character runs off a cliff and suddenly realises they are in mid air? :o

wukter · 27/01/2011 12:11

I suppose I'm just not a huge fan of body fluids in general.

As an aside don't they put whale sperm in face cream? Or is that some sort of teenage urban legend?

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 12:12

I have no issues with oral sex at all. Like giving it and happy for dp to come in mouth, face or boobs. Not a problem.

I probably don't 'receive' it on my face as often as in mouth just cos it might mess up my hairGrin. Unless it is going to washed that day!

I would be unlikely to be horrified at anything my dp wanted to and likewise whim with me as long as it only involved the two of us.

I suppose we are pretty adventurous most the time, but to be honest I don't think giving blow jobs ad being ejaculated on is anything out of the ordinary. I undersatnd that for some women doing this would be maybe be a special treat!Grin

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MakeYerOwnDamnDinner · 27/01/2011 12:13

Well I wouldn't change my sexual practices based on what other people think, although of course I started this thread because I was curious to find out.

It's more about when I think about it in the cold light of day, it seems an inherently disrespectful act. It is actually less physically pleasurable for a man to pull out at the last minute, and so to do that specifically in order to ejaculate on a womans face seems to me to be very much a territorial/dominance thing.

But in the heat of the moment, it can be very exciting. Like I say, I just feel a bit conflicted.

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TotorosOcarina · 27/01/2011 12:14

Why would being a feminist stop you doing something both you and your partner enjoy?

Surely feminism is about freedom of womens right to enjoy their sex life rather than being opressed by it?

And if your usband enjoys it too then even better!!

FreudianSlippery · 27/01/2011 12:18

My DH loves it. And he hates porn. I can't remember how the idea came up the first time... But we both think it's sexy.

I can quite understand why people wouldn't like it, but what does it have to do with feminism?

wukter · 27/01/2011 12:18

That's my sort-of opinion too, Makeyourowndamndinner, but again horses for courses and all that.

FreudianSlippery · 27/01/2011 12:19

Why is it territorial or domineering? That (IMHO) is overthinking it.

BertieBotts · 27/01/2011 12:20

I don't like it, but I agree with SGB on the feminist principles that apply to sex - I suppose it's like anything a bit off kilter, glamourised in porn, really. Anal sex, for example. Some people like it, some don't, it's portrayed as being some kind of sexual manna in porn etc so you might get the impression that most men love the idea and want to do it, but that's not really true - some do, some don't.

I suppose coming on someone's face seems a bit disrespectful, just because it doesn't seem particularly nice for the reciever. It doesn't taste that pleasant, it's uncomfortable, (bordering on painful) if it gets in your eyes or up your nose, and it's a pain to get out of your hair. Personally I get nothing from it and find it horrible, but I wouldn't stop anyone else from doing it if they wanted to!

For another example, you could say why would anyone enjoy pain during sex, pain in most situations is a bad thing to experience - and yet quite a lot of people do like it. As long as it's all consensual, what's the problem? :)

Ephiny · 27/01/2011 12:20

I would not tolerate this personally, it seems very demeaning and disrespectful to me and really can't see how there could be any pleasure in it for either of us. Am I missing the point?

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