What do women really think of this?

[MakeYerOwnDamnDinner]

I was reading the thread about blowjobs last night and was interested to read womens horrified reactions to the idea of a man ejaculating on a womans face.

Even some mumsnetters who are quite open about their own slightly kinky sexual preferences seemed to feel that this was beyond the pale.

From what I understand it is an extremely common male desire/fantasy.

I'm not judging anyones opinion, I'd just like to open a discussion about why it's deemed to be so much "worse" than a man ejaculating in a womans mouth, or anywhere else for that matter.

Apologies if it's a little early in the day/week. But I would like to know what other womens honest opinions are on this matter.

MYODD

I totally get what you are saying

SGB makes some good points

If I examine very carefully some of the practices I am happy to partake in, it doesn't stand up from a purely feminist viewpoint

I think the difference for me , is that I am in a relationship based on trust and respect, with many years on the clock

if some of the dickheads I have slept with in the past had suggested certain stuff, my response would have been very different

so if some particular acts in the bedroom appear to reinforce male-dominant stereotypes, maybe I am applying double standards by enjoying them ?

I dunno

all I know is, my husband respects me, lots of men respect women, but lots of men don't

it has o be an individual decision, in an individual relationship

if something doesn't feel right it almost certainly isn't

if you are happy, enjoying yourself, not coerced and feel safe and cherished irrespective of your sexlife, then all is good

IMO

gawd...newly on the dating scene

fucking minefield I would say

if you are clear where your boundaries are though, I don't see a problem

but make sure you are very clear

I went out with a guy who was into this.

Looking back he had serious Madonna/whore ishoos. I learned a lot from him: never trust a man who slags off his ex on a first date. Be very wary of men who attempt to sweep you off your feet. That kind of thing.

Has put me right off, I can tell you.

well yes, jenai

but really you should have binned that guy off before it got to the cumming-on-the-face stage

Yes AF. What you, SGB and a lot of other posters are saying sounds sensible to me.

It's been helpful for me to chew this over as it were.

And you're not wrong about todays dating scene being a fucking minefield either. You'd be forgiven for thinking that all the men on dating sites were in fact partying together at one big roman style wank fest.

Belieber - I detest spitting and can't understand the life of me why people do it at all, let alone in a sexual scenario , however, I know that some people are into humiliation and being spat on (and worse) is their kink - although it does make me wonder if they are emotionally damaged in some way, I'm afraid I would judge a man who enjoyed humiliating his partner in that way.

really, MYODD ?

a roman syle wankfest

thank fuck I am happily-married, and can be a durty burd in safety

AF it didn't last long. And to make matters worse, he binned me

Even worse, I then attempted to get him back

Then a couple of months later he did the exact same thing with someone else. All so very predictable.

The thought of men stood around mass wanking a la Bukkake, creeps me out. -

This was a looooong time ago I should add. I was young and fucking stupid.

jenai...lucky escape

never mind who binned who

just be thankful you will recognise the "type" in future

fuck, yes

I have done some utterly stupid things where blokes are concerned

It's all gone to make us the fully rounded sages we are today

Bloody hell though, thinking back to me almost begging him to give it another chance makes me cringe. Good grief!

I do a good line in cringing...

if I knew my younger self now, I would give her a fucking slap

Oh god yeah. And me. You live and learn... you live and learn...

I don't like it due to previous experience with my exH. He asked if he could cum on my chest and then 'accidentally' came on my face. No warning and in my eyes. Not a happy bunny. He also tried to 'accidentally' slip it in the back door with no prep (condom or lube) but by then I was wise to it! So the connotations are negative to me.

slipping it in, OUCH!

"slipping it in" accidentally-on-purpose is just disrespectful and says bad things about a man's approach to his partner

am glad that bloke is your ex, trans

Mal, I quite like that idea actually

God, some men are really shit in bed.

AnyFucker, he was very accident prone - he accidentally fell and impaled himself on a colleague, which is why he is my ex!

Lost...what a stupid twat

you are well rid, it sounds like

and you sound fab

I watched this today and found it really interesting. It's about how pornography is influencing the sexual practises of younger men who have grown up with access to free porn on the internet. She talks about exactly this subject: coming on partner's face.

If you have a spare 5 mins it's worth a look. Her makelovenotporn website is really good too.

blog.ted.com/2009/12/02/cindy_gallop_ma/

good call, MW, have see that before

seen

Thanks AnyFucker