Right then.
Now. Sit back with a coffee and I'll tell you all the story again and whats happened since.
7 months ago DH left. Told me he was working in Cornwall for a job that would have given us enough money to validate the visas we had for a move to Australia.
He called me up and told me all about this job and who he was working with and what the job was about. 2 days later he calles again and says he's in Australia and isnt coming back. All because I'd lost the engagement ring but told him I'd sold it to pay a couple of debts that were getting stressful. I know I shouldnt have lied but I felt at the time it would have releived a little pressure off him.
After loads of phone calls to almost everyone I know, no-one knew a thing. Not even his parents.
Now, cutting a long story short, he's done something like this before but not to this extent, before I met him. His parents had to sit me down the day after I found out and tell me all about him and his past.
2 weeks later I get a repossssion order and I had to be out of the house in 4 weeks as he hadnt been paying the mortgage. He's been taking the wages out that I have earnt and put them into a seperate account.
I managed to get that delayed while the local coucil were looking into buying the house.
I got back in contact with him and after he explained everything I was prepared to give it another go - but something wasnt sitting right with me.
He paid the migration agent for mine and the kids visas and was looking for a house for us all to live in so he was saying and doing all the right things.
The council are disputing something in the paperwork about the house so that is still on going, I've been paying the mortgage and over the amount on time on my own for the last 7 months. The bills are nearly all up to date and the debts are being delt with.
Now. As I said before, while I was planning to give it another go with DH something was still nagging at me, but I couldnt put my finger on it until 3 weeks ago.
I called him up and asked if there were any books or photos he wanted putting to one side as I was having a clear out. His response was No thanks, I bought all the important things with me when I left. He didnt even have any of the kids photos with him as I had to send them to him.
Then, a couple of days later he asked if I would be offended if he went to China for a holiday.
You will be glad to know a week later I ended it with him but apparently according to a mutal friend (that he says he hasnt spoken to) he doesnt understand why.
Now I'm here, on my own with the kids who are quite happy at the idea of staying here DS especially. I'm still dealing with the mortgage but I'm getting there, I'm starting a course on basic food hygine so I can get into the career I want and I am slowly getting back on my feet. I am also getting DS seen so we can find out once and for all what is wrong with him mentally as something isnt right and I can get on with my life, decorate the house, buy things, replace things, learnt to drive...there is soo much I can do now.
My life has been on hold for the past 4 years, living and breathing Australia, now such a weight has been lifted I havent stopped smiling. I'm still stressed, tired, worried and scared but I'm happy with it. The kids are happier too.
So...that's pretty much it. There is one more thing but I dont want to jinx it and he has his split to deal with. 