Right I?ve put the boy down for his nap so I can a) catch up with you lovely ladies and b) actually get dressed, as I?m still in my PJ?s 
Clearly still in the holiday spirit here, as DD doesn?t start nursery until 13th Jan. Presumably they?re staggering the new intake for this term.
Crazee ? it must be so so hard with your elder DD living with your H 
No wise words here but lots of sympathy and ((hugs)) I often took my rings off and put them back on again as I oscillated between not wanting to wear them but then not wanting questions asked in the early days. Much harder for you as you do not have closure, so it?s hard to decide what?s best. Hope the first day back goes ok and if you bump into your H things go ok. I?d try not to read too much into anything he does, as he has ishoos.
Makedo - I remember being in your stage, I wish there was a magic button to fast forward that stage. We could sell it and make millions. Sending you strength. Loving the description of giving birth too and comparing to this life and moving on.
LC ? ((hugs)) from me too, great advice from Googoo and Getting. I agree wholeheartedly with WWIFN. She who knows your full story and has walked with you from the beginning. She speaks so much sense, but sometimes I have felt like you in the past for a short while, luckily soon enough my H would do something hideous again and remind me why I was relieved it was over in a way, despite wanting things to be how they once were. You sound like you?re maybe suffering agoraphobia, which my brother has, please speak to your GP again lovely.
Wherecanihide ? Yes I went through a stage of hating holiday adverts. Now I cannot wait for my cheapy holiday with Butlins in April as my H was such a misery actually and a kill joy at times and couldn?t be arsed to do all the things I?d like to do when away. And he?d moan about being tired etc once we had kids and wouldn?t help me or get out of bed half the time. Now I can dictate the whole holiday and just enjoy it with my DCs. I?m also going away abroad in June thanks to a good friend whose booked it for me and paid, it is for one plus adult too, so I?ll find a good friend to come along and help. My two are too young to drive a long way without help still. But logistically I get nervous before big trips now but things always seem to work out ok.
Longdarktunnel ? yep my ex H?s OW was a family friend, came and stayed with us, held my kids, bathed them, came to their christening, all whilst shagging my H. I had some very interesting dreams about giving her a piece of my mind and assaulting her in the early days 
and I am not like that at all. I was never that fond of her either but tried to get along as my H felt sorry for her in her younger years etc. I?ve never spoken to her since the affair came out as I felt it would achieve nothing as she?d not take on board my feelings or be remorseful and it would be a waste of time. My ex H did eventually give me a blow by blow account of the truth all whilst squirming like a worm on a hook, it did bring me closure but hurt at the time but it wasn?t until 5 months after separation.
Fairy I believe the mortgage help doesn?t begin straight away and you have to wait a few months, so ring your mortgage company and ask to go on a payment break until it kicks in. C&G were very kind to me and were fine with that. But there?s no shame in benefits. I am on income support, healthy start vouchers, tax credits and housing benefit and it is what feeds my family and keeps a roof over my head right now. As my feckless ex H barely supports me.
Patience ? ?why can?t you just be happy, I?ve moved on? get over it? That is so hurtful as well as his nasty abusive texts and phonecalls. Your MIL?s comments when she hardly ever saw you or DCs when she lived 30 mins away are probably based on what her son has told her as well. Very hard. I?d find it very hard not to get angry with the injustice on the lack of financial support, opting out of it all, hardly seeing the kids and then turning up and playing happy families. You?re a diamond my love and I?m sending you massive ((hugs)) hope the return to routine and school runs etc helps today a little. My MIL told my H years ago when we were first married that if he wasn?t satisfied with me, he could go out and get it elsewhere 
I do sometimes wonder if she helped to place the thoughts in his mind, his dysfunctional mum and her marriage to his dad didn?t help either.
Getting ? your ex H is charming isn?t he? 
You stand your ground and stay put until you find the right place for you and the DCs close to the school. He?s a cheeky blighter. The Summer hols comments must hurt too. I?m going to find it very hard if H settles into life more with OW lives with her and they start doing that.
Good to hear from you Sov.