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What do women really think of this?

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MakeYerOwnDamnDinner · 27/01/2011 11:31

I was reading the thread about blowjobs last night and was interested to read womens horrified reactions to the idea of a man ejaculating on a womans face.

Even some mumsnetters who are quite open about their own slightly kinky sexual preferences seemed to feel that this was beyond the pale.

From what I understand it is an extremely common male desire/fantasy.

I'm not judging anyones opinion, I'd just like to open a discussion about why it's deemed to be so much "worse" than a man ejaculating in a womans mouth, or anywhere else for that matter.

Apologies if it's a little early in the day/week. But I would like to know what other womens honest opinions are on this matter.

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bestmamaderwelt · 27/01/2011 13:16

If i have some prior warning, fine. However this happened to me on a one night stand in some public toilets (i now classy right) and i was not happy. Think maybe the water needs to be tested before coming all over some ones face.

bestmamaderwelt · 27/01/2011 13:18

And yes it is a bugger to get out, my favorite top is ruined

batman47555 · 27/01/2011 13:18

its great when a woman knows how to control a man
take him to the second before cumming, then stop!!!!!

BelleBelicious · 27/01/2011 13:19

Bestmama! LOL! One for the grandchildren.

Butterbur · 27/01/2011 13:20

PMSL, bestmamaderwelt!

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 13:23

I agree malificence, other peoples sex lives are fascinating! I love talking about stuff like this, not in a kinky way, but it is just soo interesting. And sometimes, when you maybe think your sex life is average and then you hear what others won't do, I realise that I am quite a good shag/

Serendippy · 27/01/2011 13:40

Isn't it shocking how some people don't remember to stop and ask about preferance when having a quick shag in a public tiolet

bestmamaderwelt · 27/01/2011 13:51

Haha no relly the point is i thought one night sex was supposed to be pretty basic? wham bam sorta stuff?

batman47555 · 27/01/2011 13:56

yerrrrrrr, but surely if a one night stand turned into the best sex you had ever had, you would do your best to contact the person and move on to something more regular!

deemented · 27/01/2011 14:00

I wish i'd known how much it bloody stings when it gets in the eye...

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 14:01

I have had one night stands in the past and absolutely no way was it the best sex that i have ever had! Fun at the time, but not particularly that satisfying.

bestmamaderwelt · 27/01/2011 14:04

ah im not sure i understand, so are you saying this man came all over my face so i didnt start stalking him? As far as im concerned i wouldnt have sex straight away with some one i intended to start a relationship with.

JustForThisOne · 27/01/2011 14:04

can I ask a question not related to OP?
after a great one night stand ...
who should be making the phone call?
'cause I had once a great all nighter, he wanted me to sleep over but i caught a cab
I did want to repeat but never called and never did he....

deemented · 27/01/2011 14:05

One nighter.

The hints in the name

JustForThisOne · 27/01/2011 14:06

ps: I am asking because ''where I come from'' there is NO Way a bloke had good sex will not call the day after (not necessarily a good thing)

StuffingGoldBrass · 27/01/2011 14:10

Sex isn't inherently about male dominance and female submission just because some people like it that way. That's as daft as saying sex is inherently about making babies. Rubbish. Penis-in-vagina sex is about making babies, all the rest of it is about pleasure and enjoyment, and who gets to be in charge of any sexual encounter is up to the participants to decide.

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 14:12

I have sex with my dp the night i met him. He gave me his number, plus he arranged to meet me a few days later

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 14:12

I had sex, should I say.

JustForThisOne · 27/01/2011 14:13

well Carmen obviously that was Luuuuv
Not talking about romance and potential relationship
just casual fling but more than once iyswim

BelleBelicious · 27/01/2011 14:15

Bestmama, why wouldn't you have sex straight away with someone you wanted a relationship with?

On another website, one bloke said he would never give a girl oral sex on a ONS or really bother with her at all, as if she was a ONS he wouldn't see her again and didn't care if she enjoyed it.

It's sort of the reason I never had a ONS with a stranger. I don't mind being a notch on the bedpost if it's mutually pleasurable, but hate the thought if I was just vaguely preferable to a wank.

Serendippy · 27/01/2011 14:15

bestmamaderwelt Thu 27-Jan-11 14:04:04
ah im not sure i understand, so are you saying this man came all over my face so i didnt start stalking him? As far as im concerned i wouldnt have sex straight away with some one i intended to start a relationship with.

And he probably wouldn't come all over the face of someone he intended to start a relationship with. As you say, one night stand is about getting as much fun as you can, selfish.

bestmamaderwelt · 27/01/2011 14:17

each to there own in my case the chap in question was younger than me! And i guess i was a groupy so nothing was going to come of it.

carmenelectra · 27/01/2011 14:21

justforthisone, well I think a casual fling would be fine if the sex had been that good. Not sure who would call though. Think IF it were me, I would leave it to the bloke.Otherwise I could maybe look like a sad stalker who was desperate for a boyfriend. Or he might have thought i was rubbish so I wouldnt contact him!!

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MakeYerOwnDamnDinner · 27/01/2011 14:27

I really appreciate all the honest replies everyone - it's interesting to see what others views are.

Can always rely on you lot to tell it how it is!

I can certainly see peoples point as well in saying that politics entering the bedroom can rather take the joy out of things, but the personal is political as far as I'm concerned, especially when it comes to gender politics. It's there in our kitchens and I'm afraid it's there in our bedrooms as well. That's just what I think - I don't expect everyone to agree.

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msboogie · 27/01/2011 14:28

The mechanics of sexual intercourse (apart from when the woman is on top or otherwise in control) between most mammals including humans is of course based on male domination. I'm only talking about the mechanics of it though, not all the other possibilities of power and control.

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